Warning...depressing post about human nature.
For example in the work place. For example I try to be smiley and kind at work. When a colleague was bullied out. ( also a nice man) I didn't join in with any of the bitching.
I personally felt he was mobbed as his English wasn't very good.
My boss favours loud, bossy people who let everyone know how great they are....I need to cultivate this.
In my personal life, being a people oleaser has made me a target for abusers.
I really have concluded that kindness is a weakness and peoole percieve it as such.
At work it is best either to be feared ( I am not scary) or just mega assertive to get ahead.
In your oersonal life, it is best just to be assertive.
I am so glad dd is very confident and assertive...no idea how...she didn't get it from me.