Lodger eating my food

[Confusedashell12]

My lodger has admitted to eating food out of my pan - leftovers from what I cooked, that I went back and put into a container to eat the next day. I must have been gone for no more than 20 mins. She claims to have had one spoon.

I find this utterly repulsive. AIBU?

They should not have it but you are going a bit over the top. Have they apologised and said they won't do it again?

This is the latest in a series of strikingly similar threads... Sure you've not posted this before OP?

Lockheart nope first time for me

How is it repulsive?

When I'm cooking anyone available is usualy forced to sample a spoonful for taste (my seasoning tastes are bit different than most)

caringcarer I was so surprised I didn’t say anything

It’s a hygiene thing

Repulsive is a bit strong isn't it. They tried a spoonful of your leftover dinner, it's hardly a major crime. It would have been more polite to ask if they could have a bit but it's certainly not something I'd be able to invest any feelings in.

sinful8 because I don’t believe it was just one spoon and she isn’t the most hygienic person

In fact I developed a bad tummy ache soon after I had the left overs - and I never, ever get bad tummy aches

Get rid of her. That's disgusting and thievery. She can buy her own damn food.

What Halfshrunkmoretogo said

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caringcarer I was so surprised I didn’t say anything

It’s a hygiene thing

Because you keep your spoons dirty?

Sounds like you don't like or trust her much so probably time to give her notice.

Sinful8 certainly not - I’m not the one with hygiene problems

How long has she been staying with you OP? Is it your home?

I’d ask her not to take your food. It isn’t appropriate. Equally, stick leftovers in a container and seal it.

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sinful8 because I don’t believe it was just one spoon and she isn’t the most hygienic person

In fact I developed a bad tummy ache soon after I had the left overs - and I never, ever get bad tummy aches

if you find it so repulsive that she used a spoon to try your food, are you sure that having a lodger is really for you...?

Vivenne yes my home. Took her in as I don’t have great job security at the mo. She’s been here just over a year. She’s broken so much too, pays to get things fixed, it’s just tiring. Bull in a China shop.

I think to be repulsed by someone trying a spoonful of your leftover food is a bit odd. And suggests that having a lodger is not right for you.

CyberNan I don’t provide food as part of the lodger agreement. I’ve never commented when she’s taken tinned food as I’m not fussed over a few quid here and there.

If you want to feign food poisoning then you should be aware the symptoms don't come on that rapidly.

I bet she double dipped. Yum.

Get rid of her, op. She clearly does not respect you, your home, or boundaries.

SonjaMorgan it wasn’t food poisoning

Are you teeny tiny?

Yeah I think the time has come Aquamarine1029