To think I shouldn’t go on a second date?

[Rubyitsgonnabeyou]

First date was good, walk around the city and we got two coffees, the conversation was flowing.

When we parted ways we kissed. He messaged me about a second date.

This was Sunday. He text me last night to say he doesn’t think I find him attractive because when I kissed him I didn’t use my tongue.

I was a bit taken aback. For me it was a quick 30 second kiss. We weren’t making out, I think tongue is more intimate personally. It’s kind of put me off him that he’s questioning this.

Urgh! 1st kiss, 1st date, outside - I wouldn't expect tongues! Pushy twat!

Grim.

when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

(i read that somewhere but it's my new mantra)

you've dodged a bullet so well done tbh.

AVOID! He's a psycho.

I love a good French kiss but ewww that's given me a dose of the nos.

Gross! 🤢

How old is he??!

Exceptionally fucking weird. Think you should pass on this one.

Run like the fucking wind.

"Oh my God, Roger, I found you quite attractive until you said that. Now you just sound like a complete weirdo."

Eww no thanks

It’s a weird thing to say let alone think as a grown man.

At best, he's a needy weirdo with no social skills (attractive!).

At worst, he's deliberately playing you to get you to put out (dangerous!).

I suspect the latter.

"Where I put my tongue is my business, buster. Put down that book about getting women to shag you and try being an actual person." Block.

Red flag trust me... there's plenty more fish in the sea! Always listen to early red flags!

Swerve him. He sounds unhealthily insecure and / or critical for someone you’ve just met. How much reassurance giving and correcting of your behaviour are you willing to do to keep him happy? As that’s the red flag here.

Erm that would be a firm no from me... one date and he's criticising your kissing technique??
Don't spend time and energy drafting witty or cutting replies.
A polite, let's not do it again then and move on.

Ewww.

He sounds like the type who would tell you 3 months into the relationship “if you loved me enough you would have annal sex with me”.

🤣

I find that really quite revolting that he said that after a first date goodbye kiss. Seems an entitled pig.

What the others said.

Plus...

How do you kiss for thirty seconds without tongues?!?

Surely if you're just pressing your lips to each other you don't hold that for 30 seconds?

Possibly for me the weirdest thing about this

What?! You can move your lips and open your mouths without tongues you know!

Really? For thirty seconds! I've literally never done that! And I love kissing, kissed hundreds of men. None of them have ever done that back either. I'll try it next time.

Ugh. Very immature too.

So he’s already criticising you from the first meeting?

so much so wrong with this, and I also have the ick just from reading this.

No second date.

Also some of the best kisses can be without tongues

I think it’s weird you think that’s weird. It’s easy to kiss for 30 seconds without shoving your tongue in someone’s mouth. Why do you think you’d just press lips and hold? Very strange..