I've been unfaithful and I don't know how tell DH

[Lostsoul0307]

I know I'm going to be absolutely annihilated for this but please believe me when I say I already feel terrible.

I was at a friends hen party this weekend at a holiday cottage with a group of about 20, on the Friday night a stripper had been hired and it was way more intimate than I was prepared for, he did a bit with whipped cream and a few of us licked off. I would never usually but I was really quite tipsy, there was a bit of crowd pressure and the whole thing was really quite arousing, I know these are lame excuses. I crossed a line and did stuff for way longer than I should.

I know I need to tell DH but I have no idea how to even go about bringing this up, he'll be crushed and I'm so disappointed in myself.

Does this really happen? I have been at hen parties with strippers and nothing like this happened. There was cream but not on the actual knob! And noone was aroused we were all pissing ourselves laughing, it's not intimate! Well not in my world.
This sounds like how men view strippers more than women.

@Lostsoul0307 do you only need to tell him as you have a guilty conscience or would you want to know if he'd done the same. Will it do any good or will it be likely to end your relationship? Some people can't get over what was for you a bit of a wild night. Think carefully before you say anything at all as it will hurt him regardless.

Sit him down today and just come out with it, don't over think it. It could be one of those things where the build up and overthinking it is actually worse than the doing it. Like ripping off a plaster, get it over and done with. The longer you leave it the worse it will be as more time will have passed. Just say I have to speak to you about something I've done. I've feel awful and the guilt is consuming me, you need to know...
Good luck @Lostsoul0307

Honestly if you absolutely have to tell him then sit him down and say at the hen party the stripper had whipped cream all over him and we did this thing where you had to lick a bit off. I was drunk and got a bit carried away and probably crossed a line for a moment or two.

Then apologise and beg forgiveness.

Would I consider it cheating if my partner did it, probably yes. But like it or not, there is quite a significant difference between the use of male and female strippers. My objection to female strippers is more based on the power imbalance and objectification of women. Male strippers don’t have that element, they just don’t.

It’s pretty grim yeah I agree but it’s not an affair, it’s a stupid one off tipsy moment where you’ve got carried away.

Don’t mention he had a massive cock for gods sake!

@strawberrywhisk I stupidly commented before I read the whole thread.

Really grim and definitely cheating. DEfeinitely not ok, and just one of those harmless things. You gave another man head, in public.

The H of someone I went to uni with performed oral sex on a stripper at his hen do, the father of the bride was there and saw the whole thing, I don't think the wife was ever told. I could not be around any of them after fnding that out.

"A quick lick of some cream that was on a penis, for 5-10 seconds whilst trying not to wet yourself from laughing is normal Hen Night antics"

I've obviously led a very sheltered life then, I'm no prude but if that actually happens it's vile. Gads you have no idea where his dick has been before you chomped on it! Think anal for starters 🤢🤮

If a man goes to a strip club all we see is how grim it is and run for the hills, don't get married, divorce him etc etc

A woman gives a stripper a blowjob and everybody tells her to keep quiet

LMAO

Well that's a new way to be hit

I couldn’t keep it quiet I’d be too worried he’d find out. Besides you can catch all sorts from a blow job so now you need to get checked as well.
people saying it’s not cheating..how can giving a blowjob to another man be a faithful act? If her husband had licked out a stripper do you think you’d approve of that?
OP you made a huge mistakes and how honest you are with him boils down to how likely it will be that he finds out and how he’d respond.

I’m sure a stripper washed their knob before doing a strip show and adding cream 😂😂

I've guilty of that too at times 😁

I agree with this, wonder if it's a reverse.

Too be fair there are plenty on here telling her to be honest with him

It 100% happens.

Normally at hen nights, it's more about laughing at the stripper and drinking. Licking cream off is not being unfaithful.🙄

I'd keep quiet, and move on.

Update I've ripped the plaster off but gone slightly cowardly I've messaged DH

Your latest post - I call BS.

Are you some teen boy? 🤮

So you and your friends took turns to lick a random stripper's penis?! You need to get different friends and yes tell your poor husband and get yourself checked out

It's gets better and better!!!!

I think spending 3-4 minutes sucking a stripper off is firstly gross and secondly I would count that as cheating. If my husband spent 3-4 licking a strippers clit then I'd be very upset. Your husband might give you some leeway because it was a hen party but he needs to know. Especially when a whole room of hens already know.

Am I a prude because I just can't imagine ever wanting to suck a strangers cock in the middle of a messy hen party 🤮 or any strange cock for that matter.

You know I woz at that hen party Friday night...

I forgot to tell you there was a naked stripper and a can of cream.

(insert other info of what you drank, who else was there and how much cream was involved).

Then you could end off with:

I ruled Brittania.

I’d subscribe to the ‘ what goes on tour stays on tour ‘ stance and say nothing .

Exactly. This is so obviously written by a man.

grim-3 to 4 minutes and everyone just stood there waiting

im suremore than one knows