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Original poster

To ask her to stay in her room

93 replies

Joslynn · 16/10/2021 15:59

Ok so my dd tested positive for covid on Thursday. Both me and dh have taken tests and our ds and all of them are negative. AIBU to ask dd to stay in her room or is pretty pointless now?

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dementedpixie · 16/10/2021 16:02

What age is she?

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Joslynn · 16/10/2021 16:02

16

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Kb2942 · 16/10/2021 16:03

How old is she? Might be manageable for a teen upwards but really hard for younger ones - I wouldn't expect a child to stay in their own room for 10 days!

LadyTiredWinterBottom2 · 16/10/2021 16:05

Well...probably not bu but it depends how you ask and how she will get refreshments etc.

girlmom21 · 16/10/2021 16:06

Well it's not pointless because you could still catch it.

onthinice · 16/10/2021 16:07

Not unreasonable at all. It's common sense. If you all end up testing positive anyway (as has happened in my house!) they can come back out.

My plan (had the rest of us not gone on to get positives) was to get her out her room into the garden at least once a day if she was feeling up to it, and to potentially allow her sole use of the living room (we have another family room we could use) as long as she only moved straight from her room to there and only when the coast was clear.

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Joslynn · 16/10/2021 16:08

I meant pointless as in we might have already have it but the viral load isn’t strong enough yet to show up on a test. I’m kind of thinking it’s inevitable we will all catch it as we are around each other multiple times a day.

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olivehater · 16/10/2021 16:08

No that is just horrible. Would you do that for any other illness? FGS are really doing this to our teenagers now?!? Do you really think that won’t do her any harm? And if you get it anyway what a waste of time it will have been.

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Joslynn · 16/10/2021 16:09

She has just said she’s ok to stay in her room. We have our family bathroom but also an en suite so she is going to use the main bathroom and the rest of use our en suite and shower. I do feel bad but I don’t want to risk her younger brother catching it.

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skyblueone · 16/10/2021 16:09

My dd had covid in May and noone else on the house got it, we carried on as normal and didn't distance from her at all. We've all had it since, dh and younger dd in July, I didn't get it then. I tested positive this Monday just gone. It's weird how it works, I've lived with 3 positive people and didn't get it but I have it now when I don't know anyone I've been in contact with having it recently.

girlmom21 · 16/10/2021 16:10

@Joslynn

I meant pointless as in we might have already have it but the viral load isn’t strong enough yet to show up on a test. I’m kind of thinking it’s inevitable we will all catch it as we are around each other multiple times a day.
It's not inevitable. There are loads of families who've carried on as normal and only one person has ever caught the virus.
MerryMarigold · 16/10/2021 16:10

My 12yo twins had it in the summer. We did not catch it (ds1,dh and myself). This is what I did:

  • restricted them to using downstairs loo including for cleaning teeth
  • shower every other day and then I scrubbed it down after
  • eating on tray by open back door. I got their food/ drinks etc, they were not allowed in kitchen.

I let them go into our family room where their desks/ computers are, which I kept well ventilated as well as their bedroom. They have v small bedrooms so would have been very difficult to stay in there.

Brollywasntneededafterall · 16/10/2021 16:10

Covid hit here... Dd stayed in her room and managed not to catch it..
Neither did dh (I did) even though we still shared a bed.. Bloody pot luck ime!!

Notaroadrunner · 16/10/2021 16:11

@Joslynn

I meant pointless as in we might have already have it but the viral load isn’t strong enough yet to show up on a test. I’m kind of thinking it’s inevitable we will all catch it as we are around each other multiple times a day.
It's not inevitable. I know families where 2 or 3 got it but the rest didn't. So yes, keep her in her room and drop food at her door. If she can have sole use of a bathroom, better still.
maxineputyourredshoeson · 16/10/2021 16:11

@Joslynn

I meant pointless as in we might have already have it but the viral load isn’t strong enough yet to show up on a test. I’m kind of thinking it’s inevitable we will all catch it as we are around each other multiple times a day.
Not necessarily DH, MIL (who is living with us at the moment) and DD1 all tested positive. Me and DD2 negative. We had been on holiday with friends 1 tested positive her DH and two DS’s tested negative. We all had exactly the same symptoms.
gogohm · 16/10/2021 16:11

With my dd1 she would think brilliant, means I never have to leave my room (we don't normally allow food upstairs, she would eat up there like a shot) with dd2 it would be torturous

DancingQueen85 · 16/10/2021 16:12

I would in your situation. DH tested positive on Sunday and now the rest of the family has caught it. It's not pleasant

DysmalRadius · 16/10/2021 16:13

No that is just horrible. Would you do that for any other illness?

I've got a sickness bug and I'm staying in our bedroom to avoid passing it on to the rest of my family - I thought it was fairly standard!

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Joslynn · 16/10/2021 16:13

Well maybe not inevitable but likely. I have friends who tested positive days after their dc did and between them had to isolate for 30/40 days.

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sheeplikessleep · 16/10/2021 16:13

I’ve got ds1 in his room, he’s 13 and only got the positive this morning after pcr testing yesterday. He seems okay at the moment but the rest of us are having pcrs later today so if any of us come back positive, we will have to split into positive / negative as much as possible. I do keep taking him ice cream and leaving outside his room and upping his Xbox fifa though as I feel guilty 🙈

Time2Move · 16/10/2021 16:14

My daughter (13) has basically been staying in her room all week since testing positive last Saturday. Only emerging with a mask on. This was pretty much her own initiative, and we haven't been doing things like cleaning the bathroom after she's been in... but the other three members of the household appear to have escaped, so I would say it is worth it.

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Joslynn · 16/10/2021 16:14

My dd is actually ok with missing school and having to stay in her room watching Netflix shock horror lol.

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Oneforthemoneytwo · 16/10/2021 16:15

I wouldn’t ever do that. We carried on as usual and yes we all got it but adults are double jabbed and we were all mildly ill and I feel like we’ve all got a bit of protection for the next however long

worriedmum20000 · 16/10/2021 16:16

My middle son had Covid and whilst he was obviously isolating at home, the rest of us carried on our lives as normal bar daily LFT & he was still very much part of the family and there's no way I was going to shut him in his room for 2 weeks.

We are lucky to have a second bathroom which we gave over to him and obviously no sharing towels, drinks etc and he would clear away his own dinner plates etc plus we tried to always make sure the windows were open (although it was a month ago & a little easier weather wise). DH & I are double vaxxed but two other DC aren't and none of us caught it.

I think teenagers have had it bad enough this past year without locking them away like lepers when they're ill.

Oneforthemoneytwo · 16/10/2021 16:17

@worriedmum20000 I couldn’t agree more. I cannot believe we are locking away our children if there are no vulnerable family members. It’s quite shocking