Is this too white for a wedding?

[slithytoveisascientist]

Additional info

It's for a nine year old

Dress code is smart casual and it's in Indonesia, if that makes a difference

This is not the 'main' wedding, this is a western wedding and is seen as secondary to the bride who is Indonesian

No bridesmaids or flower girls

What do you think?

I came on to say it looks very much like a few bridesmaids dresses I’ve seen, but a few people have beat me to it. Do you know what colour dresses the actual bridesmaids have so it doesn’t look like you’re trying to match them?

Sorry only just read the second page with the no bridesmaids updates

No it screams that you want your kid to be the bridesmaid/flower girl

I thought it was nice before I saw a pic of it on. Don’t understand these weird comments about it being ugly and tatty?! And how rude 😳

It looks lovely on your DD (so much better on) and with the wedding you’ve described I really do this will be absolutely fine.

Women can be right beaches when they want. If your daughter likes it and you like it then no problem.

The dress looks lovely on her.

ignore the people who are answering some made up question in their little heads, must have had a bad Monday

It doesn't matter that much but people might see it as 'flower-girl-y' given the colour and it might slightly annoy the bride if people think she's got a flower girl when she hasn't.

The OP’s 9-year-old has said that she DOES want to wear it, though.

@slithytoveisascientist It looks lovely on her in the photo of her wearing it and it will be fine for a child at a wedding. It’s not too white.

It looks a little too flower girl so on that basis i would say it's not appropriate

I don't think it's too white, but I do think it's too bridesmaids if she isn't bridesmaid

She looks lovely in it.

She looks lovely. And that was a bargain find. Have a great time!

Steel boned!! I'm not sure why
Possibly something to do with being a size 16 😂

It's ugly and far too short

Not having a dig but I did say it in my op

How horrible are people on here, I cant see anywhere that the OP asked if people like the dress, but obviously on AIBU they all come out the woodwork.

It looks really nice and fine for a wedding, the lighting in the first picture made the white and gold bits look a bit dingy is all. Idk what people mean that it's not ok for a 9 y/o to wear, what should a 9 y/o wear then?

It looks gold to me? Definitely not white anyway.

I think it’s nice, not too white and if you (and she) like it then it’s a great bargain 👍

It's fine. In fact it's better than fine. If the bride isn't regarding this as the 'real' wedding and only groom's family are attending I doubt she is going to be too bothered what a 9 year old is wearing. It looks sweet on and has a swishy skirt, what's not to like? Hope your family all have a lovely time.

It looks lovely. Totally fine for a wedding IMO. She is a child!

I know that white is typically off limits for Hindu weddings as it is a colour of mourning. A quick google tells me this might be the case for Indonesia too. That would make it inappropriate, perhaps you could inquire with any Indonesian guests to confirm?

I think its a lovely dress but I think white might be the colour of mourning in Indonesia so this dress may not be suitable

Steel boned!! I'm not sure why
Possibly something to do with being a size 16 😂

Someone needs to tell them that 16 is the new size 12! Hope you're able to embrace your uber curviness for the day, between bouts of oxygen-deprived lightheadedness 😉