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Is escorting worth it?

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LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:23

Sounds extreme but considering this if I can’t get a job in a month or so because I’m so fed up of having to watch everything and feel like I get punished for treating myself. Sounds childish I know but my headspace seriously needs a boost. Obviously this won’t be my first choice but if things don’t change then choice is out of the question. Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

here’s why I’m considering it
*extra money for me and my family.
*can treat myself more to boost my mood.
*can afford the work I need done.
*help me get over this past few years.
*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
*pontentially more opportunities in life.
*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.

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adamduritzvocalchords · 01/02/2025 23:02

@Ethylred goggle it. There is a twitter thread of what a girl did for £50,000. Spent a weekend eating rich men's shit.

LambriniBobInIsleworthISeesYa · 01/02/2025 23:02

I'm not saying no man would pay for just the FGE (or really, partial GE, as I think FGE includes sex) but I doubt there's that much of a market for it. I mean, if you're of the kind of man with the mentality that sees no issues in renting a woman by the hour, you're probably going to expect a shag as well as the dinner and chat element to "get your moneys worth".

Okay, the occasional man might want a date to take somewhere for some reason, but I think that the majority of men could achieve this much more cheaply than via an escort service.

I think that 99% of men seeking an escort expect sex. Maybe only sex and not the other stuff.

I just can't see that going out to bars with men for money is going to be the money spinner that you seem to think it is. Or that it's even really a job. Isn't all of that just a front for prostitution?

BunnyLake · 01/02/2025 23:02

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/02/2025 22:52

Ooohh without googling

It's when a bloke pays to shit on you . Literally .

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Thats disgusting. I wouldn’t allow that for any price!

Tagyoureit · 01/02/2025 23:03

LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:28

I’ve heard of escorts just doing dates and nothing else

Yes and cinderella's glass slippers weren't actually uncomfortable to wear!

Are you really that naive?

If you do want to be an escort, you need to be a slim, size 8, maybe 10, and photogenic enough to be put on escorts website, which is basically a book a hooker website, which means its not just dinner!

BatchCookBabe · 01/02/2025 23:06

adamduritzvocalchords · 01/02/2025 23:02

@Ethylred goggle it. There is a twitter thread of what a girl did for £50,000. Spent a weekend eating rich men's shit.

Fake news. Never happened/

Ethylred · 01/02/2025 23:08

adamduritzvocalchords · 01/02/2025 23:02

@Ethylred goggle it. There is a twitter thread of what a girl did for £50,000. Spent a weekend eating rich men's shit.

@adamduritzvocalchords Thank you for your summary, now I don't want to ggogle anything ever again.

BatchCookBabe · 01/02/2025 23:09

BunnyLake · 01/02/2025 23:02

Thats disgusting. I wouldn’t allow that for any price!

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It's fake news/an urban myth. You will never find anyone who has been involved in this. It's always people saying 'I know this bloke who knew this lad who knew this girl who's cousin's friend's auntie's sister-in-law went to Dubai and let men shit on her.'

It doesn't happen really.

cremebrulee972 · 01/02/2025 23:09

Oh god op.....

Alll escorts now either work from an apartment or hotel rooms.

And there's not much 'dining' going on I can tell you.

And the 'girlfriend experience ' would be what you do with your boyfriend Smile

By all means go for it if it's what you want but don't go into it thinking it's actual glamorous dates eating out etc because it isn't!

You will spend most of the time in the bedroom.

Not saying how I know this Hmm

PizzaPunk · 01/02/2025 23:11

cremebrulee972 · 01/02/2025 23:09

Oh god op.....

Alll escorts now either work from an apartment or hotel rooms.

And there's not much 'dining' going on I can tell you.

And the 'girlfriend experience ' would be what you do with your boyfriend Smile

By all means go for it if it's what you want but don't go into it thinking it's actual glamorous dates eating out etc because it isn't!

You will spend most of the time in the bedroom.

Not saying how I know this Hmm

And there's not much 'dining' going on I can tell you

I think there's a fair bit of eating out...

diamondpony80 · 01/02/2025 23:12

I remember having a conversation once with my husband and he thought the same, that escorts were just paid dates. I think I laughed out loud! Anyone who says they’re just going on dates is lying because they probably don’t want their family to know what they’re really doing. An escort is a prostitute - nothing more. And the “girlfriend experience” usually means staying overnight with the guy.

BoudiccasBangles · 01/02/2025 23:12

Do you really think they just pay for dinner and dates?

BatchCookBabe · 01/02/2025 23:12

PizzaPunk · 01/02/2025 23:11

And there's not much 'dining' going on I can tell you

I think there's a fair bit of eating out...

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😂

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/02/2025 23:17

This thread has gone a bit wild !

I;m am sure there are lovely , gentle , intelligent men out there who are in town for a conference and don't want to have a meal on their own with the look of pity in everyone's eyes . So procure a couple of hours of intelligent company with an attractive woman.
At the end if it , he'll say "Well thank you Jemima , that was a delicious meal with such beautiful company , may I call you a cab now as I have an early start tomorrow" .................

Of course .

Actually , I was in a hotel on my own and decided not to go for dinner as I didn't want people looking at me with pity . Probably they wouldn't have given a damn that I was dining alone .
I didn;t hire an escort though .

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JLou08 · 01/02/2025 23:19

Your husband should be making you feel wanted and useful. This shouldn't be something you're looking for as an escort.

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ElleintheWoods · 01/02/2025 23:20

LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:25

I won’t be having sex with strangers. Just dates

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I think you are confused. This is not the job.

Might be worth googling what 'girlfriend experience' means before you advertise to be offering it 😇

If men want to have dinner with a woman... They will just ask. No need to pay for it unless the man is a complete psycho social pariah.

No, genuinely, this is not a paid job available out there.

MsTeatime · 01/02/2025 23:20

LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:28

I’ve heard of escorts just doing dates and nothing else

This may be the most naive thing I've ever read on Mumsnet

Justmonumental · 01/02/2025 23:21

So many replies stating the reality of what you’re suggesting. I applaud all of these honest relies.
I wonder if your question was to illicit the support and attention that you are
not getting in real life, or whether you genuinely feel that becoming an escort is a realistic possibility? Either way I feel
that there is something very fundamental missing from your life. Perhaps your time would be better spent trying to improve your current relationship with yourself, because ultimately that’s the only thing we have. It seems that you are desperately seeking an escape route. I’m not sure we can ever escape ourselves, so do whatever it is you need to do to make peace with yourself. I am doubtful you will find that by selling yourself
to somebody that thinks intimacy with another human being is exchangeable for cash, but that is up to each of us to decide for ourselves. I personally believe that we are all worth more than that, including you

CallMeFlo · 01/02/2025 23:25

LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:28

I’ve heard of escorts just doing dates and nothing else

Thatll be prostitutes downplaying what they actually do

If a man wants to meet an attractive woman just for dinner there's cheaper ways of doing that than paying an escort.

They pay because they're expecting sex too

mommatoone · 01/02/2025 23:25

OP - have a look in the AMA section on here. I have read a fair few from escorts ,who lay down the honest truth, and they are not talking a three course dinner!

Youngheartsalittletogetherness · 01/02/2025 23:26

adamduritzvocalchords · 01/02/2025 23:02

@Ethylred goggle it. There is a twitter thread of what a girl did for £50,000. Spent a weekend eating rich men's shit.

Word's fail me .. how could anyone do that.
That's made me feel 🤢

Charlottetharlot · 01/02/2025 23:30

LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:28

I’ve heard of escorts just doing dates and nothing else

Escort here - gfe or 'girl friend experience' is a sexual service.
Very few people will pay for an escort who does not provide a sexual service...

Honeysucklelane · 01/02/2025 23:32

If you haven’t already done this, look around the house, anything you don’t need try and sell it. Better to sell unused or unworn items than selling yourself. You won’t make loads, but it is something.