DD13 won't wear a bra

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She's a size 32DD so could do with the support, IMO. But she doesn't like bras. Obviously I can't make her wear one. I've read an article saying that not wearing a bra can make the muscles stronger so they won't droop. Her body, her choice.
Interested to hear from anyone else who has a DD with the same stance or who themselves don't wear bras.

My dd is a DD too and hates wearing bras, she often wears crop tops from odd balls but really her boobs are too big for them, she has a couple bras from M&S that she wears to school, as soon as she gets home she takes the bra off.

I wear bralettes and am a bigger cup than your DD. It has been a revelation in comfort and support. No more shoulder marks from bra straps and no more underwire.

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I’m a HH and I very rarely wear a bra - literally only to the gym or if I need to with an outfit. I stopped wearing them in lockdown and I haven’t looked back. I’m surprisingly so much more comfortable without one.

I was exactly the same. I needed one and wanted one but argued with my mother that I didn’t as I just found it all so embarrassing and hideous.

I have massive boobs and as soon as I left home at 18 I bought my own. I just couldn’t bear the thought of my mum seeing /touching / washing them.

I suppose if I’d been flat chested it wouldn’t have been such an issue.

Go to asda they are lovely and soft and 2 for 12 pound. Or victoria secrets memory foam bra

M&S do some really nice super-soft t-shirt/sports type crop-tops.
They're so comfortable, she wouldn't even know she was wearing it.

Can’t really say I blame her, I would just leave it she will sort it out herself..

I don't know if not wearing a bra actually leads to more actual droopage, though obviously the boobs might appear more droopy.

I don't think it makes much real difference.

I spent my teen years being bullied for my size, not least because my parents wouldn't buy me clothes that actually fitted me around the chest (between an E and F cup since teens) so I was literally busting out of tops in class and forced to wear a jumper all year round. I was bullied by my family for not wearing one, which I'd need to pay for from the £1 they gave me each week for needs including for sanitary products (so took ages due to size and issues getting right size in those days) - when I did wear one the bullying got worse, by staff as well as pupils. I was caught between a rock and hard place and it was horrible.

My point is there may be more going on here (hopefully not due to you forcing her into clothes that are too small).

I’m a 34D. I mainly wear crop bras… Simiya comfort bra on Amazon, size large. Can’t bear to wear normal bras now, they’re so comfy.

That's horrible Becca :(. I'm sorry you went through that. God what did your parents expect if they wouldn't buy you appropriate clothes.

@anicesitdownandshutup I don't wear bras ☺️ they just make me ache! Sometimes I wear a crop top under a T-shirt

M&S are awful. Do you have a. Bravissimo? They measure correctly and aiding do moulded vest tops so she could discuss fear she finds uncomfortable & try things on

Agree with others that M&S are very bad for fitting. So are John Lewis actually. I ended up wearing the wrong sized bra as a result of bad fitting advice all through my teens and early twenties (36C, which rode up and dug in and was not supportive at all). In the end I ended up wearing those huge stretchy Doreen unwired type crossover bras just to get some support, but they didn’t fit either!

When the revolution in bras for bigger breasts took off in the late 2000s with companies like Bravissimo and Miss Mandalay, I discovered I was actually a 32DD, and suddenly I could get bras that fit well which was a revelation! Also, I found that the styles of bra I had been wearing were all wrong for my shape. It turned out that underwired deep cup bras with a side support panel worked really well for me. Some companies just do a shape that fits your particular body, so you need to try a few different companies and styles on to find the right ones. I find Fantasie and Miss Mandalay good for me, and I just can’t wear most high street bras with the flimsy cups no matter what I do. They end up a bit more expensive, but it’s worth it for the fit.

So your DD could well be wearing badly sized bras in a shape which doesn’t fit her personally very well. It might also be that crop tops and bralettes might be better as I mentioned upthread, but it also could be that she’s buying the bras which she likes the look of, or that other girls have, but they might just be all wrong for her shape so she then thinks all bras are uncomfortable. With bigger breasts you really have to learn to let go of your idea of what you like the look of, and go for the right shape rather than the initial look of the garment. There are loads of nice bras out there for bigger sizes now - but they largely aren’t in M&S or Next or whatever!

In my experience m and s are terrible at bra fitting and mostly measure wrong. Try somewhere like boob or busts measuring technique and she might find something more comfy.

@skybluee they were obsessed with me being the size they wished, not the size I was to be clear I wasn't accusing the OP of doing that, just sometimes it's not as clear cut as it appears e.g. bullying happens about chest size and can make someone really uncomfortable.

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A DD cup is quite big, especially for a 13 year old. She really should be wearing a bra. Her chest needs support. Could you encourage her? Buy a few for her to try?

I was the same at that age, absolutely hated the thought of bras but did not like the attention that having braless boobs attracted. Part of it was feeling uncomfortable about growing up, is she relaxed in general? There are tonnes of nice sports bras and crop tops that she may prefer.

No reason for her to wear a bra if she doesn't want to.

I have never worn a bra I’m now 56 and my boobs still point upwards !!! I’m about a 48d I think ??? I hate them they make me feel so uncomfortable. If I really have to wear one I wear a crop top type of thing

She's highly unlikely to be that size. Probably much smaller in the band and bigger in the cup. Take her to bravissimo or rigby&peller.

I don't really trust m and S after they sold me a horribly uncomfortable bra and I overheard the fitter tell her colleagues 'she was getting better'. Now I know they have to learn but still. I go to bravissimo now and they always seem to know what I need.

My teen DD’s 18/16/14 don’t really like bras either. They will wear the ones without underwire and sports bra type ones but nothings underwired. I think in general bras are changing to make them more comfortable and practical. At 13 I’m not surprised your DD feels the way she does. As long as she’s comfortable I wouldn’t worry.