To ask her to stay in her room

[Joslynn]

Ok so my dd tested positive for covid on Thursday. Both me and dh have taken tests and our ds and all of them are negative. AIBU to ask dd to stay in her room or is pretty pointless now?

Ds 13 recently had it, while he was coughing and spluttering he generally stayed in his room while others were about, and watched films in his bedroom in the evening rather than being downstairs with us. Dh was positive but no symptoms, and carried on as normal, and he and I shared a bed. Dd and I remained negative.

If she's happy to stay, then I'd say that is ok. If it distresses her, then no

DS(17) has isolated three times, the first he was a contact and he stayed in his room happily, second he had it and felt rotten (so was in bed anyway) the third time he was a contact but as it was only a few months post Covid he didn't isolate in his room

I think it sounds awful to distance from your child because they're unwell. But it depends on the child. Many wouldn't care at all, some might even prefer it for a spell! If my child was likely to be even a little upset by it, I wouldn't do it unless there was a very good reason (e.g. another child extremely vulnerable).

Yeah she said she spends most of the time she’s at home in her room anyway to be honest. Which is true.

I’m not really worried about catching it neither is my dh but I am worried about my 11 year old ds catching it. He has SEN and when he’s been poorly on the past he hasn’t coped well at all.

Stopping our ds6 kissing and hugging everyone was harder than a 15yo being holed up in her room!!

Ds never caught it...

My ds (15) had Covid recently and we didn't isolate from him. It felt really cruel.

None of the rest of us caught it.

@olivehater

No that is just horrible. Would you do that for any other illness? FGS are really doing this to our teenagers now?!? Do you really think that won’t do her any harm? And if you get it anyway what a waste of time it will have been.

Well, I remember being isolated in my room when a youngster for various illnesses ( mumps etc) so yes actually

Seems fair enough if she's OK with it.

I imagine most 16 year olds would be fairly grateful to be able to lock themselves away in their rooms for a few days Fully supplied with food and Netflix obviously.

I wouldn't risk my other child getting it.

My teen bloody loved isolating. Able to sleep in, kept supplied with drinks n food, didn't have to do any kitchen chores, no school, loads of screen time. His dream life basically.

A 16yo can handle staying in her room. It’s basically what they do all the time anyway.

We all carried on as normal when my dcs got it, and no one else in the house caught it.

I didn't really want to confine my kids to their rooms actually - it's miserable enough being ill and isolating. It was fine for us.

So many saying it’s not likely the rest with catch it, and yet every metric has shown the vast majority of transmission has been within households. The anecdata about my friends sister’s teacher never caught it ignores the actual data.

At 16, I’d say keeping her in her room is doable and preferable.

Well, I remember being isolated in my room when a youngster for various illnesses ( mumps etc) so yes actually

Same here. I was 7 when I had mumps and spent a week in my room with the windows open, getting food trays through the door. Same when I had Scarlett fever when I was 11.

YANBU. Provide plenty of snacks, chargers and entertainment and she'll be fine. If she wears a mask and you all stay out of the way she could spend time in the garden too if you have one.

@Shallwegoforawalk

My teen bloody loved isolating. Able to sleep in, kept supplied with drinks n food, didn't have to do any kitchen chores, no school, loads of screen time. His dream life basically.

Haha, this!

I don't know why people are saying it's cruel. Unless they have a box room or something, I guess.

My dd (17) stayed in her room when she had it, I then came down with it a day or so later and I couldn’t stay in my room as I have another dd with SEN to care for, my other dd didn’t get it. Dd1 still stayed in her room as she was sneezing and coughing everywhere where as I had no symptoms.I took her meals up to her and watered her occasionally 🤣.

Our 11 yr old just had Covid, we didn't isolate her at all and the rest of us didn't get it

Have kept my 12 year old isolated (just 2 days to go) he has loved it. Food delivered every 4 hours and he has just played PS4 and stuff, he has been very happy!

No that is just horrible. Would you do that for any other illness? FGS are really doing this to our teenagers now?!? Do you really think that won’t do her any harm? And if you get it anyway what a waste of time it will have been

Why? Why would you want to get any illness?

The rules state you should self isolate - which means away from other people. The rules should state if that’s not possible the whole family should isolate together.

This is why it’s spreading

We isolated from our 17yo and didn’t catch it. We did also give him the study so he had two rooms to move between and we spoke to him at a distance! It was fine.

My 14yo had it and no one else caught it. She wasn’t asked to stay in her room but she chooses to spend quite a bit of time there anyway. We shared a bathroom and kitchen. Most of her friends who had it didn’t pass it on to the rest of the household (and we were all PCR tested at least once and did daily lateral flows as we were in a hotspot area). I thought it was a step too far to ask her to remain in one room though, it’s her home too and she can roam as much as she likes.

You wouldn't do this for another illness. Your younger child is even less likely than the teen to get sick. You are presumably vaccinated.

My ds tested positive on Tuesday - 15 yrs old

He’s been in his room ever since

He has his own bathroom thankfully and IF he potters downstairs at any time (usually at night) he wears a mask, sanitises hands and spends as short as possible

I take food up on a tray, wear a mask

So far so good- we’re clear

So it can be done