What would you think if a date called you cute and adorable?

[notthenever]

And you were 50?

Had a first date and he messaged me later to say this. Must admit my first thought was ' Jeez, I'm 50 and your equal. Stop describing me like I am five years old or a puppy. Don't patronise me, man.'
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But then I thought, 'Jeez, he's just trying to tell you he likes you. Lighten up'

So how would you react?

YABU - 'Jeez, he's just trying to tell you he likes you. Lighten up'
YANBU - Jeez, You're 50 and his equal, not five or a puppy. He'll patronise you.'.

(ps this is lighthearted!)

Though I am genuinely interested in people's thoughts!

I’d think… “ew….cheesy as fuck”.
I wouldn’t let it determine my whole view of him, but it would make me cringe.

Hopefully it’s just him trying too hard and he’s not actually that sickly with sentiments.

I’d assume there was a bunny next to me and he was addressing the bun.

I think kittens are cute and adorable but I've never wanted to have sex with one.

@TheLightSideOfTheMoon

I’d assume there was a bunny next to me and he was addressing the bun.

That made me laugh!

@VodkaSlimline

I think kittens are cute and adorable but I've never wanted to have sex with one.

That brought a little bit of sick into my mouth..

Has he met me? Would be my first thought, because...neither.

I'd assume the NHS had run out of white sticks.

@toconclude

Has he met me? Would be my first thought, because...neither.

I must admit I did think that. I had quite a rant about my favourite topic. I'm have pretty strong opinions. I've never seen myself as cute or adorable!

I would think he was talking about a Teddy bear or a puppy or even a cute toddler , it does not bode well .

Oh god. I bet he’s a ickle wickle baby talker and thanks you in a cute voice after sex

I would try to be fair and think he's just saying he likes me, but it would depend on how much else was on both the pro and con sides. I can live with adorable more easily than cute, and it's always possible I'd just burst out with, "Cute? Me? Are you sure?" or something equal disbelieving.

Eeeww

I’d think it was a line he had found successful in the past that couldn’t have been inspired by me.

Tell me I’m funny. Clever. Tbat my opinions are interesting. Say I have a lovely smile or sexy eyes.

Cute and adorable? No no no. At age 15 perhaps.

@Skysblue

I’d think it was a line he had found successful in the past that couldn’t have been inspired by me.

Tell me I’m funny. Clever. Tbat my opinions are interesting. Say I have a lovely smile or sexy eyes.

Cute and adorable? No no no. At age 15 perhaps.

Yes, its made me yearn for the guy I had a date with and who messaged me afterwards to tell me I was ' Beautiful, engaging and intelligent'. Proper grown up adjectives! Sadly practicalities meant it didn't work out with him.

That they were very perceptive

I wouldn't date him again. I assume you had a conversation? Is he one of the men who finds women's opinions "cute and adorable" but of little consequence? I'd wonder about that.

I had quite a rant about my favourite topic.

Being called cute after a rant would piss me right off. I would not be the woman for him.

I wouldn’t be able to think as I’d be distracted by the booming clang of my vadge slamming shut.

I think it's patronising after the age of 9.

It would be as offensive to me as saying ''I think you're good enough for me to date, but you'll never be my equal''

A 3yr old is 'cute' and 'adorable', a 50yr old woman could 'attractive' , 'intersesting' ,'intelligent' and 'fun'

His 1950's misoginy is showing IMO.

@MrsTerryPratchett

I had quite a rant about my favourite topic.

Being called cute after a rant would piss me right off. I would not be the woman for him.

Yes if this came in response to you stating strong opinions on a specific matter…then I would find it annoying and seriously question seeing him again.

If it were a generally comment I’d let him get away with being sickly once

@grapewine

I wouldn't date him again. I assume you had a conversation? Is he one of the men who finds women's opinions "cute and adorable" but of little consequence? I'd wonder about that.

Yes we did. I did most of the talking, he warned me before hand that he would probably be quite quiet as he is a bit shy at first. He did talk, but I don't feel I really got to know him. What he did say he seemed nice enough . At least it made a change from guys who just talk about themselves.

Is he one of the men who finds women's opinions "cute and adorable" but of little consequence? That is a possibility. I did once dump a guy after he was really offensive to me and I got angry and then he then told me I was sexy when I was angry. I told him that was really sexist and offensive and he looked completely taken aback and said 'Is it?!' I think he thought he was giving me a compliment.

Being called cute after a rant would piss me right off

No it wasn't after the rant. I agree, if he had said it after the rant he would off gone the way of the ' you are so sexy when you are angry' guy.

Maybe he thinks it’s what you want to hear? I would find it bizarre, not least because as well as being an adult woman I am tall and Amazonian and could wrestle 50% of men to the ground.