Husbands chastity cage

[BeShyPlumLeader]

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

That made me spit my tea out 🤣🤣🤣🤣

From what I read - its a control thing. Someone else has the key to it and it's to stop them getting an erection.

Ffs I can't believe I'm even writing this

No self-respecting rodent would want to get into that

I found two of these during the course of my relationship (since ended), and it often used in a sub/dom relationship. My ex was using it online to have video calls and chats in X/Twitter. Like many others have asserted, there is often a ‘key holder’ that will only allow someone to get unlocked in exchange for servitude or payment. My ex spent all the money for our wedding and circa £40k. He also took out credit cards that I didn’t know about at the time, and changed bank accounts to hide his actions. It was truly devastating and ended our relationship. It is a world that I knew nothing about prior to finding it, and frankly, I hope never to know of it again. It’s so destructive, not to mention costly.
Do credit checks on yourself and assess your financial health generally. It often escalates to an addiction and so there may be debts you are not aware of.
p.s. having picked up one of these items from a wardrobe, I can confirm, not suitable for transporting small animals!

How did you google it when you didn't know what it was? What did you type in the search bar?

Hes making lemonade from lemons. Id superglue the lock out of spite if hes passive aggressive

the one my friend has you squeeze your balls one at a time through the ring (about cock ring size) then the cage closes over cock quite snugly and there is a metal piece that screws in to hold it all together.

@Emptyandsad it stops them getting hard, although they can still get a little hard but are constrained. Can be used by themselves but they prefer their partner to hold the key, think dom/sub. If they are good they get "released" and can orgasm normally.

Oh, get you. Sorry, it sounds really niche to me and not something a friend would give as a joke.

You genuinely sound like you'd be better off without him. But because of the whole situation, not just your discovery. I am constantly surprised by peoples predilections, this isn't something you're sharing in together and enjoying as a couple. In fact it doesn't sound as though you're enjoying anything as a couple, which is the real problem here.

Why have you not had sex in so long? Was it due to him being selfish in bed?
Chastity cages are festish/S&M gear. Most likely he is watching extreme porn that has a domanatrix or "master". Also likely that he using that chat rooms and fetist sites.
That he'd never let you near his phone is a red flag, he's hiding more.
So sorry op. Why are men.

I don't think this is the case.

Things like this are actually quite expensive, not something you'd buy just as a joke. And if it were a joke - you'd think he would have told you or thrown it out, not hid it at the back of the closet..

Surely she'd have all that equipment in her own place though, I didn't think a submissive would have to bring his own cage!

So what I know about it I'm not sure!

Hmm... I wonder if his reason for point blank refusing to discuss anything to do with separation / divorce, is because he knows he would likely have to declare all of his outgoings/bank statements to me - and I would obviously see payments to that kind of service wouldn't I!?

I know he went to see a solicitor (because I told him I had, and he should too). They likely would have told him he'd have to do that.

I've no idea what one is, and am too scared to search, but I guess if I found something really odd I'd google image search?

At best it’s an only fans type set up where they’ll be teasing him etc whilst he’s caged then they decide when he’s allowed to ‘release’, at worst it’s someone in person.

either way you know you’re so much better off without him

If you are a keeper of the rodent family then I would suggest keeping this particular “cage” out of their sight. It won’t end well for rodent or man

Oh ouch! I looked them up. Amazon sells them. Other pages give How to Measure guides. Doesn't that last ring hurt?

Not if the domanatrix or master told him to buy it. It would be part of the role, telling a manly man to embarrass himself buying it. (I wish I didn't know about this stuff).

Yes!!! That's what it had! These ring attachment things

I Googled "metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy"

Easy peasy.

Like what a pet rat or a iguana 😂😂😂

They are quite expensive and the really good ones are specially made, they need all sorts of measurements to make it fit the meat and veg. (Like @DontStopMeNowGoodTime I wish I didn't know about this stuff either!!!)

I googled it and I'm none the wiser how it's worn.😹🐹

Honestly, why do you care then? Seems like you live separate lives in the same house.

But yeah, my vote is in on a Domme somewhere.