What would you think if a date called you cute and adorable?

[notthenever]

And you were 50?

Had a first date and he messaged me later to say this. Must admit my first thought was ' Jeez, I'm 50 and your equal. Stop describing me like I am five years old or a puppy. Don't patronise me, man.'
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But then I thought, 'Jeez, he's just trying to tell you he likes you. Lighten up'

So how would you react?

YABU - 'Jeez, he's just trying to tell you he likes you. Lighten up'
YANBU - Jeez, You're 50 and his equal, not five or a puppy. He'll patronise you.'.

(ps this is lighthearted!)

He'd say 'you just look sooooo cute when you're trying to talk all serious.'*

Oh. my. God. There would be no second date if he had done that! That's taking it up a level!

Makes me wanna vom.

I’m only 25, 5ft and quite ‘young looking’ so I often get “aw you’re cute”

Makes me want to boot them in the shin.

YANBU! I get this - I’m small - and it’s so annoying being told you are cute, sweet, adorable. So patronising. I also remember a new boyfriend saying he couldn’t wait to “show me off” like I was a pet poodle ffs

Well, I am cute and adorable.

He thinks you're nice.

It's a first date what would you suggest he say, nothing - just walk away, 'you have some interesting views on the latest cosmological theories', 'I'm not sure I agree with your views on the potential for deep sea exploration'?

For some people 'cute and adorable' is just a description, a way to say he finds you attractive, likeable.

If the way he talks bothers you walk away now. Perhaps he'll have more to say but then you'll always know he thinks your 'cute'. Find someone who doesn't think you're cute.

@BigFatLiar

He thinks you're nice.

It's a first date what would you suggest he say, nothing - just walk away, 'you have some interesting views on the latest cosmological theories', 'I'm not sure I agree with your views on the potential for deep sea exploration'?

For some people 'cute and adorable' is just a description, a way to say he finds you attractive, likeable.

If the way he talks bothers you walk away now. Perhaps he'll have more to say but then you'll always know he thinks your 'cute'. Find someone who doesn't think you're cute.

Its amazing that no matter how lightheartedly you try to write an OP, even if you explicitly say 'lighthearted', some people still manage to answer aggressively and try to make out your a dick.

As for what do you suggest he said, well lots of people on the thread, including me, have given suggestions. The common theme in their suggestions were that they were all adjectives commonly used to describe adults but not small children and animals.

I'd think that he needed to go to SpecSavers.

‘Warning’ you beforehand that he’d be quiet on a date - ew.

The messages afterwards - ew.

That’s two strikes!

Unless you find him very physically attractive indeed wouldn’t bother with a 2nd date.

If I was called cute and adorable on the first date, I'm also in my 50's, I'd think, he'll learn. Cute and adorable I'm not.

Are women allowed any taste? Because some women appear to think other women should just be grateful for any male attention. It's depressing.

Low standards lead to unhappy relationships. High standards it's a toss up between a good relationship and no relationship. I prefer the latter.

The fanny gallops would need to be strong to overcome the full body cringe that message would induce!

@notthenever I'd think he'd need a trip to Specsavers to describe a 50 year old woman like that... it sounds a little inappropriate tbh

Id think he thought i was very easily won over by a very simple man with a simple patter. Im not.
Adorable sounds like he thinks he's smarter and that YOU are the simple soul!

Im 50 too @notthenever
Im not even flattered by people saying i dont look 50. I get annoyed by that. Would they say that to a man? Is it so bad to be 50? Look 50? And if i dont look 50 yet i will soon, in a year? So the "horror" of looking 50 is going to come my way v soon.

I know that I'm cute and adorable so I couldn't blame the guy for his honesty.

@ConstanceMarkievicz Would they say that to a man?
Yes?! This is a compliment that is very often given to both men and women..not really sure why you think that wouldn't be said to both a man and a woman tbh.

Exactly the same as you. I'm 53. I've been neither cute nor adorable since I was about 25.

My first thought when I read your title was "eugh, I'm not a small furry animal" so I'm with you OP. Makes me feel ill.

I would think that's a cute and adorable thing that say tbh

Ah if you like him just forget it!😀

I'd struggle with this - though he might find you funny in a good way. Also are you a petite girly type, like Kyle? I might forgive it if I was - he might be referring to your appearance. He's already suggested he is socially awkward, he might just struggle at first to say the right thing in a text. I suppose I'd give him a few more chances if face to face things go well. Despite your rant you might have been flirty and funny at times too?

@FolornLawn

I wouldn’t be able to think as I’d be distracted by the booming clang of my vadge slamming shut.

This. If you are contemplating another date, try patting him on the head and telling him he’s ‘cute’.

I think benefit of the doubt. You are not going for a job interview in which would be really inappropriate.
Sounds like someone to snuggle up on the sofa with rather than have hot sex with though.

If you do see him again, next time he says something serious call him cute and adorable. His reaction may be telling.

Yeah, the word cute is just bleurgh. Adorable if be like because it is too strong for someone you just met.

I'd be judging him certainly and wary he had generally patronising views of women.

As you said he's quiet and shy, I would imagine it was just his awkward way of paying you a compliment.
See how he conducts himself on the second date and go from there!