To be petrified driving on motorways

[mollyfolk]

Anyone else scared of driving on motorways? I'm driving years but mostly within 20km of where I live. I avoid motorways or long distances as much as possible. I have to make a 3 hour journey now on Monday, mostly motorway, and I am already feeling sick about it.

I do breathing exercises to stay calm when driving like this. Has anyone overcome a phobia like this?

I've found the therapist I used

Based in London and Hertfordshire.

Brief info below.

carolcsharptherapy.co.uk/

Nope they didn't scare me off the motorway as I've never driven on one
Plenty of other twats on dual carriageways etc who feel the need to flash when I'm doing nothing wrong
Usually in their knob head cars

@biscuitsandbooks nope. Not until you're passed and then most people don't bother. I regularly see instructors (in the car alone so not a lesson) middle lane hogging too. The information just isn't taught anymore and it's making most journeys horrendous.

Do a motorway driving lesson.

Lessons aren't just to pass the test.

I just find it unbelievable how many people shouldn’t have a driving license. If you’re nervous about ANY aspect of co trolling your large metal box you SHOULD NOT BE DRIVING.

Oh don't be ridiculous 😂

Could you please link this scientifically proven information, saying nervous drivers cause more accidents than, say alcohol, drugs, driving without care and attention?

They are allowed @ExceededUsefulEconomicLife - only with an instructor though. The law changed a few years ago.

@Fleurdalys if they're flashing, you're doing something wrong. Or there is something wrong with your car. Or there is a hazard ahead if they're coming the opposite way. They don't flash for no reason especially if it's happening regularly as your post and language suggest.

@ExceededUsefulEconomicLife

Here - https://www.billplant.co.uk/driving-lessons/motorway-driving-lessons/

"Since the allowance of Motorway Driving Lessons in June 2018 by the DVSA, learner drivers have been permitted to drive on motorways as part of driving lessons. To be permitted to drive on a motorway the driver must be accompanied by a qualified Driving Instructor."

How is that ridiculous? You’re in control of an object that can kill people. If you are scared of using it you shouldn’t be using it. It really is that simple.

Yeah just googled it when you said! That is great news to be honest. Had no idea, thanks for showing me 🙂

Yes!!!!!!!

No worries @ExceededUsefulEconomicLife - you had me doubting myself for a second

I've never driven on a motorway nor have any reason to.
I'm a competent driver
Unfortunately a lot of knobheads on the roads

How is that ridiculous? You’re in control of an object that can kill people. If you are scared of using it you shouldn’t be using it. It really is that simple.

@MaMoosie and yes again!!!!

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@Fleurdalys yes, it's everyone else. Couldn't possibly be you!

I'm not specifically scared of the motorway but I don't particularly like it, and I don't like driving to new places if a motorway is involved. I get the fear - I think perhaps you should consider booking some advanced driving lessons to address it as it would open up life for you that bit more. Also possibly worth considering CBT to address the worries

@Fleurdalys unless you've been driving for one week or live in the middle of nowhere and never need to be anywhere, there must be a time you'd need to drive on a motorway. If you're relinquishing that responsibility to someone else because it suits, it suggests not being competent or confident.

Well it can't be as I don't drive on motorways
Been driving 38 years
No crashes or convictions

There’s plenty of arseholes who’ll flash their lights and drive up people’s arses when the driver they’re harassing hasn’t done anything wrong. Usually when someone who is using the outside lane perfectly legitimately for its intended purpose is getting in the way of someone who wants to drive at 90 or more.

It sounds v much like you are not using the outside lane correctly.

I'm not refusing anything. DH insists on driving and says that he doesn't mind. His issue not mine. I haven't driven on a motorway as it does make me anxious. I don't want to make myself anxious over something I don't have to do!

I could share holiday driving with DH ( A roads ) if he wanted. But he said no and I am not on his insurance.
This suits me just fine. Its bizarre, but he reassures me that he likes it. I don't care.
If I were to use the motorway it would be for me ,but I actually , I struggle to imagine a time I'd need to use it. I'd have to go on holiday by myself as we couldn't all fit in my car.

Not confident
Due to other twats on the road
I'll quite happily live the rest of my life with no motorway driving thanks very much
Done it for 38 years so I don't think I'll need to now