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Is escorting worth it?

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LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:23

Sounds extreme but considering this if I can’t get a job in a month or so because I’m so fed up of having to watch everything and feel like I get punished for treating myself. Sounds childish I know but my headspace seriously needs a boost. Obviously this won’t be my first choice but if things don’t change then choice is out of the question. Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

here’s why I’m considering it
*extra money for me and my family.
*can treat myself more to boost my mood.
*can afford the work I need done.
*help me get over this past few years.
*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
*pontentially more opportunities in life.
*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.

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Guineapiggywiggy · 01/02/2025 20:25

I’m not sure selling your body for sex will
help your self worth.

ShortWide · 01/02/2025 20:25

Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

…ain’t no such thing.

shellyleppard · 01/02/2025 20:25

And if it goes wrong and you end up being assaulted??? Too risky in my opinion

Original poster
LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:25

Guineapiggywiggy · 01/02/2025 20:25

I’m not sure selling your body for sex will
help your self worth.

I won’t be having sex with strangers. Just dates

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LeticiaMorales · 01/02/2025 20:26

ShortWide · 01/02/2025 20:25

Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

…ain’t no such thing.

I was just about to say the same thing.....

YoungGunsHavingSomeFunCrazyLadiesKeepEmOnTheRun · 01/02/2025 20:26

You're deluded if you think you'll get customers just to take you out to dinner and that's it.

You will need to have sex with these men in order to get business, and that won't do your mental health any good.

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LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:27

shellyleppard · 01/02/2025 20:25

And if it goes wrong and you end up being assaulted??? Too risky in my opinion

Good point. That would put me off. I hate the situation I’m in now. Yes could be so much worse but my headspace is in tatters most days and I’m a burden to those around me

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LaurieFairyCake · 01/02/2025 20:27

There's no such thing as just dates Confused

It's ALL sex

OneTealMentor · 01/02/2025 20:27

Do you really think the man will just be happy taking you out for a meal?

SquirrelSoShiny · 01/02/2025 20:27

I'm not sure you really understand the job description 🤔 More of the expectations are unstated than stated.

LeticiaMorales · 01/02/2025 20:27

Becoming an escort will not solve any of those problems listed.

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LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:28

I’ve heard of escorts just doing dates and nothing else

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lastgreat · 01/02/2025 20:28

Yeah I'm not sure this is actually a thing... I did know someone who did the Oxbridge escorts thing which was meant to be for business men who wanted a pretty young intelligent woman to take out for dinner but in real life I think they all expected sex

Lmnop22 · 01/02/2025 20:28

I think you would discover that being salivated over by men for money wouldn’t improve your self worth and would make you feel worse.

Enya321 · 01/02/2025 20:29

Well you run the risk of sexual infections so it isn’t worth it

Speedweed · 01/02/2025 20:29

Escorts are only there for the extras.

Is your hubby really happy for you to have sex with random men?

Is a 'treat' really worth the humiliation of forcing yourself to give a blow job to someone you don't like?

Prostitution is not a route to high self-esteem, just the opposite in fact.

Have a look at the local competition on punternet or any of the other vile sites where clients rate sex workers, and consider how you'd compare, and what those women are doing to earn those scores.

Wipe all of the Belle du Jour style fairytales from your mind, and focus on the reality.

LeticiaMorales · 01/02/2025 20:29

It sounds as if you need to get some help. If you can't talk to your husband, then please make an appointment to see your GP. You're feeling far too negative about yourself. You're not "a burden".

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Hoolihan · 01/02/2025 20:30

There's no such thing as an escort that doesn't have sex otherwise we'd all be doing it 😂

BeaAndBen · 01/02/2025 20:30

Yeah, right. Because selling yourself is widely accepted as the best way to boost mood and self esteem.

Laiste · 01/02/2025 20:30

If it was true you could be paid just to be taken out to dinner and chat i'd be an escort like a shot. We all would 😂

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 01/02/2025 20:31

Honestly girl in 2025, I don't think you're gonna get glamorous work as an escort who just does the gf experience

I've seen one girl on tiktok do it but she's sleeping with them

I also think you wouldn't be able to keep it private in this day and age, with cameras etc so your in laws would know

What does your husband think

Is this post real 😬

LeticiaMorales · 01/02/2025 20:31

LastHope30Something · 01/02/2025 20:28

I’ve heard of escorts just doing dates and nothing else

You've heard wrongly.

skeletonbones · 01/02/2025 20:31

Escorts are booked by men who want to have sex with them, most dont get any of this 'dating'/wineing dining that you've picked up off pretty woman.
Your ideas about becoming a prostitute and what it entails are deluded. There have been plenty of threads on here about what working as an escort are like from women who are currently doing this, look them up.

MrsSethGecko · 01/02/2025 20:31

You have to have sex with them.

I was one. (Forced into it by older "boyfriend" and sold via escort agencies in London.)

You have to fuck them. Nobody is paying you to chat for an hour. Yes you might get taken for a drink or whatever but at some point you have to fuck them.
Do you think the agencies have fees for half hour bookings because someone just wants a quick chinwag about the weather? No, they want a quick blow job.

The agencies I was sold through, by the way, knew he was forcing me, and didn't care because it meant I couldn't say No to anyone, and so made them more money. And they take at least half of any money you make.