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I stood up to a man at work and he did NOT like it

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crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 21:27

Bloke at work, nice enough, totally average at job, not a blagger or anything.
We were teamed up for a project by my boss . We have worked together before on a small project and it went fine.
When I approached him and said "we are teamed up again" he made a loud groan and expressed distaste at this in front of a table of colleagues and said "I'm letting you do all the work this time" suggesting I'd been lazy last time we did a project(demonstrably untrue)
I fumed on it and then restructured my work all above board with my boss to work with a new pairing, leaving him to deliver with a newer member of staff. He is now very angry, and said I had to do it as he didn't want to do the work (he has to , it's part of our role) and I needed to stop being silly and just do it. When I calmly responded that he expressed disdain and so therefore I had gone where i was wanted, he lost the plot and stopped off in a huff to the boss who told him the same
Hahahahaha best day ever

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Rainbowx · 03/07/2024 21:30

Brilliant 👏 well done !

LoremIpsumCici · 03/07/2024 21:30

Well done! That will teach him not to slag a colleague off again.

SiobhanSharpe · 03/07/2024 21:30

Result!
And bloody well done.
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crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 21:31

He tried to tell me that his groan and disdain was about the job itself but it definitely wasn't

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crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 21:35

I found it hard not to capitulate but I just kept being very vague and saying "maybe just ask the boss what they want you to do now I've sorted myself out."Silly bugger has got to do all the work now as the new member of staff hasn't done it before so he will have to lead it

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pizzaHeart · 03/07/2024 21:36

Great result OP! Hopefully it will teach him a lesson and next time he’ll think twice before opening his mouth.

pikkumyy77 · 03/07/2024 21:38

Fabulous!

DowntonCrabby · 03/07/2024 21:39

You are a hero OP Flowers

Elsvieta · 03/07/2024 21:41

Ah yes, women who don't just do what the menfolk tell them - they need to stop being silly!

Well done you.

NigellaAwesome · 03/07/2024 21:42

I'd have lost it when he said to stop being silly. Well done. Be prepared for retaliation.

crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 21:43

The irony is my role is much much busier and I have more responsibility than him! Yet he doesn't want to do the work , as if I have all the time in the world to do it!

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Charliecatpaws · 03/07/2024 21:44

Well done that woman 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

EmeraldRoulette · 03/07/2024 21:52

Good for you

Why did he say such a dumb thing in the first place? Weird power game?

Igmum · 03/07/2024 21:55

Well done you superstar Flowers. We need more women following your example Grin

TheDogdidGood · 03/07/2024 21:56

Excellent :)

FOJN · 03/07/2024 21:59

Well done you.

Dweetfidilove · 03/07/2024 22:03

Excellent work 😊

Codlingmoths · 03/07/2024 22:06

Hahaaaa imagine complaining to the boss, it’s like asking for the stupid jerk prize. ‘Hey boss I was mean to x and now she isn’t working with me and I’m with the newbie so I’m gonna have to do some wo-ORK. MAKE X DO IT FOR ME!’

SeulementUneFois · 03/07/2024 22:07

Well done OP!
I'd also document what he'd said (in front of the table of colleagues) - even in just an email to yourself (work email and send it to your personal email). Probably never needed but just in case.

crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 22:08

EmeraldRoulette · 03/07/2024 21:52

Good for you

Why did he say such a dumb thing in the first place? Weird power game?

I dunno, he's not normally a power play idiot. Best guess is he was having a sulk about working as he is lazy and keeps an eye on what everyone else is doing/having etc he decided to take it out on me. God knows why. We have a kind of nod at each other twice a week in passing kind of work relationship

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crochetmonkey74 · 03/07/2024 22:10

Stupidest thing is, all in this bit of work will take us about 2 hours all in!

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/07/2024 22:11

What a silly billy.

GingerPirate · 03/07/2024 22:12

Tough.
Didn't like it 😂

godmum56 · 03/07/2024 22:12

oh well done you

Atethehalloweenchocs · 03/07/2024 22:13

Ha ha, so sad, too bad.