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To ask her to stay in her room

93 replies

Joslynn · 16/10/2021 15:59

Ok so my dd tested positive for covid on Thursday. Both me and dh have taken tests and our ds and all of them are negative. AIBU to ask dd to stay in her room or is pretty pointless now?

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Inthemuckheap · 16/10/2021 17:07

Yes of course she should be isolating in her room. Colleague had same last week with her 12 yo DD. Stayed in room, meals and snacks left outside door; bathroom cleaned after she'd used it etc. Not one other family member tested positive.

If she's not isolating, then none of you should be leaving the house.

What's the difference today vs. last year when it comes to Covid? No wonder it's still so virulent if people aren't taking it seriously anymore.

MzHz · 16/10/2021 17:07

I did take him out for a walk in the garden yesterday both of us wearing masks and at least 3m apart for a whole 10 mins of fresh air.

steppemum · 16/10/2021 17:08

well right now dd2 has covid. She has mostly been staying in her room, and using a mask when out of it.

On first 3-4 days I was taking food up and down, and using mask, sitting chatting in her doorway, generally looking after her.
Then I got ill, and dh said don't bother isolating any more, so dh and I shared bed, dd and I used lounge etc. We did keep use of kitchen to minimum, and dd1 kept away form us.

neither dd1 nor dh have caught it. dh and I are sharing a bed!

Katieandthekids · 16/10/2021 17:12

That's a long time mentally to be on your own. I think I'd rather get it than make a family member do that tbh

BoredZelda · 16/10/2021 17:14

You wouldn't do this for another illness. Your younger child is even less likely than the teen to get sick. You are presumably vaccinated.

People do. Why pretend otherwise?

BoredZelda · 16/10/2021 17:16

That's a long time mentally to be on your own. I think I'd rather get it than make a family member do that tbh

And yet for many people that’s how they live for a very long time and they have been left to get on with it. For many elderly and disabled people, that is their life. I don’t recall people on MN being so outspoken about it on their behalf.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 16/10/2021 17:19

One of my DC who is older got covid in July, even tho wfh, they caught it at the pub, sitting outside and wearing a mask (mostly) and had been double jabbed.
We were all double jabbed and the rest of the house escaped. I did do a lot of wiping down door handles and light switches and common parts.
They mostly kept to their own room or their office area ..As it was summer we were able to distance and eat outside with them, so they weren't completely excluded.
We all used a different shower/wc and I asked them to let us bring up meals or drinks and not to be in the kitchen boiling kettles or opening fridge all the time. We kept a through breeze going. It was easier in the summer.
It can be done. Good Luck.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 16/10/2021 17:20

She'll be grand!

Stock up on the snacks she likes to leave outside her bedroom door every now and again.

Whoopy1 · 16/10/2021 17:36

@Joslynn

Ok so my dd tested positive for covid on Thursday. Both me and dh have taken tests and our ds and all of them are negative. AIBU to ask dd to stay in her room or is pretty pointless now?
My dgs (age 7) tested positive for Covid with lateral flow test. Dd, Dsil, dgs and dgd went for PCR tests. Dd and dgs were positive, Dsil and dgd (age 6) were negative. We thought that Dsil and dgd would definitely catch Covid, but they didn’t, so NO it isn’t pretty pointless. Your Dd is 16, so should be able to isolate and reduce the risk of the rest of your family catching it too.
DGFB · 16/10/2021 17:38

But we’re all going to repeatedly come into contact with Covid, it’s here to stay. So you might avoid it this time, but your son is very likely to get it if unvaccinated. And you’ll come into contact with it somewhere along the line

Cocomarine · 16/10/2021 17:42

My 14yo has been isolating for 5 days with it. She’s refusing to leave her room, loving clicking her fingers for room service, and lecturing me when I say she can come out that she doesn’t care if I’m double jabbed and blasé, I could still pass it on to someone CEV.

So for the posters who who think it’s so awful for teens in their rooms - mine is happy as a pig in shit. OP’s May well be too.

DysmalRadius · 16/10/2021 17:52

@DGFB

But we’re all going to repeatedly come into contact with Covid, it’s here to stay. So you might avoid it this time, but your son is very likely to get it if unvaccinated. And you’ll come into contact with it somewhere along the line
Well yes, in the same way that I have obviously come into contact with someone with a vomiting bug, but that doesn't mean I want to share it when I know I'm contagious!
Disfordarkchocolate · 16/10/2021 17:54

Our house is to small to isolate anyone so I wouldn't bother, you've all been exposed already.

EdgeOfTheSky · 16/10/2021 17:58

We had one member of our household catch COVID, stayed in one bedroom, we used the other bathroom. Despite having been living normally up until the confirmation, no one else caught it.

Definitely worth isolating.

ApplesAreTheBaneOfMyLife · 16/10/2021 18:04

Ds has been isolating in his room for a week now. He comes down (wearing a mask) very occasionally and goes in the garden.

He loves it!

MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 16/10/2021 18:16

Just a minor de-rail of the thread, but can I ask all of you with kids with, or who have had, covid just to take 2 minutes to read this and be aware of the symptoms (which can appear 4 - 6 weeks after covid). Its rare, but put my teen in hospital for over a week, with three days in ICU:

www.evelinalondon.nhs.uk/our-services/hospital/paediatric-multisystem-inflammatory-syndrome/overview.aspx

Thank you, and as you were Grin

steppemum · 16/10/2021 18:18

@Cocomarine

My 14yo has been isolating for 5 days with it. She’s refusing to leave her room, loving clicking her fingers for room service, and lecturing me when I say she can come out that she doesn’t care if I’m double jabbed and blasé, I could still pass it on to someone CEV.

So for the posters who who think it’s so awful for teens in their rooms - mine is happy as a pig in shit. OP’s May well be too.

Grin Grin yep that sounds like dd2!
MoiraNotRuby · 16/10/2021 18:20

Hope she is not too poorly with it and the rest of you stay negative. When DS, 16, had covid he stayed mostly in his room with occasional pottering in garden or coming downstairs when everyone else was out or in bed. None of the rest of us caught it. I'm double vaccinated which I'm sure helped.

Rollmopsrule · 16/10/2021 18:24

It's entirely up to you and your family. My Dd tested positive and we didn't make her stay in her room just followed good hand hygiene and used a separate bathroom. Her symptom was just nausea though so not coughing everywhere. My Dh had already had it and both of are double jabbed. I didnt get it. Anyway only you can answer the question no matter what everyone else has experienced.

KeyWorker · 16/10/2021 18:29

For goodness sake, she is your child!! Let’s hope she doesn’t just want a hug from her Mum if she’s feeling unwell.

Jessieabs · 16/10/2021 18:39

I think you’re being perfectly reasonable to ask her to stay in her room and use a seperate bathroom. She can presumably use the garden too but walk through the house with a decent mask on. Why risk making others sick?

Jessieabs · 16/10/2021 18:42

Obviously if this was a small child I’d be sharing a very different view, but a 16 year old with Netflix, internet, meals left outside the door, and her own bathroom! She’ll be fine

Maybe83 · 16/10/2021 18:48

My dd got it last year and we did isolate her in her room so it reduced the risk of Dh, I and her sibling getting it. She used the family bathroom wore a mask when leaving room. We brought all her meals to her door.

Disinfected all light switches handles daily. When she could come out of her room she cleaned top to bottom. I washed all her clothes and bedsheets on hottest wash possible and dumped her towels.

We didn't catch it. Its all well saying the risk is minimal but it's not definite how anyone will react once they have caught my dd was extremely ill and we needed to get her medical attention twice for her breathing.

I take the view its in our children's best interests for DH and I to be as healthy as possible so we are around for a long time to look after them.

I treated it the same as a stomach bug that none of wanted to catch.

Westfacing · 16/10/2021 18:49

During the summer holidays my grandson(15) was confined to his room for a few days - something to do with someone on the rugby team testing positive. I think the wrong instructions were given, anyway he was in his room and thoroughly enjoyed himself!

He sent pictures of the various food trays that were served by my son and was critiquing the menus for the day. Confined with games consoles and TV - think he rather enjoyed it.

Pinkyxx · 16/10/2021 19:14

My DD refused to leave her room when she tested positive. While I wasn't very comfortable with her staying in her room for so long, none of us caught it.

I understand she rather enjoyed the TV on tap and room service.. especially picking and choosing her meals + calling down for pudding!