To feel a bit sad - 30th birthday trip solo

[Quirkyme]

Hello, I'm feeling a bit sad.

My 30th birthday is in March and I plan to travel abroad.
Asked my girlfriends and had one that was up for it but today told me due to other financial restraints is likely unable to make it.

It looks like I'll be going by myself.
I'm estranged from family, have been for nearly 3 years now, and bdays have always mostly been special prior to estrangement, I guess sad because I didn't really imagine my 30th being alone.

I'm spending Xmas alone too - I did last year and had a Xmas solo break in Cornwall but I'm saving up for this bday so not doing so this year .

For my 29th, I did do a solo spa break and I did enjoy myself.

I guess I'm just having a moment and it's kinda bringing back like the lack of family I have and just my situation and having no one to celebrate with.

I know I will have a good time on this trip, but yeah I'm quite upset and having a moment, I'm actually really upset right now.

Would appreciate some words of encouragement to take the plunge and do this trip alone , and just from others who have been in similar situations and had a good time?

I've flown alone before to meet friends abroad before but this will be my first time fully solo abroad.

Thank you.

Hi OP. I'm sorry you are feeling sad. I'd feel that way too in your shoes. Where are you planning on going for your birthday? I'd love to hear about it? I love solo travel. I found it terrifying the first time I did it. But hugely empowering too. Sending hugs.

Organise a home celebration with your friends and feel connected and appreciated by them somewhere they can afford 😊 And then go on your travels and have an adventure!

I was travelling the world when I turned 30. I was in NZ on my actual birthday.

Went to Paris and Amsterdam by myself for my 50th earlier this year.

Have also done Christmases alone.

I wouldn't have done a quarter of the things I've done if I had waited to do them with someone else. You'll have a great time.

Can someone help, there's this weird troll here being weird ?

This is happening on lots of threads this evening.

Okay thanks x

Bit worrying. Like it totally takes away from my thread and hijacks the supportive comments

It's been reported and posts deleted :)

Thank you x

If it happens the advice is to click on the report button and report it - the post then gets removed.

Yes I've been reporting the comments too after I commented here

The night watch thread has some reports on it too. Hope you get some supportive and helpful replies :)

So, quoting so the thread can start again

Sorry @Quirkyme it’s shit. Just ignore.
Anyway, back to your trip - tell us more about it. I’m sorry your friend can’t make it, but you can still have a great time. I can totally understand why you’re a bit upset though.

I did huge amounts of solo travel in my 20s and 30s for both work and pleasure. I loved going where I wanted and not having to compromise my plans or wait for friends who liked sleeping in to get up before starting my day. On some trips I made friends along the way, on others I enjoyed my own company. I say go for it!