To ask if you swear in conversation with your adult children?

[Ahsoka2001]

Personally, my Mum hates swearing in general and says she'll never allow it in her house even when my sister is an adult (she's 14, I'm 21). But I've gone round friends' houses, etc. and seen them and their parents swear around each other like it's their normal thing to do.

I don't think either mindset is wrong really, but which do you prefer? Would you "tell off" your adult child if they swore in conversation with you?

What level of swearing are we talking about? The occasional ‘bastard’ or ‘damn’ is fine in my family, but nobody is dropping f bombs around my parents - and my siblings and I range from 35 to 52.

To be fair, I don’t think most people properly swear (as opposed to the ‘light swearing’ above) that much in general?

Yep I'm in my 20s and I swear in conversation with my mum. She's got a potty mouth. Got it from her🙄

Yes, my adult children swear around me but I swear more than them. Was very strict about not swearing in front of them until they were mid to late teens, then reverted gradually to my sweary self.

No. We don't swear in front of our adult kids, and we wouldn't allow them to swear in front of us.
I've never sworn in front of my parents either, my mum would probably wash my mouth with soap if I did.
Basic respect.

Don't swear around my parents and my adult children don't swear either in my company. Don't need to. I would hate to live in Gordon Ramsey's household. How does he show when he's really pissed off with something?

I don't swear when I talk to my mum as she hates it. Or my dad. I do swear in front of my teenagers sometimes and they also do occasionally. It's just words by the time they're that age.

Deputy head married to head teacher, we swear blue in front of teen step kids (DH’s kids). Avoid the c word but all else is fine. Why not? There are far worse things.

Yes we all F and Jeff all the time.

We have to be careful in front of my MIL as they weren't a family of sweary people....occasionally one of us will casually drop the F bomb without thinking and everyone tenses up 😂

I would never swear in front of my parents and I've never heard them swear either. We have an old fashioned relationship.
I do however swear in front of my teens and they also swear in my presence. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. They are only words.

I don't swear in front of my parents and they don't swear either. Sibling does, profusely. I didn't know whether to laugh or be horrified when DH's DGD said fuck in front of us and her mother. She was 30 at the time!

I would never refer to "damn" as an adult swear word. It's the kind of word used in PG films for shock value- or perhaps I just have a complete desensitisation to swear words!

So many comments on this thread where people sound like nuns! Irl if you occasionally hear a "fucksake" from a relative is it really that shocking?

I used to swear on rare occasions in front of my parents as a teenager. I'm in my thirties now and do still occasionally swear infront of my dad. I find unexpected swearing quite funny actually and don't think it should be taken so seriously.

Once you're an adult, you can speak how you like really, you don't need to be policed. You should be able to tell when's appropriate to drop in a swear word, to whom and consequences (ie probs best not to do during a 121 at work with the ceo etc).

I also don't get offended if people occasionally swear in conversation now as an adult and doubt I will with my son once he's an adult.

My mum and I will use the old mild swear word - eg bloody, crap, bugger - in conversation but I wouldn't use the F word in front of her as I know she doesn't like it. I'd say it if I was quoting something someone else said, usually in a humorous context, but I wouldn't drop it into normal conversation like I would with my partner or my friends.

My dad had an episode of psychosis a while ago and my mum and I both immediately knew there was something seriously wrong with him when he started swearing in conversation with us, because he never, EVER swears in the company of family as a rule, especially women.

Yeah we swear in front of my mum and me and my adult dc swear in front

Of each other

Yes. We all swear my children to me too. They are not teenagers

I'm late 30s and my Mum bollocks me if I swear in her presence. My Dad on the other hand swears like a sailor (well he was one once haha).

I'm trying to rein in my swearing as I don't want my son picking it up

My kids are 14 and 15 and we all swear, at times. Me more than anyone else, probably.
The kids aren't allowed to just lob them into civilised conversation but there are moments in life where a swear word just adds some je ne sais quoi to a story. I don't have an issue with it in that kind of context. Their gran would disagree😉

I swear freely in front of my parents and they in front of me. My teenage son swears like a trooper though much more so with me than his dad who comes from a less sweary household. Without wanting to cast aspersions on my nationality, I do think Irish people on average swear a LOT. Even in our office swearing certainly wouldn't be unknown. I find the experience of some of the posts here alien!

Yes we all swear like dockers. Never at each other though!

My mum and I swear in conversation and it’s completely normal. I assume I’ll be the same with my kids when they’re older.

I have always found it to be the opposite! The Irish people I know (DH and his family) NEVER swear. Even my occasional quite staid utterances stand out! I sometimes think MIL wonders what ditch he dragged me out of. 😂

Yes, absolutely I do and they swear in front of me. We're all adults and we're all sweary. Would never swear at anyone though.

My parents, Dsis and I also swore freely. Dutch people are generally swearier than Brits so it wasn't a big deal.

It really is just words.

No, I have never sworn in front of my adult children, I hate swearing and just never allowed it in the house or anywhere else. They've never sworn in front of me either.

Never sworn with my parents either, and they don't either.

Just no need for bad language.

Same here.
Just don't see the point in using bad language.

Yes, ive always sworn, as did my parents when i was growing up.. my adult DC swear a bit less then me, especially DS1.