To think I shouldn’t go on a second date?

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First date was good, walk around the city and we got two coffees, the conversation was flowing.

When we parted ways we kissed. He messaged me about a second date.

This was Sunday. He text me last night to say he doesn’t think I find him attractive because when I kissed him I didn’t use my tongue.

I was a bit taken aback. For me it was a quick 30 second kiss. We weren’t making out, I think tongue is more intimate personally. It’s kind of put me off him that he’s questioning this.

Bit of a red flag

Yeah I'd skip it. Sounds like a pushy git.

To me, but I’m old, that’s a weird message. Who says there’s away to kiss on any date, never mind a first one? I wouldn’t bother with him.

I think if it's become hard work after one date, probably best not to have the second one. He's already criticising you when you're just being yourself. This doesn't bode well.

That's a complete no. Don't do it.

Oooh no! What a weirdo. That is not normal behaviour at all.

That’s just… weird!

Firstly, a first kiss is generally a fleeting, tender moment, not a full on pash with tongues.

Secondly, the fact he’s messages about it is bizarre.

Next…!

Yuck. Id get the ick after that message instantly. Id reply 'well I was really looking forward to our second date however after that message, I shall be declining. Best of luck' and block!!!

You're getting a gut reaction on this for a reason. I'd pass on this too.

Basically he wants you to say you are gagging to get in his pants and he got it all wrong... He wants to know if a shag is in the offing or whether he's 'wasting his time'.

Ewwwww definitely no 2nd date. Is he 12???

Red flag, fuck that.

Haha, id reply I did fancy you, but I don't now 🤮

Yes this 🤢.

Seems like he sees the whole thing as transactional and he doesn’t sound nice!

At least you found out this early.

Goodbye!

Ewwww immediate ick from the message. Thank your lucky stars that you saw the giant waving red flag so early!!

Run a mile and be grateful he showed his true colours early and you didn't waste too much time on him.

Definitely don't see him again. Ew.

Is there something à bit like the Beaufort Scale for dates now?

Yuck no

He text me last night to say he doesn’t think I find him attractive because when I kissed him I didn’t use my tongue.

🤣😂🤣

creepy weirdo.

He’s going to be single forever if that’s the way he thinks.

Total nut job. Steer clear

Ew!

Red flag... I wouldn't see him again.

Ewwwww run away! Creepy & very weird!

Oh I just got the ick

I've done a LOT of dating and I've heard a lot of cringey things but this is way up there!