DD13 won't wear a bra

[anicesitdownandshutup]

She's a size 32DD so could do with the support, IMO. But she doesn't like bras. Obviously I can't make her wear one. I've read an article saying that not wearing a bra can make the muscles stronger so they won't droop. Her body, her choice.
Interested to hear from anyone else who has a DD with the same stance or who themselves don't wear bras.

If she’s comfortable and it’s not offensive to anybody, then she’s fine. How does she do PE?

Maybe she's a 34 D and her current Bra isnt correct hence feeling uncomfortable

Would a crop top suit her better? I use some really comfy ones from urban outfitters and they're much less annoying than traditional bras.

My 14 year old is not keen, will usually wear crop top/sports bra though when out.

Bralettes and soft crop top bras are very fashionable at the moment. Has she tried those?

I would recommend a sports bra or nothing with wires . Wired bras can feel horribly uncomfortable

My Dd 13 won’t always wear one. She’s a B cup though, not sure if it makes a real difference to need.

Just a reminder to be careful before sharing stories about your braless teens.

Lots of trolls and pervs start threads like this.

No advice as such but the Sloggi zero feel bra is amazing. I officially hate all other bras. It doesn't give loads of support but is better than none and has removable pads which can help on cold days.

I bought mine for sleeping in cos I was fed up of being caught in my jammies braless.

Has she tried a sports bra or vest type? Not as much support but more comfortable. I think your OP has the right attitude though. I would be concerned that they'll droop and she'd be insecure/regretful when she's older. But then I haven't read into what you say about muscles being stronger, so maybe my concerns would be unfounded.

As a H/J cup who was a DD at about her age too she must be in agony. At ther age I hated bras as they were underwired and painful.

Has she said why she won't wear them? Is it embarrassment or pain maybe?

Can you maybe talk to her about sports style crop tops etc?

I was a size 8, 34D and there’s no way I could go bra less. I’d find it more uncomfortable with no support. Plus I go running - should say used to go. How does she do PE?

Maybe it's the bra that's uncomfortable? If you've had her measured at M&S (I feel like this is the standard thing to do? My mum did this!) they're often incredibly wrong and fit you to one of their sizes. If she's a small frame with larger cups or a larger frame with large cups they usually get it wrong. I'd highly highly recommend bravissimo for a fitting if you have one not too far away. Maybe she'll change her mind? If she's got larger breasts she's going to want to support them and her clothes will fit better and flatter her figure.
Obviously she's quite young, is it maybe that none of her friends are wearing bras yet and maybe that's why she's reluctant

Why post this on AIBU?

Why are you interested in whether other teens wear bras or not?

You're interested in hearing about teenagers breasts??

She needs something for PE

Thanks.
She got measured in M&S and they said she's a DD. The bras she has aren't wired. She wears a bra for PE class.
We'll pick up some crop tops

Interested to hear from anyone else who has a DD with the same stance

My daughter usually doesn't wear a bra.

That's the end of that story really, not sure what else there is to say

@CloseYourEyesAndSee

You're interested in hearing about teenagers breasts??

Seems so!

Just let her decide. If she doesn't want to wear one, why push the issue?

I bearly wear them anymore let alone DD!!!

crop tops and bralettes 90% of the time these days. Bras seem devilishly uncomfortable once you've converted

Good on your DD

@anicesitdownandshutup

Thanks. She got measured in M&S and they said she's a DD. The bras she has aren't wired. She wears a bra for PE class. We'll pick up some crop tops

Right so she does wear a bra then

Are you sure that bra size is correct? Where was she fitted and how? If this wasn't with the Boob or Bust method it's likely not an accurate size. I would see if she will let you measure her first using this method or see if she'd go for a fitting at Bravissimo. If she's not wearing the right size that might be the main issue and is the most important one to address.

Has she said what it is about bras she doesn't like? Because there are sooo many types. Maybe she doesn't like padding, or underwires? I have no idea and ultimately of course she doesn't need to bother at all but it would be a shame if there was something specific that she finds uncomfortable that could be removed with a bra/bralette/crop top without the uncomfortable part that might make her feel more comfortable than even going braless. Things like Emma Jane sleep bras I'm thinking of that are just stretchy crop-tops essentially but I find that more comfortable over the course of a day than remaining braless all day. But obviously each to their own ultimately.

The bras I find most comfortable are randomly Primark’s crop top style ones with removable pads.

@anicesitdownandshutup

Thanks. She got measured in M&S and they said she's a DD. The bras she has aren't wired. She wears a bra for PE class. We'll pick up some crop tops

That’s your first mistake. Go on boob or bust on Facebook or take her to an independent who don’t use tape measures