I have an almost 1 year old and an almost 3 year old and have been a SAHM for the last couple of years. I've been vaguely looking out for p/t jobs and have been offered an interview for one which is 21hrs per week. Good job, in the field I want, with prospects. I've been trying to work out logistics and it just seems impossible. There'd be a 1hr commute each way. So, say I worked three days a week, 8-4, and DH dropped them off and I picked them up, that still just seems like an insanely long day for them. Then I'd literally just be picking them up, chucking some food into them and putting them to bed, then repeating for another two days. Is this just the norm? Then there's the probability of them being ill, DH going on work trips (not a regular thing, but reasonably frequent) Is it worth it?? I love spending time with my kids, but find the monotony and physical exhaustion quite hard at times. I feel a bit lost and would love to have 2 or 3 days a week to do something just for me. To not feel reliant on DH. To not feel like my career will never recover. To use my brain! But it just feels like the world of work isn't set up for people with kids, and that even working p/t would add a massive amount of stress to our lives. Anyone have any thoughts / advice / wisdom?
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To think even P/T work with small kids is impossible??
LowryLowry · 14/05/2022 09:42
MolliciousIntent · 14/05/2022 09:45
I think you're being pretty dramatic. Surely the set up you're describing doing 3 days a week is similar (or less than) what your DH does now? Why is that too much time away from your children for you, but less than is acceptable for him?
8-4 is a pretty standard day in childcare, if not shorter than some. Your 3yr old in particular will benefit hugely from the social aspect.
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