Husbands chastity cage

[BeShyPlumLeader]

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Me neither but am still giggling like a loon at the small rodent comment

He's gay

Ooo. I haven't heard of one of these. I must lead a sheltered life.. sorry this has happened to you.
I hope he can explain OP and hope all works out ok for you.

Well, the average dick is like a small ugly rodent, certainly never attractive. 😆

@RobertJohnsonsShoes you have made me literally splutter out my tea 😝 Thx as I needed a laugh today 😊

I'd say he is on OF like plenty of other foolish people men acting like a circus monkey preforming for the host.
They really are thick.

🤣😂😆

Haven’t read the full thread sorry but I got as far as the hamster cage comment. Then spotted this when I got to the bottom of the page 🤔🤣

LOL you know exactly what to think. Come off it.

What do u mean?

You know exactly what to think. I don’t buy this. You saw what you saw and you know exactly what to think. Give over.

Don’t know where my photo went sort. But it’s probably also on your ‘similar threads’ list…

@gillybean2 🤣🤣🤣

AI really isn’t that clued up, is it?!!

I really feel for the OP as her stbexh sounds like a - was going to say wanker, but it didn’t seem appropriate in the circumstances, - but this thread has had me laughing out loud.

DIL came over earlier for a cuppa. I showed her this thread. She fell about laughing & wants to know where she can buy a chastity cage for her 16 year old son (our oldest GC). She's worried that he may make a girl pregnant. She's buying him condoms, but, as she says, all she can do is shove some in his pocket as he leaves the house to go out & nag him to use them, but can't be there to make sure that he does. She thinks this is just the thing that's needed. 😂😂😂

Maybe its some sort of mouse or rat 🐀 trap..

It means he is seeing a dominatrix

Oh right. Well actually I genuinely didn't and wondered if it was likely it was some kind of joke. And wanted to know what others thought...

Believe me / don't believe me. I don't care. I feel knackered from thinking about it all

Oh right. Well actually I genuinely didn't and wondered if it was likely it was some kind of joke. And wanted to know what others thought...

Believe me / don't believe me. I don't care. I feel knackered from thinking about it all

I never heard of these things I didn't know they existed! I work with and worked with guys and have heard lots of rude chat but never heard if these and I had to google what one was..
what a strange contraption / odd abomination..
I do hope there's some kind of misunderstanding. Maybe its some kind of joke or something for a friends stag night or some silly joke.. i hope you manage to work things out and things work out ok for you..

I'd be so tempted to go with the Tiger Balm/ DeepHeat suggestion of a PP 😂

Imo, its bit too hard-core and niche (and probably too expensive) to be a 'joke' gift. Not something that is common in solo play either, it's a sub/dom thing, locking yourself up when you have the key doesn't have quite the same vibe. It suggests he is (or has) been having some kind of sexual relationship with another person.

And me 😂

It's not something blokes would talk about with each other in that context! It's very deeply linked to sexual submissiveness and in some contexts feminisation as well. I don't imagine that many of them have told a single IRL person (including, as in this case, their partners). Doesn't mean they're not doing it but they're certainly not joking about it unless it's an insult to another bloke, ime

Op, you tell your small dc not to go snooping in wardrobes so they won't find private items. Everyone is entitled to privacy.

I know this is unpleasant but what if he found a sex toy in your wardrobe? You'd probably tell him to myob.

Yes he's obviously into bdsm, as your marriage is over does it matter if it's this or a porn stash?

You haven't been intimate for years, you sleep separately. Use this find as motivation to split and move on. Good luck .

Maybe he’s using it for solo pleasure. Some men do like chastity cages, for solo play. It’s sort of denial of pleasure. If that makes sense? Could be something he’s in to that he hasn’t discussed with you, because he’s embarrassed? Don’t always jump to the worst case scenario.

Just ask him. I know I’d ask my DP, but we’re pretty open about toys/fantasies etc.

Also, it doesn’t mean he’s gay.

Some straight men are in to chastity play.

Also, we shouldn’t really be judging people based on their kinks, in 2025. As long as it’s not illegal (obviously), let people do what they want, in the privacy of their bedroom.