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DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:04

Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:28

@user1471531150 I'm so glad I'm the reason for you posting first time! I'm truly honoured! 😘

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ceilingfaninmyspoon · 02/09/2021 21:29

This is all very Covidy

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:29

@Butterflyfluff oh lovely, you know me so well...already!

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ChateauxNeufDePoop · 02/09/2021 21:30

@atleastthepoochlovesme

Ok, ok!! Let me explain...again..

I had my massage first while DH cooked steak.

Beautician ate steak whilst I ate Quorn.

Beautician finished steak.

Beautician gave DH massage.

Beautician left.

DH ate steak.

Dishwasher did the dishes!

What's the dishwashers name?
NavigationCentral · 02/09/2021 21:30

The fuck….

Neverrains · 02/09/2021 21:30

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@IWasBornInAThunderstorm hotplate/microwave[/quote]
He paid £20 for a fillet steak then put it in the microwave? 😱

thefirstmrsrochester · 02/09/2021 21:31

Thank you thank you OP, you have fair lightened up my crappy wee life today 😂, I feel like I’ve called down a rabbit hole and ended up in the most bonkers place.

IWasBornInAThunderstorm · 02/09/2021 21:31

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@IWasBornInAThunderstorm hotplate/microwave[/quote]
A £20 steak?!! In the microwave?!

CandyLeBonBon · 02/09/2021 21:34

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@burritofan....ermmm nope! He invited her for food. I just wanted a massage.[/quote]
Genuine question op... who apart from your dh, do you know who has ever offered their mobile beautician a 'between massage' steak? I'm honestly baffled!! 😂

Bbq1 · 02/09/2021 21:36

@Bancha

I’m trying to picture the beautician sitting down in your house, eating a steak alone, while your DH enjoys the compliments. After she’s given you both a massage. But I can’t picture it, at all. My brain can’t do it!
The weirdest thing EVER is the fact that the beautician ACCEPTED AND ATE THE STEAK!! Any normal beautician would run and still be running if a client offered them a steak dinner!! Mmm.. Makes me think that the service being offered was something more than a standard massage...
atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:36

I know! Microwaving a fillet steak is a cardinal sin for chrisakes! 10 hail Mary's, 5 our Father's and a Glory be!

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OfNick · 02/09/2021 21:36

This is weird... You had your beautician/masseuse sit with you for a steak after? Is she a friend? Sorry but it would seem to me that DH is attracted to her.. this is too weird for words!

BrilliantBetty · 02/09/2021 21:36

Go in to that butchers and take a picture of these £40 steaks for us please, that he's serving to acquaintances / beauticians.

It's really unlikely he spent £40 on a slab of raw meat so I think he is having you on and you paid for both their dinners.

MumofSpud · 02/09/2021 21:37

Sorry - I just cannot get past the cooking a steak dinner for your masseuse - is this a euphemism?

Excelthetube · 02/09/2021 21:37

Omg
I thought you would say don’t be silly he didn’t microwave a £20 steak. Just the veg.

A steak takes 10 mins to cook.

This for me is the MOST bizarre part of the thread. Microwaving a steak.

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:37

@CandyLeBonBon absolutely nobody in their right mind!

@thefirstmrsrochester that makes me smile.😁

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neveradullmoment99 · 02/09/2021 21:37

@ohidoliketobe

Sorry, I can't answer your question about the steak. I'm still really confused that he cooked a steak dinner for the therapist who had just given you a couples massage... And she just sat and ate it? In your home? Confused
This. Weird.
FibroidFanny · 02/09/2021 21:38

The steak cost £40? Of course it didn't, tell him to fuck off with his ridiculousness

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:39

@Excelthetube I know, right?

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accentdusoleil · 02/09/2021 21:40

Have you checked the receipt ? Trust no one

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:41

@FibroidFanny you sound like my best friend! Are you?! Are you Leila? 🤣

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Polkadots2021 · 02/09/2021 21:41

Why is a beautician giving you a massage and not a massage therapist?

BrilliantBetty · 02/09/2021 21:42

We need to hear from the beautician as to what really went on / how weird an experience this was for her

ivfbabymomma1 · 02/09/2021 21:42

So weird she accepted the steak!!

CorianderBee · 02/09/2021 21:42

It's really weird to make a beautician a steak tbh