What would you think if a date called you cute and adorable?

[notthenever]

And you were 50?

Had a first date and he messaged me later to say this. Must admit my first thought was ' Jeez, I'm 50 and your equal. Stop describing me like I am five years old or a puppy. Don't patronise me, man.'
'

But then I thought, 'Jeez, he's just trying to tell you he likes you. Lighten up'

So how would you react?

YABU - 'Jeez, he's just trying to tell you he likes you. Lighten up'
YANBU - Jeez, You're 50 and his equal, not five or a puppy. He'll patronise you.'.

(ps this is lighthearted!)

he was trying to compliment you op, he didnt perhaps have the right words but it seems like he was trying

i dont think age is relevant, if you ask a 21 year old they would be entitled to be perturbed also

I'd assume he meant well and reserve judgement.

'Cute' does get used of men ("I met this really cute guy ...") so I don't see it as a sexist term. But I don't personally identify as cute.

'Adorable' is overused in 2021. I've heard it applied to clothes, furniture, all sorts of nonsense.

It's a crappy compliment, picking inappropriate popular terms perhaps due to lack of imagination or nerves?
Someone can't be adorable after one date.
Cute is infantilising.

My h was/is cute and adorable. When he's excited or bashful about something he has an adorable cute look on his face like he's 5 years old. I realise that sounds weird, and he hates it when I say he's cute, but he really is cute and adorable when he's excited.

Actually, he's getting a bit intense in his messages - he's clearly built me up in his head to some fantasy woman that I just am not. Its put me off.

Sounds like a form of love bombing. Ditch.

@notthenever

Actually, he's getting a bit intense in his messages - he's clearly built me up in his head to some fantasy woman that I just am not. Its put me off.

If you don't like it move on. A quick thanks but no thanks message and then block.

As for cute & adorable its up to you whether it bothers you. I'm older than you and my DH still tells me I'm cute sometimes (usually if I've got my hair in bunches - too short for a decent ponytail but still needs control at times).

Come on OP, share some examples of his messages!

Sounds like three strikes and out to me!

Cute? Nah.
I am however adorable, and I remind DP, my friends and my family of this often, when I sense they are unappreciative of me.😉

@Dozer

Come on OP, share some examples of his messages!

Sounds like three strikes and out to me!

Oh, it's stuff like how lucky he feels to have met me and he just knows that we are going to work out and how lovely I am and how he wants to gaze into my wondrous eyes. There's just a lot of stuff like that which is just too much for someone you've only met once. And he was quite quiet so I don't feel I really know him at all. It just doesn't feel comfortable.

Those messages sound a bit desperate.

Those messages are too much. I'd be put off by that.

Urgh!

Yes, three strikes. Avoid!

@notthenever, those messages, red flag stuff...