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Gardeniaofdelights is wrong about the pen name being homophobic. And the rest of it too.
OP, if you want clarity, it's this. Terms like 'woman' are used to refer to both gender and sex. Gender is a load of nonsense, so if you're a biological male who wants to be feminine, you go right ahead. People should be safe to perform gender in whatever way they want. I believe in respecting people's chosen names and pronouns etc.
However, 'woman' also refers to sex, and this is where the problem is. Where spaces are segregated by sex, it matters. You cannot substitute gender here. It makes prisons unsafe for women. It makes sports competitions unfair for women. It makes a difference. Women need to be allowed access to a female dr for example, not a man performing gender as a woman.
What has happened is a move to completely disregard all of these concerns and issues, in order to legitimise people's chosen gender presentation.
There are no clear answers/solutions, and both sides need to be heard and accommodated. JKR has forced a conversation out in the open where previously none was allowed, and the full scale abuse she has faced is perhaps a clue that not all is well.
I don't believe JKR is hateful or transphobic, and a lot of what she is concerned about is currently being proven right in court (OP, read up on Keira Bell). I wish for all trans people to feel safe and valued, to have access to the healthcare they need and equal opportunities. But how this can be achieved requires a nuanced debate.
Others may argue such a debate is unacceptable and implies trans people's rights are somehow open to debate. I don't believe this is the case at all, but I don't know how we'll ever move forward if we can't talk about concerns from both sides.