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To be really worried about being single at 35

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Groolish · 20/06/2025 11:24

Just that really, what if I have lost my looks?

I was so pretty in my 20’s and early thirties and I feel so rubbish that my ex had all my best years and now I might end up single forever. Am I just having a bad day?

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SugarPlumpFairyCakes · 21/06/2025 23:25

Be single.

Love it.

Enjoy your freedom.

Relish everything that you can do. Without a second thought.

Run wild.

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 22/06/2025 15:57

MascaraGirl · 21/06/2025 18:34

Hoping it goes well!

It was fabulous, thank you and someone about the OP’s age stopped me in the street to say she liked my dress (which was nothing showy). I look my age, which is fine with me.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 22/06/2025 15:58

Old?! I looked the best I ever had at that age.45 now and long for 35 year old me

Groolish · 22/06/2025 16:04

PrincessHoneysuckle · 22/06/2025 15:58

Old?! I looked the best I ever had at that age.45 now and long for 35 year old me

This is what is making me think I might be depressed.

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PrincessHoneysuckle · 22/06/2025 16:09

Groolish · 22/06/2025 16:04

This is what is making me think I might be depressed.

You haven't lost your looks it'll be because you feel vulnerable and suddenly becoming single.Im sure you look great.

Disturbia81 · 22/06/2025 16:11

This thread is so alien to me. Who has made you feel like this OP!? Did your ex fill your head with these negative thoughts?
I feel better than I ever have at 44.
Men do not age in a better way than us. Anyone who looks after themselves can look good.

iamnotalemon · 22/06/2025 16:35

Kiwi83 · 21/06/2025 20:00

You've got a good 10 years before you really start to lose your looks 💐

Oh for goodness sakes!

Groolish · 23/06/2025 10:38

PrincessHoneysuckle · 22/06/2025 16:09

You haven't lost your looks it'll be because you feel vulnerable and suddenly becoming single.Im sure you look great.

Will it pass? I was fine a few months ago, I just feel a bit lost and depressed

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Disturbia81 · 23/06/2025 10:57

iamnotalemon · 22/06/2025 16:35

Oh for goodness sakes!

I know, what a ridiculous comment

Groolish · 23/06/2025 11:43

Also, part of me thinks I still love my ex as I am still absolutely devastated that he is with somebody else a year later

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