to think a big thumb is not good on whatsapp?

[FreeekStarz]

That's it really- I just gave my friend a big thumbs up- AIBU to hope she gets the message I'm not interested in her innane smiling photos in designer outfits outside every tourist attraction in the uk?

@wheretoliveplz

My friend does this sometimes. Sends me pics of his lavish holiday and amazing expensive meals and clothes (knowing I can't afford any of that), sends me pics of himself looking very thin saying he feels fat (knowing I am actually clinically fat and depressed about it), send me pictures of his skin glowing saying he's fed up of his skin (knowing I have bad cystic acne that gets me down). It does upset me sometimes, and yes I'll admit in a jealous sort of way, but that's MY problem not his so I always send a nice message back, even if through gritted teeth because he is my friend and just because things aren't going great for me doesn't mean I wish it upon him.

@wheretoliveplz - your friend sounds like a bit of a self centred prick to be honest 🤷🏼‍♀️ sorry you have to put up with so much insensitivity from a 'friend' 🤯

This is hilarious 😂 so many people who clearly didn’t get the memo about the ‘single emoticon response’ and must receive it regularly.

I get you op, if I send a single emoticon it means, you n the nicest possible way ‘I can’t be arsed for this, piss off’.

If they then reply with something else I gradually add an extra emoticon to the first.

👍
👍😊
👍😊😘

The highest I’ve gotten before they’ve got the message is four.

I kind of empathise OP! I'll probably get so much hate for admitting this but a friend of mine sends me multiple photos of her son on a regular basis and it drives me mad. I probably receive more pics of him than I take of my own. I'm not sure about this modern approach to sharing every tiny little thing you do with anyone who may be remotely interested. I mean yes, he is a lovely boy, and very cute, but I run out of non-repetitive things to say in response. And I'm sure mom thinks the little Picasso's new creation is a world class masterpiece but I don't feel the same enthusiasm for it 🙈🙈🙈

I remember in a TV show someone asked the person they didn't want photos from how you stopped photos going into your gallery as they had to delete them all and it was time consuming!!!

It was in Motherland. Amanda's mum about photos of the grandchildren!

Is this a reverse?

If it annoys you so much just don’t respond with anything. She might then get the message.

Is your friend sending the photos specifically to you or as part of a group chat? If someone was personally sending me photos like that all the time, I'd get fed up too. Part of a group chat though, I'd just ignore them and let everyone else do the inane gushing.

This thread has been an education for me. So big thumbs up on its own can mean 'aye right'/'that's nice dear' or something similar? I think I'm going to have to step away from the emojis. Christ knows what I've been saying to people!

@NashvilleQueen

It was in Motherland. Amanda's mum about photos of the grandchildren!

Ah yes of course. I remember now!

A single thumb from me means 'very nice, you're boring me, off you fuck now'.

Defo a thumbs up. But she probably won’t understand it. I always have this conversation with my husband. Thumbs up is a bad thing. It’s a way of saying ‘this is so boring I’m just going to send a thumb’.

is this what you meant?
If a Thumbs Up Emoji could talk, it would be screaming at you. "Shut up! I don't want to have this conversation! Just do whatever you want! Whatever you're doing, do it, and leave me out of it! Do not involve me in this or any aspect of your life! DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND THAT I DON'T CARE!" If you were talking to someone in real life, and they ended the conversation with a thumbs up before silently walking off, you wouldn't want to talk to that person anymore, because they are rude. Same rules apply here.
taken from www.joe.ie/life-style/ranking-10-passive-aggressive-ways-end-text-conversation-690970

for me it's still a positive sign

My mum uses the thumbs up when she wants the conversation to end😂at least I know now though!

Just mute her and she'll get the message when you don't respond.

Ooh this has made me worry a bit as I often send a 👍 but never meant it in a negative way. I’m 43, is that old enough for people to realise I didn’t mean to tell them to fuck off?

I use thumbs up to mean I agree with you or I've got and like your message, I haven't ignored you, but I don't have anything to say about your message. So yes, I probably would use it for repeated photo messages of a holiday.

A handful of messages from a friend in holiday, I'd be pleased she was having a good time though.

I found this article about emojis used by older people. I'm 50 and use 1, 2 and 6

www.google.com/amp/s/metro.co.uk/2021/04/01/sorry-but-if-you-use-these-10-emoji-youre-officially-old-14340470/amp/

Hmmm. I occasionally use a thumbs up when I reach the end of a WhatsApp convo, and use it instead of writing that's fine/no problem/okay. I'm in my 30s and haven't lost a friend over it yet! But then my friends and I aren't passive aggressive, if anyone displays annoying behaviour we say it straight in a nice way. If you can't do that, OP, then best method for you is to not reply.

I agree with the op actually, nothing more annoying than a bragging boaster sending you daily updates its fucking boring 😴

Just mute the conversation.

The bigger the thumbs up the more sarky you're being imo

Oh what a minefield. I thought the bigger the thumbs up the more enthusiastic I was being. Leaving it standard one click size seems lazy

Surely just don't reply if you hate it

To me the thumb is just a sign of acknowledgment when you don't need to or don't have time for a full reply. Ie if I'm at work but want to confirm I've seen it, or at the end of a conversation when final arrangements are made just to sign off with an acknowledgment. Re the pictures it's fine as she sends a lot you don't need to respond fully to every single one but nice to show you've looked. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[quote FreeekStarz]@Lolamambam you've exactly what I was trying to say! At least someone was on the same wavelength as me...

Seems the big thumb means different things to different people.[/quote]
I’m confused that hardly anyone gets what you mean?! Don’t worry, I’m with you haha. X

@Bryonyshcmyony

Surely just don't reply if you hate it

She doesn’t want to upset her friend though. She wants to acknowledge that she has seen the photos to be polite, but she is a bit fed up with receiving them so is being a vague as possible, without being rude, to hope her friend gets the gentle hint. Leaving her on read wouldn’t be very nice. Sometimes friends can be a bit annoying x