be upset my husband is onlyfans?

[LauraJaneJones]

Just clicked on his email since I was at his desk and I just thought hm, let's click this tab..... only fans password change.

We do not have an open relationship. AIBU to be upset about this? I feel it's like cheating as he's getting private stuff off these women? I am unsure how it works, any insight helpful.

I would not accept my h being on onlyfans. It would be a dealbreaker for me.

Yep, he's a cheater.

Your husband is a cheating sleaze. It's a deal breaker in my book.

LTB

Although OnlyFans is mostly known for subscriptions to pornograhic content creators, that is not all that is on there- chefs, dancers, hobby artists, etc also use the platform. I’d want to find out more detail before coming to any conclusions.
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I have an only fans account. I'm not watching porn on it. I like it for the food channels and exercise videos

Having onlyfans = cheater? Not convinced that's a direct correlation.

Onlyfans isn't just pornagraphic channels though...

Oh god... I'd be furious! If it's something you had discussed it's neither here nor there, but the sneaking around is absolutely out of order (IMO)

Snooping through his emails is also wrong.

Deal breaker for me too I'm afraid.

Yuck!

Massive no from me I'm afraid.

Sorry OP

Depends what he is doing on there!

Can you not get into his account and see what he's been accessing? I'd think the worst tbh

If you're snooping his email, you're either controlling or you rightly don't trust him.

Either way, LTB.

If you have the changed password then you can log in and see what he's been looking at.

Could it be a spam email? I got one to my iCloud address, never ever been on the website!

It can work all kinds of ways - he might be passively taking in content, or he might be full-on engaged with one or more vendors. But it's really not great either/any way that he's supporting a platform which reinforces the divisions in society that keep women subordinate and men dominant. There are always apologists and rationalisers, including on this thread - but come on: if he wants to follow chefs and musicians and artists, why do it on an explicetly misogynist platform? I'd rethink the relationship if I were you.

I am not sure what peoples home lives are like, if men have to go on this site or others much the same, if it is for porn and sex stuff etc..
Some people get very addicted to these things, easily accessible now, and some maybe have crap sex lives at home, and like the thrill of everything that they can now access.

Maybe he is a performer? Try to bring some cash into the family?

But why were you going through his email?

If you invaded my privacy and went on my email you’d find two onlyfans subscriptions, one is a crochet content maker and the other a personal trainer.

A large amount of content on onlyfans isn’t sexual.

Onlyfans isn't individual private stuff sent specifically to him by women. If he's using it to access porn then it's essentially the same as having a subscription to a porn site, just with all the porn being the same person or people.

if he wants to follow chefs and musicians and artists, why do it on an explicetly misogynist platform?

Onlyfans is not a “misogynist” platform. It actually results in the content creators getting fair pay for their work. Monetising videos of anything is almost impossible now on YouTube and YouTube takes most of the money into their corporate pockets. It also has better protections for creators against piracy which Youtube doesn’t have because you can’t download and then share or upload content.

@Iamnotthe1 You definitely can get individual private content on there. You can have conversations with the people, you can request stuff like particular outfits, scenes... videos of them masturbating while saying your name. The personalised side of it is a huge selling point on OF.