I stood up to a man at work and he did NOT like it

[crochetmonkey74]

Bloke at work, nice enough, totally average at job, not a blagger or anything.
We were teamed up for a project by my boss . We have worked together before on a small project and it went fine.
When I approached him and said "we are teamed up again" he made a loud groan and expressed distaste at this in front of a table of colleagues and said "I'm letting you do all the work this time" suggesting I'd been lazy last time we did a project(demonstrably untrue)
I fumed on it and then restructured my work all above board with my boss to work with a new pairing, leaving him to deliver with a newer member of staff. He is now very angry, and said I had to do it as he didn't want to do the work (he has to , it's part of our role) and I needed to stop being silly and just do it. When I calmly responded that he expressed disdain and so therefore I had gone where i was wanted, he lost the plot and stopped off in a huff to the boss who told him the same
Hahahahaha best day ever

This thread has cheered me right up OP! What a total dick move from him and how beautifully you outmanoeuvred him.

You get all the cake and kudos 🎂👑😁

I don’t find men try to tell me off but I don’t drive, which is a key time for encountering these asshats.

The other day I was walking through town on my way home. My handbag got snagged on my trousers belt loop and I was sort of adjusting myself. This man walked past amd said "stop touching your arse" I shouted "shut the fuck up" back at him and he scuttled off. I was glad I did it as we were on a quiet side road and I felt a bit vulnerable

I stood up to a guy last week professionally. I have a role with responsibility, he (A) is more senior than I. We both work for a Tech lead (B) with ultimate responsibility for a product. For context A has been signing off reports I'm responsible for for a couple of years as I was woefully understaffed so having to write the things i was supposed to sign off myself...i.e. i can't mark my own homework. I now have staff writing the reports so i can sign them off myself. Further context, A and I do not get along. He's done numerous things to undermine me, including telling my boss that I should never have been promoted (I aced my promotion interview!) and delaying reviewing stuff so that i'd miss the deadline on multiple occasions.

So cut to last week. I signed off on a report a member of my team has written as per my responsible area. It goes to B for full sign off. I get called into B's office for a chat by A...who then proceeds to lay into me in front of B about me signing it off. "Hang on, aren't I responsible for the delivery, accuracy and content of this report, and if so should i not sign it off to say that I've checked we've done all the actions etc for it to be right?" Calmly behind me B said "yup". one word. A deflated A left the office looking like he was sucking lemons. He then decided to review it anyway and gave my project manager an earful about his time not being planned in to our programme.

I felt really bad for being blunt with him, but i lost my patience with him embarrassing me in front of B. My hubby reframed it as "so, A tried to embarrass you, you turned it around, B backed you and A left with his tale between his legs...sounds like a win to me".

So ladies, sometimes you really do need to remind folk of your authority and responsibilities...being nice all the time can be a hindrance.

Good for you! You have avoided a world of stress and frustration. Hope your new pairing works out well.

Incredible work! Well done.
The nerve of slyly suggesting thst he did everything last time. Odious.

I salute you!

Even if that was true he needs to reflect on his communication skills and how he comes across.

Absolutely brilliant, that told him 😂

You find a lot of male nurses are like that.

Well done you for what you did. He sounds a right pratt !

Excellent! Good job! 😀

Totally agree. Have a paper trail in the event his sulkiness turns into vendetta.

When my granda worked off shore he was in his 60s, obviously noone wanted him on their team. They were all absolutely gutted about turning their nose up at him. He's was an extremely hard worker and amazing at his job 🤣 at his funeral so many of the workers from all the teams laughed about it, they no longer judged a book by it's cover 🤣

What a silly little man 😜

Well done @crochetmonkey74 👏👏👏,
and to everyone else for standing firm.