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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want him to just die?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 08/10/2021 01:34

Some of you will know my history but for those that dont...

horrifically abusive ex, attempted murder of me that didnt get to court thanks to a police fuck up. Had a trigger moment today that has left me in pieces. Spoke to a "friend" who said that I shoudlnt wish him dead as that is horrible thing to wish on anyone.

AIBU.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 08/10/2021 01:37

I want to talk to someone tonight but what I need is a mate so sorry for being needy!

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girlmom21 · 08/10/2021 01:38

I wish he was dead too. What a cunt. Hope you're ok Thanks

ZealAndArdour · 08/10/2021 01:38

YANBU.

TheChiefJo · 08/10/2021 01:40

It is quite natural under those circumstances to have those feelings. 💐

TreeSmuggler · 08/10/2021 01:43

Totally normal, your friend is being a bit of a prude. I've wished people dead for doing things not even 1% as bad as what you've described.

Owlink · 08/10/2021 01:45

What a daft thing for your friend to say. Go ahead & wish the bastard dead.

Lockdownbear · 08/10/2021 01:46

YANBU - he wanted you dead after all.

Hope you are OK.

AlmostAJillSandwich · 08/10/2021 01:47

You are doing NOTHING wrong.
Some people deserve to be hated to this extreme.

MimiDaisy11 · 08/10/2021 01:50

It seems normal given what you’ve been through.

Maybe your friend was worried about you and that wishing someone dead usually isn’t good for you.

Sorry you’ve been through that.

FluffyWhiteBird · 08/10/2021 01:50

No. YANBU. The world would be a much better place if the worst of humanity all suddenly died at once. Sorry the police messed up. Glad you're not dead. Flowers

Furtherdownthespiral · 08/10/2021 01:50

YANBU

Sounds like the world would be a better place without this abusive murderous cunt in it anyway

I hope you manage to find some peace, you're obviously a very strong woman Flowers

FluffyWhiteBird · 08/10/2021 01:52

@PyongyangKipperbang

I want to talk to someone tonight but what I need is a mate so sorry for being needy!
I see you on here a lot (I notice because I love your username) giving people advice. You go ahead and be as needy as you have to be. Smile
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PyongyangKipperbang · 08/10/2021 01:55

Sorry guys (again, apologising for being me!) just being a bit....ya know.

THank you xx

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Kanaloa · 08/10/2021 01:56

I think things like that a lot. It’s not like you’re actually going to murder him, you just wish he wasn’t here anymore. At least then he couldn’t harm anyone else.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 08/10/2021 01:58

Its just been a bit shit lately anyway and then today was a proper kick in the the cunt by a friend I value who meant no malice. She had no idea that what she said may have upset anyone.

Sorry again and thank you xx

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Aquamarine1029 · 08/10/2021 02:01

I wish the vile bastard dead on your behalf.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 08/10/2021 02:02

@Kanaloa

I think things like that a lot. It’s not like you’re actually going to murder him, you just wish he wasn’t here anymore. At least then he couldn’t harm anyone else.
Boris (another cunt!) promised me that he would die of Covid and he didnt! (Age, health, weight,race and him being a prick...ex not boris....having said that... :o) So no I wouldnt murder him but I rather hoped that it would happen somehow!
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BlackeyedSusan · 08/10/2021 02:06

wow. some friend.

QueenBee52 · 08/10/2021 02:07

Ditch the Bitch

Hope you are ok OP 🌸

FluffyWhiteBird · 08/10/2021 02:09

What does he look like? Maybe we could collectively make a voodoo doll here from what's in our houses and mentally stick pins in it.

Sorry about the situation with your friend. Is it possible that it's human failing and not being perfect? Or is it that a lot of people only seem nice because you don't really know them? Then they say stuff and you start to know them better and decide you don't like them after all.

Imarriedaviking · 08/10/2021 02:20

YANBU
hugs to you

AcrossthePond55 · 08/10/2021 02:20

It's a hard one. I was raised probably in the same school of thought as your friend, that you should never 'ill wish' anyone, that curses come home to roost.

So I just say "God/Universe/whoever or whatever one conceives him/her to be, May receive exactly what they truly deserve in this life". Then I leave it up to that higher power to decide what that is. Chicken way out, I suppose, because that higher power knows exactly what I'm thinking, I'm sure.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 08/10/2021 02:21

She didnt know. I dont blame her for a second, it was just an off the cuff comment she made that strung me out. There was no malice behind it, she is the kindest person I know!

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BudrosBudrosGalli · 08/10/2021 02:40

Why don't you write out some particularly original and unique ways for this bastard to die and illustrate them. It's quite a good way to deal with such justified anger. The more gruesome and heinous the better!

SeaToSki · 08/10/2021 02:52

I always thought carving someone’s guts out with a spoon was quite a creative way to cause a very painful and slow death. Cant remember where I read it, but the idea was intriguing for the absolute bastards in life