Just found a used condom in our bed...

[miniworry]

Well actually my DD aged 4 found it just as we came up to bed. 🤢 Literally just sat there in the packet at the top of the bed, still fresh liquid inside it.

Husband has been working from home today and has gone out on a works do for a few hours so I'm doing bedtime with the kids. I messaged him straight away saying WTF and he's just replied saying 'posh w*nk but I know that really doesn't help the situation I'm sorry babe'.

I don't think he's cheated because a) we have ring cameras on all 3 doors, there's been no gap in streaming all day and no one else in, and b) our bedroom is an absolute s* tip, the sheets are full of my fake tan from last night as I was changing them today and it looks just as much like Beirut in there as it did this morning.

We've got 2 young kids, one who is 1 and still isn't sleeping through and haven't had sex for about 3 weeks because quite frankly I just cba as I'm so tired..

But AIBU to be absolutely livid at the fact he's pleasuring himself whilst I am at work and b) that he left it there for my daughter to find!

Any advice on how I act when he returns home in a couple of hours would be greatly appreciated!

Don't mean to affect thoughts here so I am terribly sorry if I do 😑 he have a hidden sex toy of his own ? My cousin found a few condoms (they do not use), turns out was for his toy to avoid cleaning it out. But for the original question no he's not unreasonable to pleasure himself but yes he should bin it but we are human.

It's the 'babe' bit that would wide me up.

How can you even compare me ever forgetting something to leaving a used condom in my bed?

Mind boggling 🥴

Seriously. ?
why do some women bother getting married .
It’s like entrapmemt. Use the men get babies and then sex is disgusting.

What a wanker.

Of course they do.
Or they wash the sheets if it all gets too messy.

Sex is not dry humping your partner when they're asleep. Jesus.

I was going to ask how tech savy he is .
How much you trust him and do you know for sure where he is tonight ? @miniworry

The dry humping would piss me off a lot

Is it such a crime to be aroused in his sleep next to his wife . I assume he’s asleep . Snuggling in.
I am all for respect and saying no but some of the comments are extreme.

I do find this strange because he doesn't like wearing a condom particularly during sex.

'particularly during sex'

When else would he wear one?

Cleaning his teeth? Washing the car? Making a coffee?

I would make it clear to him that your 4 yr old found the condom. If he’s flippant about it I would then say - hope she doesn’t mention it to grandma (or whatever name used for his mother)

I doubt the word condom is in 4 year old's vocabulary unless the OP screamed' Oh look, darling, a CONDOM that daddy's used.'

Surely only like accidently leaving a bloody sanitary product out? Grim, but I imagine lots of women have at some point.

I totally agree. I don't think you have a leg to stand on here.

It's a normal bodily fluid, not nuclear waste......🙄

WTF I find this really weird and not funny. I hope this isn’t true.

If that's all it takes to be 'mind boggling' to you, I'm not sure how you cope with life?!

he forgot to throw the condom away, it's not that big a deal.

You can easily deactivate the Ring app by switching off WiFi.

No bloke ever chooses to wear a condom for a wank. He’s lying.

My thoughts exactly. Posh wank??? Likely story!!!

Who mainly controls the Ring account

Apologies for this info -

Yes, it is possible to delete certain parts of Ring history from the app—but only if someone has access to the account and the app on their phone or computer.
Here’s what you need to know:
Deleting videos: Ring allows users to delete recorded videos or snapshots manually. Once deleted, those clips are removed from the app and cloud storage.
Account access: To do this, someone would need the login info for your Ring account or access to the device where the app is logged in.
No partial hiding: You can delete individual clips but can’t selectively “hide” parts of a video while keeping others.
Notifications: The app doesn’t alert if someone deletes videos, so it’s not obvious unless you regularly check the history.
Logs: Ring doesn’t have a detailed “audit log” that shows who deleted what or when.
If you’re worried your husband might have deleted something, check:
If you can still see all expected videos in your app.
If you have multiple users on the account (you can see/manage users in settings).
When you last checked the footage and if anything seems missing now.

A posh wank, apparently.

He posh wanked. Let it Go

Maybe this is a signal that you need to be having sex! When I’m really tired, I ask my partner to give me a massage first. He always says yes because it leads to sex and I get a nice relaxing massage! Win win 🙂