to think a big thumb is not good on whatsapp?

[FreeekStarz]

That's it really- I just gave my friend a big thumbs up- AIBU to hope she gets the message I'm not interested in her innane smiling photos in designer outfits outside every tourist attraction in the uk?

Oh yeah it’s definitely the ultimate passive aggressive, “yeah I really don’t care enough to write a response to you.” Or, “You’re wrong but I CBA to argue with you.”

Yeah the thumbs up is a passive aggressive signal for 'well done you, I don't care'

I am one who has used it as ‘great’ or ‘well done’ or ‘ok see you there’ etc. Luckily those I use it with do the same so unless we are all telling each other to ‘fuck off’ and then showing up for a great fun dinner or whatever (!?) then I’ll just have to continue. With dp who is aware of the F off potential we often use three now - in positive vibe.

This thread has been informative, thank you OP. I shall watch my use of 👍 in future, though I think in my workplace we all use it to mean "seen and agreed", even the millennials.

(Although as a dedicated follower of the S&B board I'd be more than happy to see what your "friend" was wearing every day.)

Hahaha I'm like this though I couldn't bare someone sending me posy photos all the time 🤣

How does a little thumbs up mean 'I like this' but a big thumbs up means 'fuck off'? There is zero logic to that at all.

Personally, I'd ignore the pictures (or delete WhatsApp because social media is the devil's bollocks) rather than encouraging her.

It sounds very passive aggressive in both directions.

She’s saying ‘look how much nicer my life is than yours!’

And you’re saying ‘yeah fuck off love’.

But you’re both friends?

Ha ha, I just asked teenage DD- she says the big thumb is definitely saying saying, 'bully for you' in her world in the context I used it. It's 50/50 whether friend will see it that way.

I do you use thumbs up sometimes to signal an agreement on an arrangement so in a different context it's not negative but just means great/ok/see you there etc.

@Seawo

This is hilarious 😂 so many people who clearly didn’t get the memo about the ‘single emoticon response’ and must receive it regularly.

I get you op, if I send a single emoticon it means, you n the nicest possible way ‘I can’t be arsed for this, piss off’.

If they then reply with something else I gradually add an extra emoticon to the first.

👍
👍😊
👍😊😘

The highest I’ve gotten before they’ve got the message is four.

Bloody hell how do people have the energy for this passive aggressive shit? If I’m not interested in something someone sends me I just don’t reply.

I’m sure she will be absolutely devastated by your message of a thumbs up 😂

I've always thought the big thumb means you really like something but if you use it when it's just an everyday thing it seems a bit much, so could be sarcastic, like saying something is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!

A rollseyes emoji would be more suitable I'd have thought, at least it can't be misinterpreted.

Bloody hell how do people have the energy for this passive aggressive shit? If I’m not interested in something someone sends me I just don’t reply

Yup. So. Much. Time. Wasted.

I use thumbs up sarcastically in messages. Quite a lot of people I know do.

Sarcastically to be nasty? And yet just ignoring something is too mean? Right.

Gosh I wouldn't have a clue. A thumbs up is a 'good' sign and it wouldn't cross my mind it meant something else. I'm autistic and literally have no idea how to read passive aggression or somehow magically turn a universal symbol into something the sender imagines it to mean. Posts like this actually make me appreciate my straight thinking though. How much energy do you people waste with this kind of crap?

I thought it was a good thing!
Oh for goodness sake.

@Notalotofinspiration

I have heard before that thumbs up basically means "fuck off" .. having said that, I use it to mean "awesome (but I don't really have anything else to say)" and it seems that the majority of this thread agrees 🤷‍♀️👍

In what sort of universe would thumbs up mean fuck off?

Good point @Bryonyshcmyony.

Surely if this person is actually your friend, OP, it's better to politely ignore the photos than send what you hope might be construed as a sarcastic 'alrighty then, now eff off while I get on with my day'. If she figures out what you mean, she might not be your friend for much longer. Or maybe you're hoping to be able to backtrack and say you were giving her the thumbs up to be nice. In which case, you're seeking out confrontation while giving yourself a get out clause. I'm exhausted just thinking about it!👍

If I'm not interested I just open the message and don't reply..

Even more embarrassingly I didn’t discover this from some cool teen but from a real housewives episode where the women were shocked at how rude the thumbs upper had been. Not for the first time watching that rubbish I thought ‘what on earth? That can’t be real’.

I think in my workplace we all use it to mean "seen and agreed", even the millennials.

Yeah us too.

I see a lot of overthinking the thumb on this thread

I think the thumbs up is a positive sign 🤷‍♀️

See, I think ignoring is far more blatantly rude! An emoji is an acknowledgement with just a subtle hint that I'm maybe not that interested- I'm hoping it just makes her question whether or not I want to see soo many photos all the time. I don't want stop all conversation with her, just want her to stop with the self-promoting stuff.

I'm a bit concerned by this! I've never sent a passive-aggressive thumbs-up; they've always been a genuine sign of approval/well done type thing.