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DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:04

Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

OP posts:
CaptainHammer · 02/09/2021 21:42

Lynn, these are sex people

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:43

Next question...DH doesn't know I've posted on here...should I let him read all these comments? 🤔

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StuffYouAllInTheCrust · 02/09/2021 21:43

@MysweetAudrina

Are you sure it was steak and not pulled pork?
PMSL Grin
GeorgiaMcGraw · 02/09/2021 21:44

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@IWasBornInAThunderstorm hotplate/microwave[/quote]
No, no, I'm sorry, this has gone too damn far now. It was all fun and games until your husband MICROWAVED A £20 STEAK. Please get him on here to explain himself! What is this madness? What is this disrespect?!

Bluntness100 · 02/09/2021 21:44

I’m sure this is a wind up. Now he microwaved rhe steak?

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:44

@CaptainHammer sounds like an invite? But regretfully, we decline!

@Polkadots2021 she does beauty stuff and massages. Maybe I used the wrong terminology.

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Myusernameisnotmyusernameno · 02/09/2021 21:45

This is so bizarre it's unbelievable. I went to a woman's house for a spray tan and I really couldn't imagine anything weirder than cooking for her after. Yes I know this was at your house but it doesn't make it any less weird. Surely he paid for the massage why would he cook. Was he hoping for 'extras'?

arethereanyleftatall · 02/09/2021 21:46

He loves cooking so much that he puts a fillet steak in the microwave?

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:47

@GeorgiaMcGraw @Bluntness100
I wouldn't be surprised if that £20 included the wear and tear and electric used for the microwave oven to re-heat the steak! 🤣

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Famousinlove · 02/09/2021 21:47

This is 50 shades of fucked up

coodawoodashooda · 02/09/2021 21:47

@ohidoliketobe

Sorry, I can't answer your question about the steak. I'm still really confused that he cooked a steak dinner for the therapist who had just given you a couples massage... And she just sat and ate it? In your home? Confused
Me too. That's weird.
Crispyturtle · 02/09/2021 21:47

This is the thread that keeps on giving; not only is your DH making hideously expensive steak for a paid masseuse, you’ve got some exhausting financial set-up and don’t want to pay the worlds most awkward steak dinner because you’re veggie, you’ve managed to shoe-horn in your holidays in five-star resorts and now your DH who ‘loves to cook’ is reheating 20 quid steak in a bloody microwave? I’m dying here, it’s honestly the most bonkers thread I’ve ever read Grin

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 21:47

@arethereanyleftatall yup! I know, I know. 😞

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MeredithGreyishblue · 02/09/2021 21:47

Please tell us what you get up to tomorrow! And every day after that.

Your life is like a weird art house film.

Kuachui · 02/09/2021 21:48

This sounds really wierd.... If I was the therapist I would think the steak was poisoned and I was about to be hannibald

Like wife and husband bathing in my blood.. Turning me into steak or something.

This is all really creepy.

Onelovelyone · 02/09/2021 21:48

I think it’s very strange to charge you £20 but I also think it’s strange to cook for the person doing the beauty treatment. Was there something else going on?

liveforsummer · 02/09/2021 21:48

No, no, I'm sorry, this has gone too damn far now. It was all fun and games until your husband MICROWAVED A £20 STEAK. Please get him on here to explain himself! What is this madness? What is this disrespect?!

Yes! I usually read the full thread but skipped to the end to comment after I read this abomination! Even more shocking than asking the masseuse in the first place or her accepting. Actually no, it isn't - but it's still bizarre for someone who likes to be praised for cooking abilities!

Hoolihan · 02/09/2021 21:49

@SummerHouse

I normally tip the hairdresser but maybe I will offer to grill her some garlic prawns next time.
Aaahahahaaaaahahhhaaaaaaa 🤣🤣🤣
katieak · 02/09/2021 21:50

@MeredithGreyishblue

Please tell us what you get up to tomorrow! And every day after that.

Your life is like a weird art house film.

I agree. Please report daily OP
Dasher789 · 02/09/2021 21:50

This is so weird but it has made my night Grin

TomNookk · 02/09/2021 21:51

wtf

liveforsummer · 02/09/2021 21:51

@atleastthepoochlovesme

Next question...DH doesn't know I've posted on here...should I let him read all these comments? 🤔
Please do, and update with his response 😅
annacondom · 02/09/2021 21:51

I haven't rtft but I, as a veggie, could not enjoy my nice relaxing massage if there was the smell of cooking steak wafting through the house. Also, the set up with money between the two of you seems very odd.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 02/09/2021 21:52

If I was a masseuse and a couple suggested I enjoy a steak dinner with them along with their massage treatment I would be looking for pampas grass outside their house...

EyesOpening · 02/09/2021 21:52

[quote atleastthepoochlovesme]@GreyhoundG1rl fillet steak from the local butcher. Not sure where you get yours from but maybe you could recommend some cheaper London butchers?! Would be most grateful![/quote]
£40 a steak?? By "local butcher" do you mean Harrods? Or room service to your penthouse suite?