AIBU? Is this disgusting or am I just old-fashioned?!

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https://www.nottinghampost.com/news/nottingham-news/adult-star-who-slept-hundreds-9570473

I’m no prude but there’s just something about this that has disgusted me.

It’s got nothing to do with either of the Nottingham universities.

@hoarahloux She's taking advantage of drunk young men new to university. Obviously freshers week involves a lot of sex. I feel like an experienced older woman targeting clubbing 18 year olds, who will be drinking, is taking advantage. If this was a man, imagine what would be said.

The first point is that the men are unlikely to be drunk. This would be a planned activity with a camera setup during the day, not a random night time thing.

The second point is that, contrary to popular belief, university students do not have loads of sex, particularly young women. If university students were having sex and having relationships, then you wouldn't have a queue of thousands of men messaging this woman.

Of course it's not. But men going out of their way to form a queue to use a women's body for their own sexual gratification and nothing more is vile. The fact that this lady is consenting does not make the men who take her up on her offer good and decent men.

It does when she’s mentioning them in her interviews and podcasts.

You guys are attacking the wrong person.

There's no jabbing at her appearance. There's nothing wrong with being in one's 40's.
We're pointing out that she is far older than these boys, these freshers who have just left home.

I meant they don’t have to approve.

Do better by your sons and make them understand that women are not there for their purposes and to treat them with respect.

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe do you think it’s disrespectful to respect this women’s wishes & participate in her money making scheme? Should people tell she is wrong to offer this and that any man who takes up her offer doesn’t respect her?

Do better by your sons and make them understand that women are not there for their purposes and to treat them with respect

Yes , but this woman - and I really don't give a toss about her age - isn;t respecting herself is she .

My son is a respectful young man , I have always spoken to him about safe sex and consent .
If the woman is question has slept with the entire football team and the reserves it's up to her but I'd hope she wouldn't go online to tell all and sundry .

We only have BonnieBlue's word that she's shagged xyz number of men for her world record , unless someone was there with a clicker herding them through the door ..

Oh I agree!! There definitely is more to life. It’s a very strong possibility however.

They are 18, so obviously they will be the same and feel the same for the rest of their lives as they are/feel now. They know everything! I know I did at 18. I said to my mother when we were discussing my then 17 year old son, "I wish I could go back to that age, because then I would know everything again!".

At best naive, at worst willfully ignoring the possible consequences because their dicks are in charge.

Of course it's not. But men going out of their way to form a queue to use a women's body for their own sexual gratification and nothing more is vile.

If they are at the uni they aren’t particularly going out of their way & she is the one who implemented a queuing system, she could have gone with appointments I guess. And you don’t think she will get any sexual gratification out of the encounters?

The fact that this lady is consenting does not make the men who take her up on her offer good and decent men. I never said it did, but it does mean that what they are doing is not illegal and not rape.

It's up to men NOT to think that this is ok and not do it. It's up to parents to instil that into their children so that they don't grow up thinking that this is an acceptable way to behave.

When a woman markets her body like this there is always, always damage behind that action. What does it say for men who are willing to queue up to use a woman like this, any woman? That's why I said that we need to do better by our sons and teach them although reading this thread I think that's a lost cause for many; they are so desperate to blame women.

Yep. Read that. My guessing she was married before she got into the industry that she’s in now. I’m taking about her future. People do divorce and remarry….

God, this is so depressing

I think it’s important to instil in both genders not to think this behaviour is acceptable.

When a woman markets her body like this there is always, always damage behind that action. What does it say for men who are willing to queue up to use a woman like this, any woman? That's why I said that we need to do better by our sons and teach them although reading this thread I think that's a lost cause for many; they are so desperate to blame women.

I just don’t understand why some people have to paint women as powerless victims who can’t be held responsible for their own behaviour. She’s not saying she satisfies boyfriends who are deprived of sex because of past trauma. She is doing that because she knows it’s clickbait and she wants attention because money.

Grim 🤢

Vile

Perhaps the men who are queuing for sex with her despite it being on film & them just being a random guy in a queue are acting this way out of damage too?

Very concerning that she wants to film it - these students are young and may have a naive understanding of the impact of having sex tapes out there might have on their future careers and relationships.

And you don’t think she will get any sexual gratification out of the encounters?

Dont be daft! A load of 18 year old virgins banging away at her for 30 seconds each is hardly the stuff an orgasm is made of!

She is clearly selling her footage to a market aimed at men who (disgustingly) like to see women used by a great many men with no regard for her.

There was a documentary made some years ago about a young woman, who I think was Korean or possibly Japanese and was a famous porn star. Her "thing" was having a lot of men have sex with her. I watched it and she was very clearly not ok. I suspect that she had been seriously damaged by something growing up as she was very young. She held the record for a while as the woman who'd had sex with the most men in 24 hours, there was footage of it on the documentary and it was.....well, grim. A literal queue of naked men, hundreds long, all tugging their todgers to stay hard. It was revolting. Then not long after a young American woman took the "title".

Its a thing, and yes men will cheerfully stand in a queue completely naked, dicks in hand, to take part. This is why I really really do not like or trust men.