Is escorting worth it?

[LastHope30Something]

Sounds extreme but considering this if I can’t get a job in a month or so because I’m so fed up of having to watch everything and feel like I get punished for treating myself. Sounds childish I know but my headspace seriously needs a boost. Obviously this won’t be my first choice but if things don’t change then choice is out of the question. Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

here’s why I’m considering it
*extra money for me and my family.
*can treat myself more to boost my mood.
*can afford the work I need done.
*help me get over this past few years.
*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
*pontentially more opportunities in life.
*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.

Go on then. Point out the posters and posts that are vile and filthy.

You can't can you? 😂

Don't be morally dead while living biologically only please.

@Lara1978o Yes it is and it’s incredibly naive to think otherwise. There would be the expectation of sex and then potentially getting violent

Which can also happen with any date from a dating app, right?

If you meet up with a tinder date and he makes you uncomfortable you can leave. OP won’t be able to leave if he doesn’t hand over the money

Umm, she can leave if he doesn't hand over the money... she just wouldn't be getting paid for her time... same as a normal date...

No judgement here, as I know two women who do it very successfully.

But....the reasons they are successful are also reasons why I suspect that this may not work for you.

One offers what she calls the "Barbie" experience. She has false boobs, nails, lips, eyelashes, fillers, botox, hair extensions....you name it. So the guys are paying to have an evening with her and then sex. Most of her work is with regulars who need a date for work events and people think he is dating this bombshell.

The other offers the girlfriend experience. She is size 18 and very attractive but relatable. She snogs, she holds hands, is affectionate etc. Most of her jobs are also regulars who dont want want an actual relationship but pay for the occasional day/night of the affection and sex.

Others that they know dont stay in the game for long as it really is just "I want sex, how much will it cost" but the men dress it up as "seeing an escort" as it sounds less seedy than "paying a prostitute". The key, according to both of them, is to specialise. They work with another woman who is mid 50's and is the "pretend wife", again usually for older gay men. She looks like you or I and that is her appeal, she makes a fortune according to my friends!

@Lara1978o When I was at uni (not that long ago!) many of my friends went on tinder dates to nice places, got a free meal out of it and then blocked the guy. It’s really not uncommon.

That's disgusting.

This is why lots of men insist on 50/50 on the first date now!

Hasn't that been the case for at least the past few decades? My dating experience is extremely limited, but if I ever went on any date, I thought it would have been a given that all bills would be split 50/50.

What's your normal occupation, OP? Is there a particular reason why you can't get or keep jobs? Have you looked into jobs in, for instance, catering and hospitality, where they are normally crying out for staff?

You think you'd get paid just to get taken to fancy restaurants and on nice dates etc? I'm not sure it works like that!

Nobody told me that.

I happen to know lots of women on Tinder and other dating sites, who meet with men for dinner.

Don't you know any? 😳

Yeah, that's what I thought. Accusing posters of being vile and nasty, with NO proof, and you won't get any proof, because no-one has BEEN vile and nasty.

Stop spreading misinformation and accusing people of things they haven't done!

Now off YOU go. You've embarrassed yourself enough for one night! 😆

If you meet up with a tinder date and he makes you uncomfortable you can leave. OP won’t be able to leave if he doesn’t hand over the money

Yes but if OP wants her money then she is more likely to follow him to a secluded location to try and get it from him. MUCH more can go wrong than a basic tinder date. You are being silly to think otherwise.

The agencies say there's no.sex.because it's illegal,.but the sex is.a given. Many escorts are assaulted.by the way,.not.a.nice.job to.go.into. my friend.is.making alot of.money by.cleaning houses at the weekends.

I really doubt that being an escort is all about nice dresses and fancy dinners.

Exactly.

I thought this was common knowledge?

Actually it is common knowledge, it's the PP who's unusual in not knowing it.

I have some very good friends who escorted whilst at uni and into their 20's. There are ZERO men who would pay you a fee just to take you for dinner. The men seeking out escorts want discreet sexual encounters at either their homes or hotels. The incall/outcall may include an activity such as dinner or drinks but the men are ultimately paying to have sex with you.

If you think men are going to pay you handsomely to be their dinner companion with nothing else in return you are either completely deluded or have not researched the sex industry at all which indicates you are naive. Neither of those attributes are compatible with going into sex work, it requires a lot of thought and consideration. Furthermore, men who seek out escorts will pick up on this and take advantage of you. If any agency promotes non-sexual escort work, they are a bunch of charlatans taking advantage of people exactly like you.

This. ^ Being an escort is NOT about just nice dresses and fancy dinners.

It's about being wined and dined by a man and then shagging him at the end of the night. And he very likely won't want a quick missionary position 3 minute shag either. Men who pay women for sex are often pigs and perverts.

Err, no.

Suspect this is a wind up.Will report and see

It is very, very, very rare. It used to be more common about 15-20 years ago but not now. There isn't a need for men to bring along dates to make them look good or to use as beards.

The women who are bale to just go on the dates without having sex are so exceedingly beautiful that the men feel it is a privilege to be in their company with the possibility of it maybe leading to more.

It is almost a certainty that you won't get anyone remotely interested unless you are offering sex. I know an escort and she makes great money, but it is really hard work and she is a very well paid sex worker under a different name.

You sound quite naive about the industry and that isn't the best place to start.

You literally just have to spend 5 minutes on TikTok to see that this extremely common behaviour! There are lots of videos of (especially younger) women who post about doing this and the comment section is always flooded with comments of women saying they do the same.

You are lying through your teeth!

Not a single poster has been "vile and filthy"!

For shame!

@Lara1978o Yes but if OP wants her money then she is more likely to follow him to a secluded location to try and get it from him. MUCH more can go wrong than a basic tinder date. You are being silly to think otherwise.

Only if she chooses to do so. There is no evidence that Tinder dates are any less violent than men who pay exclusively for dinner dates.

What on earth is a potty girl? It sounds so much worse than fucking for profit (which is maybe what you meant).

@shuggles

Wow you're a nasty piece of work aren't you?

Calling people abnormal because you're unaware that this sort of thing goes on?

Shameful.