Just found a used condom in our bed...

[miniworry]

Well actually my DD aged 4 found it just as we came up to bed. 🤢 Literally just sat there in the packet at the top of the bed, still fresh liquid inside it.

Husband has been working from home today and has gone out on a works do for a few hours so I'm doing bedtime with the kids. I messaged him straight away saying WTF and he's just replied saying 'posh w*nk but I know that really doesn't help the situation I'm sorry babe'.

I don't think he's cheated because a) we have ring cameras on all 3 doors, there's been no gap in streaming all day and no one else in, and b) our bedroom is an absolute s* tip, the sheets are full of my fake tan from last night as I was changing them today and it looks just as much like Beirut in there as it did this morning.

We've got 2 young kids, one who is 1 and still isn't sleeping through and haven't had sex for about 3 weeks because quite frankly I just cba as I'm so tired..

But AIBU to be absolutely livid at the fact he's pleasuring himself whilst I am at work and b) that he left it there for my daughter to find!

Any advice on how I act when he returns home in a couple of hours would be greatly appreciated!

Tbh he sounds like he is actually sorry. Ask him to make it up to you 🤷‍♀️

Genuine accident it seems, maybe just remind him to clean up. Don’t see the issue with him pleasuring himself?

Pretty rank not to chuck it but sounds like he’s telling the truth.

Well who cares if he is pleasuring himself. It's perfectly natural.

However used condom on the bed - grim, grim, grim

I'd be relieved as would take the pressure off

I would, however not be thrilled at DD finding it but as long as your weren't hysterical she'll be none the wiser

YABU to be annoyed he’s had a wank, not to be annoyed he’s left a condom.

Tell him to use the bathroom next time

No issue with him having a wank while you're at work, but I'd have huuuge issue with a used condom being left anywhere for kids to find. He does sound sorry, though!

There is nothing wrong with him sorting himself out but to leave it in bed is disgusting.

Well be annoyed your DD found it of course, but being annoyed that he touches his own body when he hasn’t had sex for weeks? Reverse that one. What would you be saying to him if he told you he was livid that you touched your own body? Precisely.

He’s pleasuring himself whilst you’re at work because you haven’t had sex for 3 weeks. The only thing you have a right to say is do not leave it in the bed make sure it goes in a bin! It is his body you have no right to be livid at him

A) No
B) yeah he’s a dirty bloke and needs to tidy up after himself

Yeah I’m in the ‘his body, his choice’ camp. He just needed to obvs bin the used condom afterwards, that’s all. No shame necessary.

Absolutely this. He needs to clean up. But livid? Get some perspective!

Sorry I probably didn't make the original Aibu bit clear- I'm honestly not bothered he's pleasuring himself, its human nature and like you said it means he might stop dry humping me in my sleep for a few days, I'm just livid that he's left the condom on the bed!

You feel pressurised into having sex? That's not right at all.

Oh come on ! It’s no more gross than bed sheets full of fake tan !
you cba with sex so what is your problem!
your 4 year old will just think it’s a bit of rubbish so no harm done

chill 😎

I'm just pleased that after that thread title he's not having an affair!

Gross

You can’t police other people’s mastubation based on you being at work! Obviously he should not leave condoms in your bed.

Come on, now. That's not what she said.

'Take the pressure off' is a turn of phrase and completely different to 'pressurising' 🙄

Whats a posh wank?

Did he tie a knot in the end of it ?

Not good re the condom for kids to find, but what’s wrong with his pleasuring himself?

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