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Is anyone here on Only Fans?

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MissGendered · 21/05/2021 11:19

Or do you know someone that is? I'm curious how many real life people are actually on it.

I'm not a journo, the Daily mail is a shit rag.

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MrsMackesy · 21/05/2021 14:09

@EmeraldShamrock

Well if they've got lots of handbags I guess it's worth it. And plastic surgery too. Great. I didn't say it was worth it at all. I've mentioned these young ladies on threads before they're exploited and have crossed a line into prostitution younger girls envy them it is a quick way out of poverty into glamour in their young eyes.
Yes, and in being exploited themselves they are also helping set up the next generation of the impressionable or vulnerable to be exploited. They might need to add rectal repair to their surgery list in future, very unfortunately.
Rube51 · 21/05/2021 14:12

A mum from my kids school is. She's quite open about it on social media. I don't think she does full nudes though or so she says... if that makes it any better. She's a nice woman! I try not to judge. She also turns up to school in very revealing clothes. She is really nice though, her kids are great too.

EmeraldShamrock · 21/05/2021 14:12

@StillWaters77 Once you start an OF the risk is there.
I've no doubt they've found themselves in very risky situations and there is no going back without their Internet life following them.

Oysterbabe · 21/05/2021 14:13

I don't think it's surprising that the average earnings are low. Most people probably sign up, try it a for a while in a half arsed way and quit. To make money you have to work hard. My friend is online constantly drumming up interest, posting new Instagram pics several times a day, spending hours private messaging the guys, keeping them interested. It's hard work but can pay well if you put the time in.
I wouldn't do it in a million years but it's working for her.

Swipeleftagain · 21/05/2021 14:13

They've been to Dubai, France, Spain currently living in Spain in a nice villa with lots of handbags, they've had hair extensions, breast augmented, bum lift.

God it's so depressing that this is what people aspire to. Coupled with the increase in violent exploitative porn and the impression of women it gives to young men what bloody hope is there for the next generation?

Notagain20 · 21/05/2021 14:14

@Rube51

A mum from my kids school is. She's quite open about it on social media. I don't think she does full nudes though or so she says... if that makes it any better. She's a nice woman! I try not to judge. She also turns up to school in very revealing clothes. She is really nice though, her kids are great too.
There's no reason to think she wouldn't be nice. But I think some people who do it are possibly very naive. And I feel for the kids.
Bourbonic · 21/05/2021 14:14

@mooongooose

And these days it's not just sex acts, but increasingly more violent and degrading sex acts. So many female porn stars have permanently prolapsyed rectums due to enduring constant, violent anal penetration.

Sure, but we're talking about only fans here not a sleazy porn set up. Every OF creator I have seen is solo female or a couple

Obviously people are against sexual violence. That's not an argument against independent creators though

And who are the customers?
MrsMackesy · 21/05/2021 14:14

Absolutely, Bees - I was also thinking of the abusive boyfriends, partners, husbands and family members.

Notagain20 · 21/05/2021 14:15

@Swipeleftagain

They've been to Dubai, France, Spain currently living in Spain in a nice villa with lots of handbags, they've had hair extensions, breast augmented, bum lift.

God it's so depressing that this is what people aspire to. Coupled with the increase in violent exploitative porn and the impression of women it gives to young men what bloody hope is there for the next generation?

Very little, sadly 😢
Rubyreddiamond · 21/05/2021 14:16

[quote seeingdots]@IJustWantSomeBees
"This pushing and grooming of teenage girls and young women to become pornstars and do sex work is not for female benefit, it is for male benefit. Men are the House in this society and the House always wins"

100% WSS. It's all very well to say good on them making themselves some money but it all contributes to a pornified culture that is absolutely toxic for all girls and young women growing up in it. [/quote]
Totally agree. Get a proper job ladies and hold your heads up high

HollowTalk · 21/05/2021 14:16

@FireWafer

I think there are some really judgy comments on here. I know a couple of people who are on there and they make pretty good money. It is not porn at all. One is a single mum who is just desperately trying to provide for her children and works 2 other jobs as well as posting on there. I take my hat off to her! What she chooses to do behind closed doors and non of anyone elses business. If I didn't look like miss piggy I'd be up for it but alas I am chubby and fart too much!
What is it, if it's not porn?
Notagain20 · 21/05/2021 14:16

Interesting to pop over to Relationships where there are frequently threads about women discovering their husbands porn addiction.

sbhydrogen · 21/05/2021 14:16

@Notagain20 I know plenty of other similar sites that don't allow penetration, like Suicide Girls, which is soft-core. I don't use Only Fans myself, so I don't really know what kind of content is on there.

They're fine with the photos being online. They don't have kids, or wouldn't care if their employers knew. They're all in the artsy-nude category, so not anything awful. Any girls I know who have tired to lead double lives to cover up their 'secret online life' stopped doing so years ago, way before OF existed. The internet had forgotten them.

IJustWantSomeBees · 21/05/2021 14:19

@MrsMackesy

Absolutely, Bees - I was also thinking of the abusive boyfriends, partners, husbands and family members.
So true! There was a woman who's husband forced her to do only fans after he gambled away all of their savings. She had only given birth to their daughter 3 months prior. So upsetting, but on camera she was smiling away, because what choice did she have? She needed the money.
edwinbear · 21/05/2021 14:21

@Rube51 those poor kids though, when their friends find their mum's OF pictures online and start circulating them round school. DS (11) is mortified if I go out wearing a slightly short skirt, he'd die of shame if his mum was posting risque phots all over the net for all his mates and their dad's to perve over.

Tabitha005 · 21/05/2021 14:22

@IJustWantSomeBees

I completely agree (and, funnily enough, I REALLY want some bees, too!)

I'm fucking done with the mantra of 'sex work is work' and being expected to just accept the fact that, for some women, there isn't another option. Porn and prostitution and, for me, anything that involves women being sexualised for profit, is what keeps our sex forever seen as 'lesser' in ALL walks of life. The trickle-down effect of female subjugation affects all women - even if it's "only" being talked over by men in business or getting cat-called in the street - as opposed to being trafficked for prostitution or being raped in a conflict zone where sexual abuse of women is a weapon of war like any other.

I will never, ever accept that there can be any form of 'ethical' porn, either - all that crap about 'made by women, for women' is still pushing the commodification and monetisation of females.

I've never judged or blamed any woman for being involved in sex work, but I'll never agree that sex work is something I have to accept as a fact of life - immutable and ever-present.

Lala134 · 21/05/2021 14:26

no. Think it is horrible the way 'feminism' now means its encourgaed and accepted that selling your p to men is 'empowering'. makes me so sad that I have to bring up a daughter in this world, everything is so over sexualised music, advertising, even going on ASOS to buy clothes its like looking at soft porn some of the poses these over blown trout lips make. Money doesnt mean anything if you have no dignity or self respect and sorry but you lose that by selling your body and to call it empowering is just a joke and insulting to all of those hurt by the porn industry. Men must be laughing now they can get easy sex as women just giving it away as they are 'empowered' and they are all selling themslves for 10 quid online. how bleak.

Solasta · 21/05/2021 14:27

I know two people. One male one female.

sbhydrogen · 21/05/2021 14:27

Some people want to do it though, and that's totally their choice. I don't have a problem with that.

However, if you're doing it because you feel you have no other choice, then that is a massive problem.

risefromyourgrave · 21/05/2021 14:28

It’s just one more thing that teaches men that they can buy women which sets a dangerous precedent.

poweredbyplants · 21/05/2021 14:29

Used to be, not currently. Was really more of a hobby than something I was trying to make into a career, made a few hundred over a couple months and it was fun. Not really much else to say about it.

Novelusername · 21/05/2021 14:29

Some people want to do it though, and that's totally their choice. I don't have a problem with that.
I have a problem with it, because through their own personal financial gain they're making life worse for all women, reinforcing the idea that women are objects to be bought and sold. I don't judge those who do it because they are desperate, though.

1forAll74 · 21/05/2021 14:30

I have never heard of it, but seems that lots of people now, can make money from all sorts of ridiculous and crappy stuff on social media.

It;s made me think of a tv documentary a couple of years ago, kind of sex based,They were showing a couple of women . both youngish, and very very obese, and they set up a site,where they had a kind of rubber paddling pool in the room,no water, but the were seen shopping for large balloons, and then they put on some sexyish clothes, and the idea,was to just sit,and jump up and down, on top of the balloons, and burst them all,for the pleasure of some men watching on the net,They said it was quite a lucrative little business, especially men tuningin from the USA, HA HA,

LostInTheLingerieSection · 21/05/2021 14:30

It's sad that this pornification culture is so endemic and is accepted or even celebrated by so many.

The purchase (usually by men) of the sexual services of strangers (usually women) should not be normalised.

The constant accessing of hard core pornography should not be normalised.

I'm so sick of it and hate the thought of my children growing up with these warped ideas of sex permeating everything.

1forAll74 · 21/05/2021 14:31

tuning in,