Husbands chastity cage

[BeShyPlumLeader]

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Except for the shocking cages.
Yeah they are a thing as well!

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Omg!!! I actually love this idea 🤣 bit of deep heat lol

Definitely do this!

Hope you manage to extract yourself OP. He sounds like a nightmare.

Nope no access to his bank account. Everything has always been kept very separate. I wondered if it could be some kind of Only Fans type thing?

‘I’ll take the house, half your pension and the savings accounts’ might be a good starting point.

Yes, definitely wrap the divorce papers round a banana and hang it in the kitchen.

Hes a sissy, which is why your sex life is dead - no shagging for old times sake.

@BeShyPlumLeader Personally I wouldn't mention it to him. Get ducks in a row and be prepared for him to not be amicable and start to get really, really nasty. He could be a troubled individual.

What support network have you got locally? Family nearby?

Nice to have Scottish representation here, but what is this referring to?

Hahaha that's brilliant. And slightly odd he told u this on the dog walk (but who am I to judge 🤣)

I know someone who got one for the first time recently. Into sissy porn, came out as gay after a long marriage. Have discussed at length how he uses it for self play. Not being able to get hard while being stimulated elsewhere is mind blowing apparently.

If I'm honest part of the reason I haven't said anything is because of exactly this. I suspect he would get nasty (in his usual passive aggressive way) and attempt to drag my name through the mud. But I have this in my locker now don't I....

I was going to ask you this, actually! Strange that he came across as more dominant, but then I guess some people switch depending on the partner.

I can remember when my first husband and I were still living together but separated and I found his hardcore porn stash. I was a bit pissed off to be honest because I object to porn full stop, but when I thought about it I decided that as we weren't sleeping together and never would be again, it was up to him really.

It's totally natural to be shocked/curious OP, but if you are definitely planning to leave I really don't think you need to do anything about this. Either put it back where you found it, or if you think there is a genuine risk the kids might find it (though would they know what it was?) you maybe need to fess up to finding it and ask him to be more discrete in future.

Did you have a legit reason to go in his wardrobe, or could you invent one? Not judging you for snooping (It's not ideal I have done so before in similar circumstances to satisfy my curiosity). But he will likely be very pissed off - I have bought sex toys for my own use when getting ready to leave a relationship (vibes etc) and wouldn't have been happy if partner had "confronted"me about them.

So the penis goes in the cage and the balls hang outside 🤔?

Same!

Was the bondage equipment something that was a part of your marriage, or is that also a shock? Because it seems to me like the bondage equipment and the chastity cage seem like they go together, and I'm surprised that you've just thrown the bondage part in as a bit of an afterthought.

Oow im thinking flower arragement. Few flowers places through cage in his bedroom.....

I don’t think there’s much point confronting him. My bet is that he is seeing someone, or many someone’s, in the flesh or online. Either way it’s time to get rid.

Sorry to answer your question - I am very lucky to have a lot of support family wise. I have a fairly decent job and I'm very ambitious so I think things would work out in the end... but I suspect it'll be hard for a while

He has a lot of family support too. They all think he's a bloody saint 🙄

No sorry - the chastity cage IS the bondage equipment. I haven't found anything else like that. And no it was never part of our sex life

WTF???

OK - so nobody thinks it could be a joke present from a friend? I'm not saying I do, but I thought that's what people would tell me they'd think and I was being overly suspicious. But obviously not...

"Could it be to transport a small rodent?"

Fucking hell I've just nearly aspirated a corner of a Dorito 🤣🤣🤣 comment of the year

Ergh why are they all passive aggressive? They get nasty if you raise their so-called "kinks" during conversation/arguments so keep it quiet for now. If he finds out you know he'll tell you you prevented him from being who he is and is glad the divorce is happening.

Look up grey rocking, also make sure you get any financial paperwork for the divorce and speak to a solicitor. The aim is try to get this over and done with as quickly and painlessly as possible.

And I'm really sorry it's come to this - stay strong :-)

I'm so curious! What does one do with it once one is...inserted? Is it the kind of thing that you use by yourself or do you need someone else involved?

People's sexual predilections are endlessly fascinating