If your nearest-and-dearest packed the dishwasher like this ...

[longsuffrin]

... would you say something?

I have done (often) but it's not getting me anywhere because he doesn't agree it's a problem.

I should add that, when I switch it around, I can usually get a lot more in.

What problem does it cause? Do they unpack it too?

Looks very familiar

If it all fits in then I try not to sweat it. I do rearrange if I know I can fit more in.

I sometimes fill the dishwasher like that. Things still get clean.

If they come out clean I don't see the issue, sure makes no sense to me but to make it a controlling thing would be just for the sake of it if it still cleans

Everything is in one layer and it will wash so I don’t see the issue. In fact I’d stack in a similar way (DH then does do some adjustments I will admit.)

I would literally lose sleep over this. It's making me feel panicky.

Wow that’s worse than I do!

Looks fine to me. I wouldn't say anything.

Does it come out clean? That is the only potential problem, it's surprising how clean things come out even if packed a bit randomly.

I'd be v happy someone else was doing it

Not the tidiest but it'll get the job done which is enough for me 🤷‍♀️

Do the items come out clean? I would have loaded it a bit more organised and maybe got other things in.

But if the stuff comes out clean, it wouldn't my hill to die on.

Someone else is doing it. Rejoice in that fact, sit back, and let them get on with it in their own way.

Yes, I would and definitely do say something. I would also rearrange it to a more sensible way of stacking and probably get a fair bit more in.

My DH is also a crap dishwasher stacker and it drives me round the bend. I prefer to do it myself. 😃

That’s weaponised incompetence - don’t rise to it. Just get silent revenge by making them a cup of tea with a lump of ketchup in the bottom.

Not in my dishwasher they don't!

I'd immediately file for divorce. Or just pack a bag and leave and never turn back.

But based on other responses I'm perhaps being a tad harsh.

The saucepan in there upsets me and one plate might not get cleaned properly but otherwise looks ok. How would you stack it? Bowls like that are annoying to stack.

Oh gosh looks like ours but it all comes out clean so I don't fuss about it anymore

This is the most upsetting thing I've ever seen in my life.

Those bowls aren't the easiest to stack efficiently but my main concern would be that they would be buffetted about and break because they don't half get hit with some force and need to be stable.

It's really bizarre, and so disordered that it huves me a sort of spatial awareness pain. I thought DH was bad wanting to swap sides for the big versus little plates, which is our only dishwasher debate.

Do the dishes come out dishes clean?

Does he wash up by hand the things he didn’t fit in or leaves them on the counter?

If it comes out clean, I'd be fine. If it doesn't, and I've said this repeatedly then I'd be giving them dirty plates/ cutlery for the next meal because then it's weaponised incompetence- they know it won't clean like that, and do it badly to either shut you up, or try and get you to stop asking.