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Is anyone here on Only Fans?

432 replies

MissGendered · 21/05/2021 11:19

Or do you know someone that is? I'm curious how many real life people are actually on it.

I'm not a journo, the Daily mail is a shit rag.

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wildeverose · 21/05/2021 13:13

@edwinbear

No, and I wouldn’t knowingly be friends with someone who was an amateur porn star. Not my thing at all.
Well you sound lovely 😂
Oysterbabe · 21/05/2021 13:13

My friend has an amazon wishlist linked to her account so gets a constant stream of gifts to her house. A lot of it is underwear and sex toys but high value electronics and anything she adds too.

Bourbonic · 21/05/2021 13:15

I know a few people who do it. The general consensus is that you have to be very active and constantly chatting to make any sort of half decent money from it unless you already have a fairly big presence.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 21/05/2021 13:16

@IJustWantSomeBees

Forgot to add: no sick leave, no maternity leave, no job security, etc.
That's sounds like self employment actually 🙈
MissGendered · 21/05/2021 13:17

@Ireallydontknowimtired Fair enough! 😂

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MissGendered · 21/05/2021 13:17

£3000 a month for farting? Where do I sign up?

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UhtredRagnarson · 21/05/2021 13:18

I don’t know if anyone that I know doing it.

Is it just porn? How much would someone pay to see videos of my leg hair? Someone must be into that.

IreallydontknowImtired · 21/05/2021 13:18

Had to ask someone because I don't really know what it is - have only heard the name and thought it was a new social media platform for young'uns. Their answer was "go search it up" with a sheepish grin.

Now I'm intrigued...

The comments here have opened my eyes a bit to what I can expect so dunno if I care to.

IJustWantSomeBees · 21/05/2021 13:19

@FireWafer

I think there are some really judgy comments on here. I know a couple of people who are on there and they make pretty good money. It is not porn at all. One is a single mum who is just desperately trying to provide for her children and works 2 other jobs as well as posting on there. I take my hat off to her! What she chooses to do behind closed doors and non of anyone elses business. If I didn't look like miss piggy I'd be up for it but alas I am chubby and fart too much!
What are they doing that isn't porn but is making them really good money? Genuinley curious.

And no one here is judgying women who are driven to sex work by circumstances. What some of us are doing, however, is critically discussing this new agenda of encouraging girls and women to do porn/only fans and branding it 'empowering'. Sex work/porn benefits men more than it will ever benefit women. It is an industry created by men for the benefit of men. The average girl/women on only fans makes about £200 a month working full time.

edwinbear · 21/05/2021 13:20

@wildeverose I’m enormously concerned about the normalisation of young women being paid by men, to take their clothes off/perform sex acts on demand, for their titillation. If that makes me a nasty person, I’m OK with that.

RampantIvy · 21/05/2021 13:20

It is not porn at all.

It is. The girl that was in DD's year at school puts videos up of her having sex with her boyfriend. She also puts pornographic pictures of herself up on Twitter. Yes, unfortunately I have seen them, and wish I hadn't.

I believe she makes a lot of money and is always justifying why she does this.

SoMuchForSummerLove · 21/05/2021 13:21

@FireWafer

I think there are some really judgy comments on here. I know a couple of people who are on there and they make pretty good money. It is not porn at all. One is a single mum who is just desperately trying to provide for her children and works 2 other jobs as well as posting on there. I take my hat off to her! What she chooses to do behind closed doors and non of anyone elses business. If I didn't look like miss piggy I'd be up for it but alas I am chubby and fart too much!
What does she do @FireWafer ?
IJustWantSomeBees · 21/05/2021 13:24

[quote edwinbear]@wildeverose I’m enormously concerned about the normalisation of young women being paid by men, to take their clothes off/perform sex acts on demand, for their titillation. If that makes me a nasty person, I’m OK with that.[/quote]
And these days it's not just sex acts, but increasingly more violent and degrading sex acts. So many female porn stars have permanently prolapsyed rectums due to enduring constant, violent anal penetration.

MrsMackesy · 21/05/2021 13:26

[quote edwinbear]@wildeverose I’m enormously concerned about the normalisation of young women being paid by men, to take their clothes off/perform sex acts on demand, for their titillation. If that makes me a nasty person, I’m OK with that.[/quote]
Me too.

seeingdots · 21/05/2021 13:26

@IJustWantSomeBees
"This pushing and grooming of teenage girls and young women to become pornstars and do sex work is not for female benefit, it is for male benefit. Men are the House in this society and the House always wins"

100% WSS. It's all very well to say good on them making themselves some money but it all contributes to a pornified culture that is absolutely toxic for all girls and young women growing up in it.

mooongooose · 21/05/2021 13:27

And these days it's not just sex acts, but increasingly more violent and degrading sex acts. So many female porn stars have permanently prolapsyed rectums due to enduring constant, violent anal penetration.

Sure, but we're talking about only fans here not a sleazy porn set up. Every OF creator I have seen is solo female or a couple

Obviously people are against sexual violence. That's not an argument against independent creators though

covetingthepreciousthings · 21/05/2021 13:27

@therocinante

Not me but an old friend is. She's fully legit - pays all her taxes etc - and she's just bought a house outright. Fair play to her.
Is she on TikTok by any chance? There's always a woman who pops up on there who does OF who just bought a house outright in cash due to doing that, she's a single mum and must be earning a lot to be able to do that.

There's some really judgy comments on here.

MrsMackesy · 21/05/2021 13:34

[quote seeingdots]@IJustWantSomeBees
"This pushing and grooming of teenage girls and young women to become pornstars and do sex work is not for female benefit, it is for male benefit. Men are the House in this society and the House always wins"

100% WSS. It's all very well to say good on them making themselves some money but it all contributes to a pornified culture that is absolutely toxic for all girls and young women growing up in it. [/quote]
Also agreeing with Bee's posts.

It's toxic for all boys and impressionable young men growing up too, to think this is the norm and how you relate to women and girls.

OldkermitSippingtea · 21/05/2021 13:34

From Google: OnlyFans was founded by Timothy Stokely and is a website only with no official apps.

Of course it's Tim. Wonder what "need" he saw and came up with this idea of a porn site social content platform where you can share everything.Wink...

...and make money too...whoop whoop!

Never mind that he'll be a millionaire through it and have access to ALL DA PORN HE WANTS

I'm surprised it was founded in 2016. Only started hearing about it this year.

Notagain20 · 21/05/2021 13:35

@mooongooose

And these days it's not just sex acts, but increasingly more violent and degrading sex acts. So many female porn stars have permanently prolapsyed rectums due to enduring constant, violent anal penetration.

Sure, but we're talking about only fans here not a sleazy porn set up. Every OF creator I have seen is solo female or a couple

Obviously people are against sexual violence. That's not an argument against independent creators though

Can't understand how you can make a distinction between doing sex acts on camera at the request of a stranger on OF from any other porn set up? What makes one sleazy but not the other? They are both putting women at risk of exploitation, losing control of who sees their body, having strangers wanking over them, becoming alienated from their own bodies, strengthening the message that what gives men organisms is somehow empowering for women....
catgirl1976 · 21/05/2021 13:37

if I was it would be very niche.

If anyone wants to pay to see an overweight, frumpy 44 year old moan about how blood tired they are and when is it going to stop shagging raining and why can no one but me ever pick up after themselves then am open to it.

IJustWantSomeBees · 21/05/2021 13:38

@mooongooose

And these days it's not just sex acts, but increasingly more violent and degrading sex acts. So many female porn stars have permanently prolapsyed rectums due to enduring constant, violent anal penetration.

Sure, but we're talking about only fans here not a sleazy porn set up. Every OF creator I have seen is solo female or a couple

Obviously people are against sexual violence. That's not an argument against independent creators though

Men are the buyers, they are the ones who drive the content. Men are increasingly demanding more violent, degrading sex acts from pornstars. Sure, pornstars can say 'no', but then men will stop paying for their content. The only fans/porn market is so over-saturated that women are not able to control what is expected of them. If they say no to violently penetrating their anus with a huge dildo, literally thousands of other girls/women will be there to say 'yes' and do it, because they need the money. Like I said, men are the ones who control this industry, not women.

Yes, there are a minority of female pornstars who can walk away whenever they want, but they are not representative of the majority.

Notagain20 · 21/05/2021 13:38

I wonder how many cases of OF footage being used to threaten and manipulate women with the threat of exposure? The idea that putting out films of yourself doing sex acts is going to be treated with respect by "fans" is absurd

Notagain20 · 21/05/2021 13:40

@catgirl1976

if I was it would be very niche.

If anyone wants to pay to see an overweight, frumpy 44 year old moan about how blood tired they are and when is it going to stop shagging raining and why can no one but me ever pick up after themselves then am open to it.

I wouldnt pay but I'd join you, and maybe snd you some flowers to cheer us up
MrsMackesy · 21/05/2021 13:40

There is no distinction. OF is a sleazy porn set up.

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