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The most important decision a woman will ever make is

117 replies

Bottlefall · 14/10/2025 15:04

Who the father of her children will be.

I'd love to think it isn't true, but it is. Who the mother of a man's children is important, but it doesn't impact every aspect of their life, career, health, financial situation in the same way.

OP posts:
didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 14/10/2025 15:06

Poppadoms or bread?

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 14/10/2025 15:06

I think it’s when she chooses to use birth control.

fruitbrewhaha · 14/10/2025 15:07

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 14/10/2025 15:06

Poppadoms or bread?

Both please, and pilau rice.

YourPeppyAmberTraybake · 14/10/2025 15:08

fruitbrewhaha · 14/10/2025 15:07

Both please, and pilau rice.

Triple carbs, I like your style.

hyggetyggedotorg · 14/10/2025 15:08

I think it’s whether to have children at all.

Arlanymor · 14/10/2025 15:08

I can't have kids. So I guess none of my decisions are important. Good to know.

Redpeach · 14/10/2025 15:08

Do birth control fails come in to this?

youalright · 14/10/2025 15:08

To get out of bed to pee at 4am in the middle of winter or hold it and not be able to sleep.

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:09

What about those women who never have children?

beanbaggirs · 14/10/2025 15:10

It's probably whether they even have dc or not

TwoTuesday · 14/10/2025 15:11

Equally as important as it is for a man to choose a mum for his kids I'd say.
For a woman it's deciding to be dependent on said man, or not.

AutumnCosy2025 · 14/10/2025 15:11

youalright · 14/10/2025 15:08

To get out of bed to pee at 4am in the middle of winter or hold it and not be able to sleep.

Get out of bed & pee. You'll only half sleep if you don't. I'm trying to remember this now I'm on medication that makes me wake up needing a wee in the night when without the medication I don't 🙇🏻‍♀️

LandSharksAnonymous · 14/10/2025 15:11

youalright · 14/10/2025 15:08

To get out of bed to pee at 4am in the middle of winter or hold it and not be able to sleep.

This is the ultimate question.

To pee or not to pee.

Catpiece · 14/10/2025 15:12

Whether to accept how it is and buy the next size up

Productiveam · 14/10/2025 15:12

Dealing with a dodgy crap ex I take it op

SparklyCardigan · 14/10/2025 15:12

Should I have another biscuit? To which the answer is always yes.

PegDope · 14/10/2025 15:14

How insulting.

Reducing women to breeding heifers.

What about those who don’t want/can’t have children? I ask that as a woman with a child btw.

mamagogo1 · 14/10/2025 15:14

@youalright

Grin so true!

I think knowing when to call it a day on marriage is a huge question

Lavenderandbrown · 14/10/2025 15:16

What type of education they pursue….leading to all their future job opportunities. I really don’t agree with the man who fathers part. I wish I had chosen a different father (but of course had the same exact dc😉) but having my solid education and career made divorcing him a difficult time for me and my dc but not in it a trajectory changing kind of way.

squashyhat · 14/10/2025 15:16

hyggetyggedotorg · 14/10/2025 15:08

I think it’s whether to have children at all.

Yup

frozendaisy · 14/10/2025 15:19

It's a very important decision. Yes. And one I took very seriously and don't regret a moment, still together, still parenting the only two teens either of us have. It's just not complicated. Difficult at times but not complicated.

Mizztikle · 14/10/2025 15:24

Yes it is important to chose the right man however, Its more important to be sure of yourself. Men can and do change, the man you got pregnant with is not always the same man you get as a father trust me.

JHound · 14/10/2025 15:24

Arlanymor · 14/10/2025 15:08

I can't have kids. So I guess none of my decisions are important. Good to know.

I don't have children so I guess none of my decisions are important either!

Friendlygingercat · 14/10/2025 15:27

Whether to have children or not.

inamo · 14/10/2025 15:28

To be able at all times to paddle her own canoe.