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DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:04

Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:07

@diamondpony80 Yes! 👍🏻

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:08

@YukoandHiro yes...when I'm dead..😵

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YouJustFoldItIn · 02/09/2021 22:08

Why ON EARTH would you offer to make someone dinner when they've come to your house to carry out a service that you are paying them for? That's just weird.

ineedsun · 02/09/2021 22:09

I just don’t get it, when he suggested it, why didn’t you say ‘no, that’s really weird’?

My version would have had more swearing

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:10

@YouJustFoldItIn I felt the same, but he offered the steak on the spot; no discussion with me. Felt like I couldn't put the words back in his mouth!

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CorianderBee · 02/09/2021 22:11

Also I live in London and the steak is the same price here as in Yorkshire. Aka, not £40 unless you decide to go to a super fancy butcher and get Wagyu

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:11

@ineedsun I did feel awkward about it but I know it came from a good place and that place was not his crotch! Despite the presumptions!

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RosesandPumpkins · 02/09/2021 22:13

I feel this may become an MN Classic. Couples massage… steak dinner… being charged for it… bonkers!

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:13

If I'm honest, I didn't see how much steak he bought. As a veggie, I'm not in the habit of checking it out. 🤢 Furthermore, it was devoured before the £20 was deducted from the bills!

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ineedsun · 02/09/2021 22:16

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@ineedsun I did feel awkward about it but I know it came from a good place and that place was not his crotch! Despite the presumptions![/quote]
I wasn’t even thinking of that. I don’t really like talking to beauty therapists / hairdressers (or anyone I have to make small talk with) I can’t imagine sitting down to dinner with someone in this role unless I knew them really well.

BeesButterflies · 02/09/2021 22:16

As a former beautician I would have found that a rather strange offering 🤔

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:17

@ineedsun true. Me too.

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knittingaddict · 02/09/2021 22:18

The weirdness of that op is off the scale.

I can't imagine a person being so desperate for validation that they feed someone steak in these circumstances. Would he feed the boiler man in similar circumstances?

WrongWayApricot · 02/09/2021 22:19

Feel like I'm gonna hear this story on a true crime show one day when they interview the beautician about her lucky escape from the steak massage couple.

Winter2019 · 02/09/2021 22:19

My baby is sleeping next to me and I'm trying not to laugh out loud 🤣🤣🤣 the comments....and the thread itself 🤣🤣🤣

knittingaddict · 02/09/2021 22:20

@hedgehogger1

Nothing about this makes sense
I think that sums it up perfectly.
Wiredforsound · 02/09/2021 22:21

OP, my window cleaner is coming round on Thursday. Can you ask your husband to suggest a menu?

georgarina · 02/09/2021 22:21

Trying not to wake the baby up laughing at this mental image! Cooking the massage therapist a steak?! I'm loving it thanks for that lol

TokyoSushi · 02/09/2021 22:22

ConfusedConfusedGrin

me4real · 02/09/2021 22:22

The poor therapist, having to sit there and eat with random clients.

It certainly does seem as if he fancies her and maybe even hopes for a menage a trois.

Lots of people/men unfortunately make certain assumptions or fantasies about massage therapists/women who do massages, so it's not necessarily relevant that she's not his usual type.

ChargingBuck · 02/09/2021 22:22

@Wiredforsound

OP, my window cleaner is coming round on Thursday. Can you ask your husband to suggest a menu?
Glass noodles, obvs.
Wiredforsound · 02/09/2021 22:23

Steak Massage Couple is up there with Penis Beaker.

amc8583 · 02/09/2021 22:25

I don't think I've read anything more bizarre.

surreygirl1987 · 02/09/2021 22:25

This is such a weird story.

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 22:27

@knittingaddict he is the boiler man!

@Wiredforsound pray tell! Not heard that one before!

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