To ask her to stay in her room

[Joslynn]

Ok so my dd tested positive for covid on Thursday. Both me and dh have taken tests and our ds and all of them are negative. AIBU to ask dd to stay in her room or is pretty pointless now?

[MzHz]

@sheeplikessleep my “little one” is 6’2” hulking great almost 16yo and he’s missed his mum as much as I’ve missed him. There have been many hugs.

He’s still feeling pretty crap tho! Can’t taste anything and still exhausted- hoping the half term will do him good

[BluebellsGreenbells]

I’m also on day 9, not sure the kids have missed me, but DH run ragged!! Oh to be me for a week!

[sheeplikessleep]

@MzHz

Ds is negative! No temperature

He’s freeeeeeee!

I have had hugs 🤣🥰

Aww I’ve really missed my 14 year old, who is out after tomorrow. Can’t wait.
DH, DS2, DS3 and myself have all stayed negative and now on day 9, I’m feeling hopeful we’ve avoided it.

[sociallydistained]

I always used to isolate as a teenager when ill and I loved it haha. I’d love it now tbh!

[MzHz]

Ds is negative! No temperature

He’s freeeeeeee!

I have had hugs 🤣🥰

[sheeplikessleep]

@MerryMarigold

I think with Lft's it has to be quite a high viral load to pick it up (which is why PCR spots it earlier). I didn't let them go out obviously but didn't feel the need to be as careful in the house. Didn't take long to get there, 5 days from symptoms max. I did 2 to make sure!

This is good to know. My 13 year old DS is in his room / bathroom and on day 5 at the moment. So far DH, DS2, DS3 and myself are symptom free/negative LFTs. He’s quite happy in there with TV, electricals and snacks. We keep video calling him and he’s been chatting to his friends through the Xbox. We are making plans for next week (assuming we all avoid it).

Thanks for idea about LFT testing a few days in.

[MerryMarigold]

I think with Lft's it has to be quite a high viral load to pick it up (which is why PCR spots it earlier). I didn't let them go out obviously but didn't feel the need to be as careful in the house. Didn't take long to get there, 5 days from symptoms max. I did 2 to make sure!

[MzHz]

Oh that’s interesting @MerryMarigold, when did you test on LFT?

Ds is still due to be isolating until Saturday morning so I suppose I could test him on Friday to see

I thought the tests pick up virus debris even if inactive

[MerryMarigold]

I only isolated mine in the house for first 4-5 days and it wasn't full isolation but common spaces such as kitchen and bathroom (they had own toilet and sink). We didn't catch it at all (DS,dh and me)
When they had a negative lateral flow I let them eat with us, use kitchen and bathroom etc.

[Rosebel]

I never even thought of issolating my children from the family, although I couldn't anyway as daughter's share a room but I still wouldn't.
There is a risk of catching it from your daughter but unless you and the rest of the family never leave the house its a risk anyway. Children at my kid's school are dropping like flies but so far my children have been fine. So being around people with Covid doesn't always mean you'll get it.
I just don't think it's fair to isolate a teenage for 10 days. I'd get bored and need some social interaction.
What are you doing about food and drink for her? What if she gets really sick but not bad enough for hospital? Surely you won't just leave her to suffer?

[JumperandJacket]

I didn’t isolate at all from DS or DD (both teens). They were both jolly ill and needed looking after. Perhaps I would have felt different if they hadn’t had symptoms but I really doubt it.

I did catch covid from DS despite being double jabbed- he accidentally coughed right in my face so hard to avoid it. It was very mild- I was far less ill than either of the kids.

[SherbertFace]

My sister made my niece stay in her room.

She left meals outside on a tray. My niece is 17. She went into the garden when everyone was out and wasn't allowed to touch anything on the way! The back door was already open for dog reasons. She did online lessons when she could and slept a lot because she actually did have Covid. It's not like when we were all just isolating when we didn't have it. Obviously much tv was watched.

[Porcupineintherough]

When I was a kid (70s) it was completely normal to be confined to bed when you were ill for rest and to avoid spreading it. I would think w a 16 year old and modern tech it would be fine and common sense.

[Cocomarine]

@pinkyxx - yep - it’s a standing here joke that I am not Uber Eats!

[frasersmummy]

My ds caught it at 15..

In normal circumstances he would be delighted if I told him he could stay in his room with his xbox and I would bring him food.

But he was very unwell with covid and there was no way I could just leave him to get on with it.. I spent hours cuddling him and re-assuring him . It would have been cruel to distance from him when he was so unwell.
And this was before vaccines and lateral flows

[MrsSkylerWhite]

At 16, I think that’s fine.

[BoredZelda]

But we’re all going to repeatedly come into contact with Covid, it’s here to stay. So you might avoid it this time, but your son is very likely to get it if unvaccinated. And you’ll come into contact with it somewhere along the line

That’s entirely different from knowing someone is infected and not avoiding them if you can. If someone got on a train with you and announced they had Covid, would you invite them to sit next to you?

[MariaAngustias]

I think it is a good idea to try to isolate her - so long as she is ok mentally, has a TV or entertainment and you leave plenty of nice food and drink for her. Obviously if she is finding it distressing then no but if she is amenable to this it is the right thing to try to protect others - no matter if people are double vaccinated they can still be really ill with covid.

[Pinkyxx]

My DD refused to leave her room when she tested positive. While I wasn't very comfortable with her staying in her room for so long, none of us caught it.

I understand she rather enjoyed the TV on tap and room service.. especially picking and choosing her meals + calling down for pudding!

[Westfacing]

During the summer holidays my grandson(15) was confined to his room for a few days - something to do with someone on the rugby team testing positive. I think the wrong instructions were given, anyway he was in his room and thoroughly enjoyed himself!

He sent pictures of the various food trays that were served by my son and was critiquing the menus for the day. Confined with games consoles and TV - think he rather enjoyed it.

[Maybe83]

My dd got it last year and we did isolate her in her room so it reduced the risk of Dh, I and her sibling getting it. She used the family bathroom wore a mask when leaving room. We brought all her meals to her door.

Disinfected all light switches handles daily. When she could come out of her room she cleaned top to bottom. I washed all her clothes and bedsheets on hottest wash possible and dumped her towels.

We didn't catch it. Its all well saying the risk is minimal but it's not definite how anyone will react once they have caught my dd was extremely ill and we needed to get her medical attention twice for her breathing.

I take the view its in our children's best interests for DH and I to be as healthy as possible so we are around for a long time to look after them.

I treated it the same as a stomach bug that none of wanted to catch.

[Jessieabs]

Obviously if this was a small child I’d be sharing a very different view, but a 16 year old with Netflix, internet, meals left outside the door, and her own bathroom! She’ll be fine

[Jessieabs]

I think you’re being perfectly reasonable to ask her to stay in her room and use a seperate bathroom. She can presumably use the garden too but walk through the house with a decent mask on. Why risk making others sick?

[KeyWorker]

For goodness sake, she is your child!! Let’s hope she doesn’t just want a hug from her Mum if she’s feeling unwell.

[Rollmopsrule]

It's entirely up to you and your family. My Dd tested positive and we didn't make her stay in her room just followed good hand hygiene and used a separate bathroom. Her symptom was just nausea though so not coughing everywhere. My Dh had already had it and both of are double jabbed. I didnt get it. Anyway only you can answer the question no matter what everyone else has experienced.