The most important decision a woman will ever make is

[Bottlefall]

Who the father of her children will be.

I'd love to think it isn't true, but it is. Who the mother of a man's children is important, but it doesn't impact every aspect of their life, career, health, financial situation in the same way.

Having sex without being prepared to have an abortion afterwards is, of course.

Oh god, that season is upon us soon

I don't understand what you mean in the second part of your post, but I don't see how the first part disagrees with my post that you quoted. Having the baby and not staying with the 10 minute shag guy may be exactly the right decision if he's a deadbeat and you are ready, willing and able to be a single parent. Choosing not to enter into a ltr (for now at least) is often the wiser choice imo (certainly judging by many of the threads on the Relationship board).

As a lesbian I chose wisely about who would be my child's other mother. 😂

Peshwari or plain Naan though?

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Couldn’t agree more, the number one piece of advice I would give to my daughters, not just for their own lives which can be eventually recovered but the impact on their children is lifelong, speaking from experience

To decide how to use her time on this earth. Whether that’s motherhood, a career, a profession like teaching , caring for others, pursuing a passion , spirituality , finding simple ways to enjoy this one life and not take it too seriously.

Choosing whether to remain financially independent or to become reliant on a man.

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You've not been interviewed on the Off Menu podcast then!

This. The question of who fathers your children is only the most important one if you become wholly dependent on that person financially.

I’m not going to pretend it is irrelevant because it’s not; clearly it’s something which has the potential to enhance or dilute the quality of your life significantly.

But its only a life limiting step if you let it. If you have the means to support yourself independently you have choices.

Op wasn’t talking about people who don’t want children, she was talking about people who do.

To keep working and to make money to support themselves and their children.

I would agree with this.

I trained for a skill that was pretty unknown at the time (despite my mother wanting me to be a teacher "just think of all those holidays" she said ! ) and it had the ability to be self-employed.

So while I wasn't making a mint I was able to support myself and could leave a marriage to a lazy and entitled husband, and survive.

The ability to have second job that you can do from home and pays well is massive.

I followed my Dad’s example and I trained in accountancy and further learnt skills in systems and IT. I've never been short of work, and always had a second job that fits around my life and 3 kids. If I need extra money I can always find it, plus it's mostly home working so less stressful.

I have a friend who is a high earner in a senior job but her life was nearly destroyed by her children’s father. He coercively controlled her and when she ended it he disappeared for a few years. Hurrah. He then reappeared wanting 50/50 custody of the kids but was abusive to them so they didn’t want to go. He alleged they didn’t want to see him because of parental alienation and the courts believed him and threatened her with losing residency of them.

it was a living nightmare for 2 years. It’s been partially resolved now but she still has to do parent with him for another 12 years. The da
age he’s done the kids won’t be undone easily.

so yes, I agree with the OP.