Is escorting worth it?

[LastHope30Something]

Sounds extreme but considering this if I can’t get a job in a month or so because I’m so fed up of having to watch everything and feel like I get punished for treating myself. Sounds childish I know but my headspace seriously needs a boost. Obviously this won’t be my first choice but if things don’t change then choice is out of the question. Obviously I wouldn’t do the extras just dinner dates and girlfriend experience etc

here’s why I’m considering it
*extra money for me and my family.
*can treat myself more to boost my mood.
*can afford the work I need done.
*help me get over this past few years.
*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel.
*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break.
*pontentially more opportunities in life.
*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth.

Why on earth would men want to pay you to have dinner with them without any of the extras? If sex wasn’t on the cards they’d probably just settle for a microwave meal in front of the telly.

Life isn’t a romcom.

@PizzaPunk Calling people abnormal because you're unaware that this sort of thing goes on?

I didn't call people abnormal for being aware that that stuff goes on. My insult was directed at people who use other people for financial gain; and I don't think there is anything wrong with insulting those people.

That’s an oxymoron
Escort is synonymous with sex. It’s expected. It’s implied. It’s what punters pay for.
come on,have a think. You are recruited to dress up pretty and mutter platitudes over dinner. Yea,right
You are shockingly naive which is risky given you’re considering sex work

Because there’s no research at all into men who exclusively pay for dinner dates because it is such a small percentage of men who do so. The men who pay for dinner dates will also be paying for sex.

The fact that you’re insisting it isn’t any more dangerous than a tinder date is dangerous to the OP who is clearly struggling and dangerous to anyone else in a fragile mindset.

Is that legal, legally allowed even on this forum and what da f

You are a married mum in your thirties and think you can make loads of money and boost your self worth by being taken out by adoring men to fancy restaurants in dates?
this is baffling, you sound so naive that you are very vulnerable to exploitation. How are you so naive at your age with a child. You sound like you need a lot if help and support.

You said you didn't know anyone like that because you're a 'normal person who knows normal people' - implying that anyone who does know people like that is abnormal.

And I've just seen your post has been deleted anyway.

The last thing I would do to improve my self worth would be become an escort. Being put in a compromising position is part of the job- if you manage to find an agency that strictly enforces no extras it will pay a lot less, which is then a temptation.
I would also point out you sound as if you are depressed- retail therapy is a very short lived fix which does not address the root cause, and so will ultimately fail, I would go to your GP and tell him how you feel, hopefully he will find some real help for you.
As well as being depressed you also sound bored, you probably need to retrain to get a decent job, that will help your self worth far more than trying to regain your youth-it's never successful.
Retrain get a decent job, save a little and do some travelling with your husband- far more fun than hanging around in bars and restaurants, wishing you were younger.

I think you're reading a different thread pixie, unless you think sex is a dirty word? 😜

@BeAquaGoose The men who pay for dinner dates will also be paying for sex.

Are we just making stuff up now?

The fact that you’re insisting it isn’t any more dangerous than a tinder date is dangerous to the OP who is clearly struggling and dangerous to anyone else in a fragile mindset.

Well it isn't, because as you just said, there is no evidence to support that.

I did two dates. No sex. Not even a kiss. It was clear that it wasn't "acceptable" to the men in question, despite what they had insisted beforehand. I wasn't even a proper escort or anything, I worked in an image based industry and was asked out for dates where the men had said "I'll pay for everything, I'd love to take you shopping". I virtually ran away from both as the days drew into evenings and it was clear they thought throwing a few quid into the day guaranteed a leg over.

The first I thought was just bad luck. The second, made it very clear to me that the first wasn't bad luck at all. We went to dinner at one of the most exclusive places in London. He slipped me an envelope under the table saying "this should cover your costs" and I nearly heaved. It felt so sordid with what I thought was a date but clearly he thought was pay-per-shag.

The long and short of it, is if he's throwing cash or gifts at you, there's an expectation in return. Escort or not. No thanks.

If a man has willingly paid for the meal then I struggle to see how a woman is using him for financial gain to be honest?

She has turned up and gone on the date. Upheld her end of the bargain If a man thought paying for a date would lead to anything else then I think that’s his problem and he’s the one that’s a pig to be honest with you.

Your husband's opinion of this is...?

@LastHope30Something what's going on, you say about hating the situation you are in?

Ooohh without googling

It's when a bloke pays to shit on you . Literally .

@PizzaPunk 'normal person who knows normal people' - implying that anyone who does know people like that is abnormal.

No it doesn't.

My saying I am a "normal person who knows normal people" is in contrast to "people who may be normal, or not normal, who know people who are not normal."

I thought this was an urban myth.

No. I’m talking from experience from someone who believed what the OP states to be true. Every single man I went on a date with wanted to have sex for money even if they otherwise stated they didn’t before the date. You are being dangerous with this crap you are spouting. You have been told by numerous posters you are.

You’ve admitted yourself you have limited dating experience and many people have come on and posted their own experience of men trying to force them into sex.

@70isaLimitNotaTarget It's when a bloke pays to shit on you . Literally .

That dynamic is nearly always the other way round- men paying to be shit on.

I am very much not up on these things but I am pretty sure it goes on.

( Back in the day there were tales of glass coffee tables but if people are paying mega money , they will want mega results )

@BeAquaGoose No. I’m talking from experience from someone who believed what the OP states to be true. Every single man I went on a date with wanted to have sex for money even if they otherwise stated they didn’t before the date.

Oh I see. You have experience of being paid for dinner dates? Again, I'm surprised anyone actually pays for that.

Well there's nought as weird as folk is there

In my opinion escorting isn’t about going out and looking nice it is about the extras.

OP you sound very badly and sadly deluded but let’s look at your list and the reality:

*extra money for me and my family - how much do you realistically think you can make a week?

*can treat myself more to boost my mood - how much more do you need to treat yourself and what with? Why is selling yourself a more attractive option to earn this money that shelf stacking down Tesco? The pay will not be much different to what you are likely to get selling ‘the girlfriend experience’.

*can afford the work I need done - again how much? So far it sounds like you are costing out an above average income which means working a good 5 times a week if not more. Do you have childcare cover for this?

*help me get over this past few years - what has happened in the past few years that prostituting yourself to men who see you as a service to buy would make up for it?

*get to relive my youth by going to fancy bars and restaurants also save up for travel - the availability of men with the money and need to hire an escort to take them to fancy places is vanishingly small. Hot, single young women with no baggage are 10 a penny in their circles.

Wanting to save to travel is another cost added to your earning target, and from a small pool of clients. The reality is any clients will want to shack up in the cheapest room possible, no frills and pay as little as possible. How many of those will you need to take a week to make anything like proper money?

*if things go shit with my family and in laws the money can go towards daycare or if me and hubby need a break. So another cost to add to the earning target. And your hubby would be happy to go on a break paid for by you having sex with other men? Not many men like that. Or decent ones at least.

*pontentially more opportunities in life - what opportunities do you see this opening for you? The likely ones are assault, violence, STIs, arrest and trauma.

*feel more wanted and useful. Also it will get rid of my low self worth. You will be wanted and useful as long as you are willing to have sex and degrade yourself at command. You will rapidly reach an age where nothing you offer will be deemed worthy of paying for. I can’t imagine this will do much for your self worth.

Escorting is not what you’ve seen on Pretty Woman. There are no Richard Geres knocking about suburban Britain just waiting to give all their money to a married working girl mother with low self worth and a shed load of trauma, who doesn’t have sex.

You talk about offering the girlfriend experience but the reality is it’s you who wants to be the girlfriend and to have rich men throw money at you to make you feel better, as if they are the service providers.

I’m sorry life has clearly been tough to bring you to this point but you are deluded to the point of it pointing to a very serious MH disturbance. You desperately need to reach out to someone to get help.

You need to think about why you're in such a bad place and why you feel such a burden. I guarantee that escorting (where sex will be expected) just so you can buy yourself a treat now and again isn't going to solve whatever your problems are...