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Husbands chastity cage

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

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SabrinaThwaite · 18/09/2025 23:23

PuggyPuggyPuggy · 18/09/2025 22:34

How did you google it when you didn't know what it was? What did you type in the search bar?

Google lens?

This is a chastity cage or a ferret transporter. Either way, you wouldn’t want to risk putting your todger in there.

Sorry OP.

Sportsdaywinner · 18/09/2025 23:24

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/09/2025 21:24

Is it definitely a chastity cage? Do you have any pets? Could it be to transport a small rodent?

Bit of a shock for you but it sounds like you may soon be going your separate ways so I'd decide beforehand how much of an issue this is for you.

😂

hadjustaboutenough · 18/09/2025 23:25

I'd think he's a freaky weirdo and suspect him of cheating in one form or another. And then, especially given that things haven't been good between you for a long time, I'd prepare for divorce.

WatchingTheDetective · 18/09/2025 23:25

It sounds so so there is financial abuse going on as well. There's absolutely nothing down for this man! Make sure you warn your solicitor that he will fight dirty.

Poppyseed14 · 18/09/2025 23:26

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/09/2025 21:24

Is it definitely a chastity cage? Do you have any pets? Could it be to transport a small rodent?

Bit of a shock for you but it sounds like you may soon be going your separate ways so I'd decide beforehand how much of an issue this is for you.

A small rodent 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

LastPieceOfThePuzzle · 18/09/2025 23:32

Bingowingsincoming · 18/09/2025 23:11

Absolutely this. Some weirdo bloke getting a kick off women talking about this subject with him, and it amazes me that people engage with it.

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Yep. Just another creepy bloke.

NotToday1l · 18/09/2025 23:34

HelloHattie · 18/09/2025 21:28

Picture or it didn’t happen! I want to see what one looks like

Agree, we need a photo

NeverDropYourMooncup · 18/09/2025 23:37

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:30

I actually posted a link to it in an earlier post but MN blocked it!!!!!

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Well, you weren't really supposed to ask him to model it for you, were you?

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 18/09/2025 23:38

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:32

Thank u for your comment but this did make me laugh 🤣. Nope no pets. And it is a very obviously phallic shaped CAGE with a padlock on it. I had to Google it myself but it was clearly penis shaped!!!

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"I had to Google it myself"

Did you aye?

OP= "Google, what is this metal thing in my husband's wardrobe?"
GOOGLE= ....................................?

🐬

14HoursToSaveTheEarth · 18/09/2025 23:42

Maybe he just likes the feeling of wearing it. Quite a few men do. I think this is something you need to ask your husband about, but it does not mean he is gay and does not mean he is having an affair.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 23:48

LastPieceOfThePuzzle · 18/09/2025 23:32

Yep. Just another creepy bloke.

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This is actually making me laugh now 🤣

I fucking wish I was joking lol

Look back at my previous posts then. Idiots

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Lostinbrum · 18/09/2025 23:49

God put this relationship if that's what you can still call it, out of its misery. This is the kick up the bum you need to finish it

ChaliceinWonderland · 18/09/2025 23:52

Oh and what's a douche bulb?

viques · 18/09/2025 23:55

I am not going to google it. Instead I am going to believe most sincerely that what the OP has found is a rather esoteric Sunday supplement wire egg holder. That way I will sleep soundly tonight.

momtoboys · 18/09/2025 23:58

This is the best post we have had in a long time! It’s brilliant! Even better because OP isn’t devastated and can enjoy it along with us!

Wadadli · 19/09/2025 00:02

ButSheSaid · 18/09/2025 21:31

Does it have the water dispenser bottle and some enrichment textures and toys inside? A little bell, etc.
Hopefully the hamster isn't included.

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Or gerbil! 🐹

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:02

BeShyPlumLeader · 18/09/2025 21:21

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Never in my life have I heard of a chastity cage (my god i must be so vanilla) so I googled it, and my lord my eyes hurt 👀 🍆 😆

I have read all of the OP comments and I feel for you, it's baffling really. I have no words 😕
Why a man would put his junk in jail I will never know? Delayed arousal perhaps? 🤔

I would deffo get my ducks in a row if I were you.
🦆🦆🦆

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:06

ChaliceinWonderland · 18/09/2025 23:52

Oh and what's a douche bulb?

Oh my god, my eyes hurt from goggling 👀 🍐 😆
It's a weird pear shaped thingy with a long straw tube at the top.
Looks like a device that would possibly used in an enema?
I'm assuming its to clear out the A-hole? 😬 🍫 ⭐️

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:06

momtoboys · 18/09/2025 23:58

This is the best post we have had in a long time! It’s brilliant! Even better because OP isn’t devastated and can enjoy it along with us!

Lol some of the posts have genuinely made me laugh out loud

No not devastated. A bit sad in a way as it's like a final nail in the coffin and I know I really have to do something now. It's not all in my mind, and it's not all my fault.

But I agree this thread has been entertaining which I didn't foresee lol

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:07

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:06

Oh my god, my eyes hurt from goggling 👀 🍐 😆
It's a weird pear shaped thingy with a long straw tube at the top.
Looks like a device that would possibly used in an enema?
I'm assuming its to clear out the A-hole? 😬 🍫 ⭐️

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No I think you're looking at something else. It was literally a metal penis shaped cage 🤷‍♀️

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MissCallaneous · 19/09/2025 00:08

EchoedSilence · 18/09/2025 21:24

Oh really?

Any particular reason you don't believe OP? These scenarios do happen.

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BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:08

viques · 18/09/2025 23:55

I am not going to google it. Instead I am going to believe most sincerely that what the OP has found is a rather esoteric Sunday supplement wire egg holder. That way I will sleep soundly tonight.

That must be it!!! Sweet dreams 😴

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viques · 19/09/2025 00:09

Wadadli · 19/09/2025 00:02

Or gerbil! 🐹

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Do they come in different sizes? Gerbil, hamster, Guinea pig, ferret……

Wadadli · 19/09/2025 00:10

viques · 19/09/2025 00:09

Do they come in different sizes? Gerbil, hamster, Guinea pig, ferret……

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🦡

Littlejellyuk · 19/09/2025 00:14

BeShyPlumLeader · 19/09/2025 00:07

No I think you're looking at something else. It was literally a metal penis shaped cage 🤷‍♀️

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No I meant the douche bulb 😆 🍐💦

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