Husbands chastity cage

[BeShyPlumLeader]

I recently found a metal chastity cage (for a males anatomy) in my husbands cupboard. Obviously a bit of a shock.

For background - marriage isn't good, no sex for over 2 years, separate beds, talk of separating. Stayed together because of the kids tbh. I wouldn't be surprised if he was getting it elsewhere tbh. But a .... cage!? Wtf...

What would u think? I don't want to tell him I've found it (yet)

Bit of an aside here but it sickens me how many of you consider finding an obect in your own fucking house that you pay for and live in as snooping.

No. It's not fucking snooping even if it's in your "husbands" bedside drawer 🙄

Maybe he’s told someone at work or family he’s not had sex for ages so they bought him a chastity belt as a joke?

…which any reasonable man would put straight in the bin.

I'm always astonished at the posters who are unable to touch their own genitals. Apparently masturbation is off the menu but it completely normal to put your dick in an actual cage to control an erection.

My instinct is he is paying for sex and power-play forms part of the kink. Time to separate properly OP.

Wow really?!

I would really struggle if I had absolutely no privacy.

My bedside drawers are completely mine and I would find it so intrusive for someone to go through them.

I wouldn’t even go through my teens drawers, let alone another adults.

If it’s all someone else’s stuff then there’s absolutely no reason why anyone needs to go in there.

I think everyone needs to have their own private space.

I think I have lived a very sheltered life too! I have never seen or heard of a chastity cage. I don't want to Google it otherwise I will get pop ups and adverts on my pages forevermore. 🤣🤣

Well, to start it’s an anonymous forum - she hasn’t taken it down to the village square.

As to going through things - I’m not that fussed tbh, if the relationship is already this bad.

I would have carried on stupidly trying to save my marriage, without the proof snooping gave me. I spent a couple of years trying in vain to save something that couldn’t be saved because I knew something was wrong but not what. I didn’t even entertain the worst case scenario because I honestly don’t think he would cheat. The worst case scenario in my case was various affairs, at the same time a long term ‘girlfriend’ (his term), prostitution and endless, endless lap dancing bars. Once I started to get an inkling that there was more then just the stress of young children /difficult jobs at play, that he might actually be cheating, he lied and made me feel stupid for questioning him, at every turn. Every time I (stupidly) asked him.

I wanted to believe him, I wasn’t going to end the relationship because the trust was shaky. I don’t believe that the minute the trust is gone you walk out the door and break up a family. There are many reasons to doubt someone, you don’t give up on the relationship without processing all the angles. Proof finally gave me the strength to do something. Sometimes people need something physical to give them the push to change their situation.

Anyway. To my way of thinking there are sex toys, and then there are sex toys…

Sorry but this made me howl

Could it be to transport a small rodent? 😂😂😂

It does seem that you live separate lives in the same house.

Maybe time to have a business meeting with him to decide the way forward. Are we formally split up?

Sex toys whatever they are just need to be kept where nobody can find them when there are kids in the house.

And maybe stop snooping in his wardrobe.

This is inspired - it might make him much more willing to facilitate the divorce…. 😂

Well I sincerely hope my DP doesn’t go through my google search history!!!

I think you’ve all got it wrong though - he’s clearly got it for transporting bananas

The people who don't find it credible have likely led very sheltered lives.

I don’t think women generally hide their sex toys, and if they’re living a false life it’s demeaning to the one that doesn’t know what’s going on.

Is your teenage daughter also his teenage daughter, OP?

I ask because all the signs point to him being quite heavily into fetish, and I would be very uncomfortable having an unrelated teenage girl under the same roof as him, if that's the case. He's likely perving on her, at the very least. "Teenage" and "step-daughter" content is rife in porn.

Sorry but this is ridiculous.

Being into kink or fetish does not make someone a paedophile.

If a bloke posted a thread about finding his wife's vibrator then the response would be........And? He's not going to be torn to shreds, he's going to be told she's perfectly entitled to some me time and he needs to get over himself.

Finding a cock cage is a whole other ball game. A penis and ball game to be exact.

Me! I have led a very sheltered life. And I am thinking the heavens for it while reading this thread!

To scared to Google the weird rodent/willy cage or look up Locktober and fetlife, I think I'll retreat to the quiet calm of the gardening board.

Best of luck getting rid of your stb-ex, OP.

Sadly I doubt your DCs will be oblivious. My DC1 at age 6 announced to some visitors “Daddy shouts at Mummy and she doesn’t like it.” It’s not like it was a daily occurrence. At that point it was only occasional. We did actually talk to each other in a civil manner most of the time, even towards the end. (He was a narcissistic abuser who was big on coercive control)

I know this was yesterday, but thought I'd still add....

"If you are so perfect, and I am so horrible, then - why are you fighting to keep me?"

Fetish and porn stuff. Nasty.

Great arrangement though. Just take the advantage of the situation financially and parenting-wise and plan your exists.

OP, ignore the toy mouse suggestion. Get a friendly cat owner to give you a dead mouse, put it in the cage, leave a few days before complaining about the smell, drag husband to his wardrobe and......discover the source of the smell.
What the f is this ? should start the conversation.
Happy to help 🥰

@GlassofRosePorfavor dragon butter ? that's a new one to me can you give an inclination as to what it is.
Don't want to Google incase it's imprinted on my brain forever 👍😁

Yeah fair point.

What's a sissy cage?