Is this too white for a wedding?

[slithytoveisascientist]

Additional info

It's for a nine year old

Dress code is smart casual and it's in Indonesia, if that makes a difference

This is not the 'main' wedding, this is a western wedding and is seen as secondary to the bride who is Indonesian

No bridesmaids or flower girls

What do you think?

I hate to be the first one but it’s horrid, regardless of the colour. You must be able to find something nicer than that.

Sorry, but that is an odd looking dress.

I think that’s fine, it’s cute!

It would be nice if you used a RIT dye and made it purple or navy perhaps?

I also dont like it. It looks old and a bit ratty

I think the photo is probably not doing the dress justice.

I think it's fine for a child to wear white to a wedding personally. And even if it's not the done thing, that doesn't look "too white"

I would say that's more suitable for a four year old flower girl than a nine year old.

Have a look on Vinted, Monsoon have some nice ones that are a bit more grown up so you might find something from previous seasons.

That etiquette doesn’t apply to children as they could not be mistaken for or be in competition with or be accused of upstaging the bride.

No, I used to do a lot of charity shop purchases for my lot when they were young and there was ususally something nice quality. This looks like net curtain tacked onto something lacy. Colour is dull and looks 'grubby'.

If it's a charity shop buy then get it and dye it

It looks like a 4 year olds bridesmaids dress that’s been left screwed up at the bottom of a wardrobe for ten years.

It makes it look like you're miffed that your child is not a flower girl/bridesmaid, even if there aren't any.

And it's weird colour.

It might be better if you dyed it, but I wouldn't bother.

I would say that's more suitable for a four year old flower girl than a nine year old.
Oh its for a 9 year old? I missed that bit. Definitely no.

Dress is lovely on her and in person - the pic doesn't do it justice

Thank you for unsolicited opinions on that though, I suppose this IS AIBU 😂

Looks too young for a 9 year old irrespective of colour

I think a child can wear an off-white dress such as this.

If it's in Indonesia, consider if it's acceptable length wise, seems pretty short. It's quite a conservative country.

It looks like a 4yr old flower girl outfit. I don’t think an 8yr old would be happy wearing it and it looks a bit tatty. There are hundreds of dresses out there, you can definitely find something better than that.

OP asked whether the colour was too white not what y’all think of it.

Dress is lovely on her and in person - the pic doesn't do it justice

It looks very old and worn in photo

It entirely depends on what the bridesmaids are wearing. You really don't want anyone to think that you are miffed that your dd isn't a bridesmaid. It is a short dress though, so maybe that wouldn't apply.

I think it is too white for a wedding, even for a child.

If you say the size and style look good, I'd dye it.

OP asked whether the colour was too white not what y’all think of it.

Definitely not too white..

I like the dress and think it's fine for a child to wear that to a wedding. Looks a little bit young maybe but if your dd is happy then that's the main thing

Looks like a bridesmaids dress I’m afraid.

I also agree it’s a bit ‘little girl’ for a nine year old (unless she loves it of course).

Zara have some lovely girls party dresses in their sale which are a bit funkier and £10-20.