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Original poster

to think a big thumb is not good on whatsapp?

120 replies

FreeekStarz · 02/09/2021 22:46

That's it really- I just gave my friend a big thumbs up- AIBU to hope she gets the message I'm not interested in her innane smiling photos in designer outfits outside every tourist attraction in the uk?

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Hobnobsandbroomstick · 02/09/2021 22:57

Someone's jelly!

LondonGrimmer · 02/09/2021 22:59

And this is your friend you say?

Original poster
FreeekStarz · 02/09/2021 22:59

I'm definitely not! She hasn't been anywhere I haven't been- they don't go in anywhere, they just pose outside!

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Hekatestorch · 02/09/2021 23:00

Why does it matter what she wears?

Is she really your friend?

BowiesJumper · 02/09/2021 23:07

You don’t seem to like your poor friend!

Original poster
FreeekStarz · 02/09/2021 23:07

But what about the thumb?

She is a friend but that doesn't mean I need daily update photos does it? It's all about the clothes for her- her life is one long fashion shoot.

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Hekatestorch · 02/09/2021 23:10

But if she is a friend, what's the issue?

Don't all friends have slightly annoying trait.

Anyway, a thumbs up (to me) is 'I can't think of a response, but I like this'

Smidge001 · 02/09/2021 23:10

Err... Why would a thumbs up mean you're NOT interested in them? Confused surely a thumbs up is a universal sign for being positive about something?

Surely if you're not interested you should send a picture of someone yawning with boredom or something?

Original poster
FreeekStarz · 02/09/2021 23:11

Why is she a poor friend? Do you send your friends photos of yourself posing every day? I don't send her so many photos... It doesn't occur to me that that everyone is going to be that interested in where I am very day. None of my other friends do this!

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DamnFoolWhoShotHim · 02/09/2021 23:11

Really?

Come on! Even if you can't be bothered to see your friends outfits just say something nice. Lift each other up.

ElizabethTudor · 02/09/2021 23:11

👍🏻

ElizabethTudor · 02/09/2021 23:12

👍 Thumbs Up
Emoji Meaning
A thumbs-up gesture indicating approval.

She’s going to think you’re loving it!!

JaneJeffer · 02/09/2021 23:15

This thread is a 👎 from me.

iklboo · 02/09/2021 23:17

Uh-huh

wheretoliveplz · 02/09/2021 23:18

My friend does this sometimes. Sends me pics of his lavish holiday and amazing expensive meals and clothes (knowing I can't afford any of that), sends me pics of himself looking very thin saying he feels fat (knowing I am actually clinically fat and depressed about it), send me pictures of his skin glowing saying he's fed up of his skin (knowing I have bad cystic acne that gets me down). It does upset me sometimes, and yes I'll admit in a jealous sort of way, but that's MY problem not his so I always send a nice message back, even if through gritted teeth because he is my friend and just because things aren't going great for me doesn't mean I wish it upon him.

Notashandyta · 02/09/2021 23:19

Doesn't the thumb go big when that's all you send??

So nothing negative there I'm afraid..!

JaneJeffer · 02/09/2021 23:19

He's not your friend @wheretoliveplz

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FreeekStarz · 02/09/2021 23:19

Ok, so do you think the thumbs up is going to encourage her? I always think of a thumbs up as a non committal 'great' and a sign of lack of interest really. She will be hoping for a gushing comment about how fantastic she looks...and how I love her outfit because that's what is important to her. Whilst I want to be her friend, I don't want to have to gush on a daily basis! Less watsaap messages would be good!

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wobblywinelover · 02/09/2021 23:23

Sounds like your big thumbs up was done in a passive aggressive way. I can appreciate you might be annoyed but you're best off not responding if she bores or annoys you. I have similar acquaintances on social media and if they annoy me I just scroll past but I appreciate that's different to being PM'd photos. Don't respond and she'll get the message that you're not going to give her the adoration she clearly wants by sending you multiple photos like this. Otherwise you're just going to add fuel to her fire. Maybe time to cool this friendship off..?

Notalotofinspiration · 02/09/2021 23:23

I have heard before that thumbs up basically means "fuck off" .. having said that, I use it to mean "awesome (but I don't really have anything else to say)" and it seems that the majority of this thread agrees 🤷‍♀️👍

danadas · 02/09/2021 23:24

WhatsApp is featuring heavily in tonight's active threads Grin

WeirdCouncil · 02/09/2021 23:26

👌

WeirdCouncil · 02/09/2021 23:27

👍. BIG THUMB

Lolamambam · 02/09/2021 23:46

Ignore the hate OP!
I would do the same if someone was bombarding me with their boring showy off-y bullshit pics, and hope they got the message! It doesn’t mean they’re not your friend.. friends are allowed to get on your tits at times.
It’s basically saying “that’s nice for you” but not inviting any further conversation. I hope your friend gets the hint!

Anon778833 · 02/09/2021 23:48

I put thumbs up when I’m interested in something.

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