To think I shouldn’t go on a second date?

[Rubyitsgonnabeyou]

First date was good, walk around the city and we got two coffees, the conversation was flowing.

When we parted ways we kissed. He messaged me about a second date.

This was Sunday. He text me last night to say he doesn’t think I find him attractive because when I kissed him I didn’t use my tongue.

I was a bit taken aback. For me it was a quick 30 second kiss. We weren’t making out, I think tongue is more intimate personally. It’s kind of put me off him that he’s questioning this.

Yeah - that would be a no from me - he's either a bit of an inexperienced and socially inept person or he's trying to goad you into more physical intimacy that you are ready for by implying there's something you're not doing right.

Bye!

FFS, you're not even at date two and he's telling you he's so insecure that should you see him again it will be your job to reassure him you find him attractive.

Save yourself the time and energy.

ICK. Run

I dont even kiss my husband with tongue. just the thought grosses me out. i definitely wouldnt want to be sharing Tongue juices with some stranger ive met once...

Yuck, what a creep. Still, at least he let you know.

I’m with the others - definitely not !!

Yeah head for the hills on this one! Gross!

Yuck! Weird!

Ps. How old are you both? If 16 or under, maybe he's just awkward. I could forgive him. If you are both adults then .. run!! Quick!!!!

He’s trying to guilt you into sexting or putting out IRL.
Ick.

How do you kiss someone for 30 seconds without tongue though ? Do you just like press lips and hold 😅. Sounds a bit weird tbh but also vvv weird that he pointed it out/ text you about it. 🤮

RED FLAG

Ugh no, both weird and fishing for compliments

Goodbye weirdo. I'm probably a bit weird though as I find kissing with tounges gross any way. But he doesn't sound a keeper.

Ugh that’s such a weird thing to text about, especially days later so he’s been thinking about it.

Just no, he’s given me the creeps.

That text alone would put me off.

Well this has made me want to crawl into myself. What a creep.

Another one with instant ick here

Extremely weird. He must have to say that to many women on a first date.

weird I’d stay clear sounds really needy

Oh gross 🤮

So he thinks you did the kissing part of your first date 'wrong' and decided to share those thoughts with you ?

Who even does that?

Maybe an awkward attempt to try and soften you up provide 'more' next time round. I would not sign up for any more of that nonsense.

Open communication, being able to make your wishes and desires clear in a straightforward way, without adding any pressure, is an essential skill required for a happy relationship between equals.

He wants you to reply "no, I really fancy you" and then you will feel like you have to prove you fancy him on the second date and go further than you might feel comfortable with. Dump.

You've hit the nail on the head here!

He sounds like a creepy teenager...